Identify And Explain The Difference Between Bond Between Parents And Children

In the modern day, it became normal to look at families and see both parents working, whereas in the past mothers stayed at home to look after their children. A decent lifestyle became too expensive and for that reason mothers opted to leave their children at home, sometimes they leave them unsupervised. Working mothers go through the trouble of trying to cope with their work and raising their children, which is a great responsibility. There are cases where mothers succeed in doing so, but their absence from the household affects their children. Discussing the topic of working mothers is sensitive because the results vary depending on a lot of factors, but there are some undeniable differences between children of an available mother and a non-available

“Attachment is one specific and circumscribed aspect of the relationship between a child and caregiver that is involved with making the child safe, secure and protected “, (National Center for Biotechnology Information, 2004). The article went on to explain the differences between an attachment and a bond between parents and their children. According to the article, a bond can be formed by spending some quality time with the child and used some examples like “…… a contented six-month-old infant being breastfed by their mother who is in a contented mood….,” to explain the different concepts. Bonding requires the parent to interact with the child in a pleasant way to strengthen their relationship whereas forming an attachment requires the full presence of a parent at all times, to pay all of their attention to their child and to be careful about what they say and what they do so that the child will feel secure to express himself in a better way. Attachments grow with the child, which means if a child does not grow up feeling secured under his parents’ wings, he will grow up hiding and disregarding his own feelings in front of them. If a mother is not available to respond to her child during the critical times when the attachment is formed, he will grow up feeling insecure and unable to express his feeling and thoughts

“...while self-care may reflect a step toward independence and autonomy for some children, it is often portrayed as a potentially dangerous arrangement for children that parents use as a last resort when they have no options for nonparental supervised care.” (Vandivere.et al, 2003), the paper also explains how “self-care” may negatively affect children in various aspects of their lives “…..social competence, behavior problems, and school performance are examined in relation to self-care…..” Children who are forced to care for themselves in an age in which they should be taken care of would suffer from the lack of supervision and guidance. Working mothers usually leave their children to take care of themselves, which lead the children to completely rely on their own -lacking- ability to solve their problems and sometimes that may lead to delinquency. “Studies show that children who receive adequate parental supervision are less likely to engage in criminal activities.” (World Youth Report 2003, 2004). Mothers are linked to raising and caring for their children, they are expected to be the main source of support for their