The Industry of Marrying Europeans by Vu Trong Phung (translated by Thuy Tranviet) began with a puzzling scene in a courtroom in the 1930’s where a native Vietnamese woman declared that her occupation was marrying an assistant representative and then a captain. When asked to clarify she said her profession was marrying Europeans. The part that stuck with me was how the word Europeans was plural, meaning she admitted so publically that she had had multiple marriages with multiple different men but she was only twenty-five years old. Her admission also implied a different kind of marriage than the average person’s – her marriages were for profit and gain but were temporary positions. Similar to how a person would move from a lesser-paying job to a better-paying …show more content…
Domestic abuse was already an issue in conventional families, but in these unsolidified relationships, the wives might have become trapped in abusive marriages because they were solely dependent on their husbands for financial assistance and may not have been physically able to leave. These women may have gained freedom in choosing their partners, but their choice could have proved to be limiting when they became stuck in abusive relationships they cannot leave for financial or health concerns. Vu Trong Phung met one couple that demonstrated the trouble of women expressing their power of leaving and how their husbands often reacted to that power, “[Wife: Go away! And right now!]… Slap! The slap terminated those screams and yells. It also ended the threats,” (Vu Trung Phung, 33). Though the wife tried exercising her right to end the relationship, she was trapped in a relationship that she did not want instead of being free to continue picking new husbands. However, even in traditional marriages, there was a possibility of domestic abuse and even less of an opportunity to leave since the marriage was legally
Today 's generation have changed many ways since the beginning of the century. In “The American Family”, Stephanie Coontz discusses many situations that has occurred during the beginning of the 21st century and suggested solutions to solve those issues in the future. For instance, she argued that women are being treated unfairly, family are not discussing their problems openly, and institutions need to change to fit the families’ requirement. In “Complexity of Family Life among the Low-Income and Working Poor” Patricia Hyjer Dyk, argued that women still doesn’t have enough choices, low income families doesn’t have enough jobs, and Government are not helping many families. Dyk’s review of the scholarly research on low-income families support Coontz’ evaluations of the problems faced by 21st century families and the solutions Coontz recommends, like improving women 's lifestyle, discussing problems openly, improving institutions and changing institutions so it can to fit to fulfil families need. .
It’s not easy to build an ideal family. In the article “The American Family” by Stephanie Coontz, she argued that during this century families succeed more when they discuss problems openly, and when social institutions are flexible in meeting families’ needs. When women have more choices to make their own decisions. She also argued that to have an ideal family women can expect a lot from men especially when it comes to his involvement in the house. Raymond Carver, the author of “Where He Was: Memories of My Father”, argued how his upbringing and lack of social institutions prevented him from building an ideal family. He showed the readers that his mother hide all the problems instead of solving them. She also didn’t have any choice but to stay with his drunk father, who was barely involved in the house. Carvers’ memoir is relevant to Coontz argument about what is needed to have an ideal family.
The problems caused by domestic violence become more and more serious across the time. Compare with the incidents like car accidents and rape, there are more women getting hurt because of domestic violence. Many researches were carried out to understand men's domestic violence and some of the researchers suggested that the perpetrators of the domestic violence, abuse their partner due to their experience of rejection and shame. Thus, a rejection-abuse cycle existed (Brown, James, & Taylor, 2010). There are four steps in the cycle, which the sense of rejection of man make up a threat to self, leading to a defend against this threat and then results in abusive behaviour.
In the novel, Typical American, by Gish Jen, the life of Ralph Chang's journey in America is cleverly unveiled. Jen focuses the story around Ralph's trials and tribulations as an foreigner living in America. At the beginning of Typical American, Ralph's character is shown about what he thinks about America. It is shown that he does not really respect America's beauty. "... famous mountains lumbered by, famous rivers, plains, canyons, the whole American spectacle, without his looking up once" (7). However, he realizes that America can bring new opportunity for himself. He wanted to become successful just like his father. He wanted to prove to his father that he also can become a scholar just like him. He wanted to pursue the "American dream", the idea that America can offer the lifestyle that is desired by many immigrants. When Ralph and his wife visits America, they tried to stay as close as possible to their Chinese roots. They did not want to be the "typical Americans" that they hated. Ironically, they slowly become the typical Americans that they wanted to avoid. In the novel, Jen shows how Ralph and Helen transformed from their Chinese culture to the new typical American lifestyle.
When an immigrant from a foreign land comes to America, immigrants hope to fulfill their golden dreams in the land of the free; however, as they quickly learn shortly after they arrive in America, their new lives are filled with hardships and disillusions. A picture bride, who arrives in America with a dream of living with a wealthy, successful, and handsome young man, is frequently disappointed to discover the realities such as the appearance and lifestyle of her future husband. When Hana first meets Taro, she discovers that “[Taro] no longer resemble[s] the early photo [his] parents sent [Hana]…he was already turning bald” (Uchida, 12). This shock of reality is not uncommon to picture brides, in fact, “many men in America send pictures to picture brides of themselves from when they were ten to twenty years younger…next to a beautiful car—owned by their boss” (Bunting, 1). Picture brides and immigrants arrive in America filled with hopes for a better life for themselves and their children and a wonderful new life in America. The shock and dissatisfaction immigrants and picture brides experience when they first arrive in America greatly contribute to their change in attitude from an optimistic mindset to a cowardly, hesitant behavior. Furthermore, picture brides quickly discover that their husbands were not wealthy business owners, as the men claimed in their letters, but their husbands were rather poor men, trying to scrape a living, and this reality check contributes further to immigrants’ hopeless outlook to their new life. Hana is stunne...
Life is filled with many difficulties which affect us all in one way or another. However, we do not all face the same difficulties. If we are to survive we need to first understand what these difficulties or problems are, in order to learn how to deal with them. One such problem is, is domestic violence. It is necessary to determine whether the problem is personal one or due to society (social problems), so that the individuals involved can learn how to deal with their situation.
In this paper I will be sharing information I had gathered involving two students that were interviewed regarding education and their racial status of being an Asian-American. I will examine these subjects’ experiences as an Asian-American through the education they had experienced throughout their entire lives. I will also be relating and analyzing their experiences through the various concepts we had learned and discussed in class so far. Both of these individuals have experiences regarding their education that have similarities and differences.
Domestic violence was a term generally used by Peled & Edleson (1999) when discussing underutilized counseling services for children (Peled & Edleson, 1999). Also, Cole & Caron (2010) referred to domestic violence, when discussing Child Protective Services cases and the reunification process amongst families (Cole & Caron, 2010). On the other hand, Abrahams & Jewkes (2005) used the term violence or abuse at home, when conducting a study amongst South African men (Abrahams & Jewkes, 2005). Kerley et al. (2010), used the term family violence in their study about Thai women (Kerley et al., 2010).
In this age a new dark plague is taking form in many areas around the world. Domestic violence is a social problem, which will continue to expand if the collective consciousness of individual societies does not rise. The continuous irrational behaviors are considered to be a epidemic by most. Inner cities and even suburb areas endure constant acts of violence throughout each year. The acts of violence are defined as emotionally controlling another individual or partner. The acts are narrowed down to physical assaults, stalking and sexual assault. Researchers in the past and present examined the violence women endure on a yearly cycle. Approximately one out every four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.(2009) Certain situations in a women’s life will cause unexpected situations to arise. The women must adapt instantly and find a solution to the current problem. Major cities all across America undergo the horrors of domestic violence. Los Angeles is a prime example of a city being devastated by domestic violence.
Schoenberg Nara, A surprising new look at arranged marriages, August 22, 2012, Tribune Newspapers, retrieved from: http://articles.chicagotribune.com
Domestic violence is a serious issue that negatively impacts women in our society. “Domestic abuse is a violent confrontation between family or household members involving physical harm, sexual assault, or fear of physical harm” (Domestic Violence). Although domestic violence can impact men as well, this type of abuse seems to be more prevalent among women. This abuse destroys families and can even lead to death in some cases. Even though there has been improvement in spreading awareness about this social injustice, much more work must be done to put an end to domestic violence to protect families around the world.
Domestic violence is a devastating social problem that impacts every sector of our population. Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner(USDOJ,2012). Domestic violence can be physical, economic, emotional, sexual, or psychological. Physical domestic violence is an attempt to impose physical injury such as grabbing, slapping, hitting, biting, etc. Physical violence can also be withholding necessary resources to sustain health such as medication, food, sleep, or forcing alcohol or other drug use. Economic abuse is an attempt to make the victim financially dependent. Such as sustaining control over financial resources including the victims earned income, forbidding employment, on the job harassment, or withholding information about family expenses. Emotional abuse can be the attempt to undermine the victims self worth. This could be belittling the victim, name calling, insults, criticism, manipulating, etc. Sexual abuse is any sexual contact without consent. For example, marital rape, attacks on sexual parts of the body, forced sex, forced prostitution. Sexual abuse can also be an attempt to undermine the victims sexuality by treating them in a derogatory manner, criticizing sexual performance, or withholding sex. Psychological abuse is the attempt to implant fear. This could involve intimidation, threats of physical harm, harassment, mind games, and stalking. Psychological abuse can also be an attempt to isolate victim from friends and family member. Abusers can go so far as withholding access to a telephone, transportation, constant check ups, forced imprisonment, and undermining personal relationships. Dome...
As professional athletes remind us on a weekly basis, domestic violence is a social problem which continues to plague the nation. Through stricter law enforcement, improved hospital reporting techniques, and nationwide education and counseling, this problem can be reduced. Domestic violence has many different names such as, family violence, battering, wife beating, and domestic abuse. All these terms refer to the same thing, abuse by marital, common law, or a dating partner in an intimate relationship. Domestic violence is not limited to physical beating. It is any behavior that is intended to overpower and control another human being through the use of humiliation, fear, and physical or verbal assault. Domestic violence is a very important issue in today’s society because it has such a profound negative affect on the abused, mentally and physically. Verbal abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse. Verbal abuse is words that attack or injure an individual’s self-image, which eventually shatters one’s self-esteem. In this paper, I will discuss the many kinds of abuses against women, the reasons why women stay in these relationships, and possible solutions to diminish or reduce the problems of domestic violence.
“One woman is beaten by her husband or partner every 15 seconds in the United States” (Stewart & Croudep, 1998-2012). Domestic violence can interfere with the husband-wife relationship because one spouse is always in constant fear of the other. This violence could vary from physical abuse to ps...
Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior in any relationship to maintain power and control over an intimate partner. Is domestic violence abuse? Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions. Such as frightening, intimidation, terrorizing, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injuring or wounding someone. Domestic Violence affects millions of humans in the U.S. regardless of age, economic status, race, religion or education. Members of immigrant and populations are especially vulnerable. The law can help provide protection against this. There are some long term effects to domestic violence that have not begun to be fully documented. Weaken women who suffered from physical and mental problems as a result of domestic violence. Battering is the single major cause of injury to women, more significant that auto accidents, rapes, or muggings. The emotional and psychological abuses Force in to the minds of women by batterers are more costly to treat in the short-run than the physical injuries. Many physical injuries done to women seem to cause medical Conditions as the women grow older. Arthritis, hypertension and heart disease have been identified in battered women then directly caused or aggravated by domestic violence suffered early in their adult lives. From the one they feared most, their abuser the one who has to have control at all points in life doesn’t care about their spouse feelings or pe...