There is no one thing that makes for a good marriage; it is the semblance of marriage that makes people believe so. It is common for people to think marriage will be easy although it is constant work. Good marriages consist of communication, honesty, passion, intimacy and commitment. In the short story “The Girls in Their Summer Dresses” by Irwin Shaw, Michael and Frances’s relationship lacks these qualities, therefore their marriage was not great.
Most importantly, the husband and wife need to both want the relationship and the life long commitment. In “The Girls in Their Summer Dresses,” part of the reason Michael and Frances’s marriage is falling apart is because Michael clearly didn 't want to be married. As he responds to Frances when
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Passion is energy toward a relationship, or in the words of “Understanding Human Sexuality,” “Passion is a motivational component of love” (Hyde, Delamater 282). Passion includes physical attraction, the drive for sexual expression and physiological arousal. This can be interpreted simply as a more romantic form of lust. Passion is where the distinction is made between romantic love and love of a parent, child or best friend. Something to be aware of, is that unfortunately passion is something that quickly fades, when in a long term relationship or a marriage. Therefore, it is important to actively engage one another and try to keep the passion …show more content…
Be honest with your spouse from the beginning about whether you want to get married, unlike Michael, who just looked at other women his whole marriage and was not honest about his intentions. Then of course Michael lacked communication, as he did not care what came out of his mouth. Frances is a whole other story. After hearing Michael say, how sometimes he really wants to be free and that maybe one day he will make a move; she just tells him ‘“Stop talking about how pretty this woman is, or that one. Nice eyes, nice breasts, a pretty figure, good voice.... Keep it to yourself. I’m not interested”’ (Shaw 9) This is where her lack of commitment, honesty and communication shows, since she does not want to put effort into working on or dealing with the problems in her relationship. She is in denial about her relationship and its problems which shows a lack of honesty with herself. Most importantly, she does not care for communication, because as soon as Michael finally starts communicating she shuts him down. In summary, for a marriage to work it is necessary for the couple to have honesty, communication, commitment, passion and intimacy. Without all these qualities in balance with each other on both partners parts a marriage cannot
What is one’s idea of the perfect marriage? In Zora Neal Hurston’s Their Eyes Were Watching God, Janie has a total of three marriages and her best marriage was to Tea Cake. Janie’s worst and longest marriage was to Joe Starks where she lost her dream and was never happy. The key to a strong marriage is equality between each other because in Janie’s marriage to Joe she was not treated equally, lost apart of herself and was emotionally abused, but her and Tea Cake's marriage was based on equality and she was able to fully be herself.
Marriage is a commitment that couples vow to love each other, and committed during their toughest times. Chris Offutt, the author of the short story called "Aunt Granny Lith" explains the trials and choices in a marriage between the couple Beth and Casey. Three parts in marriage are vital: communication, trust in one another, and unconditional love. All three elements will lead to a successful marriage. Marriage is what you put into your relationship not what you can get out of it. It is a team effort. Couples shouldn 't give 50/50 they should give 100/100 effort into marriage. Offutt describes these three parts throughout the story.
Human beings are not isolated individuals. We do not wander through a landscape of trees and dunes alone, reveling in our own thoughts. Rather, we need relationships with other human beings to give us a sense of support and guidance. We are social beings, who need talk and company almost as much as we need food and sleep. We need others so much, that we have developed a custom that will insure company: marriage. Marriage assures each of us of company and association, even if it is not always positive and helpful. Unfortunately, the great majority of marriages are not paragons of support. Instead, they hold danger and barbs for both members. Only the best marriages improve both partners. So when we look at all three of Janie’s marriages, only her marriage to Teacake shows the support, guidance, and love.
Brockmeier’s short story represents a damaged marriage between a husband and a wife simply due to a different set of values and interests. Brockmeier reveals that there is a limit to love; husbands and wives will only go so far to continually show love for each other. Furthermore, he reveals that love can change as everything in this ever changing world does. More importantly, Brockmeier exposes the harshness and truth behind marriage and the detrimental effects on the people in the family that are involved. In the end, loving people forever seems too good to be true as affairs and divorces continually occur in the lives of numerous couples in society. However, Brockmeier encourages couples to face problems head on and to keep moving forward in a relationship. In the end, marriage is not a necessity needed to live life fully.
In the book "The Norton Anthology of short fiction" by Richard Bausch and R.V Cassill you can find a varieties of writes with different way of writings. There are some stories which the protagonist are involved in marriages and are addressed in different ways. In some cases these marriages ends correctly with happiness and love. Even though some of them don't end correctly, we can learn from them and avoid to happen something similar to all of us as a readers.
Research of literature depends on the theory or topic one is researching. Research uncovers what the author knows about his or her discipline and its practices. Augustus Napier is a family therapist with vast experience in family therapeutic processes and experiential therapy with couples. In my research of his background, I reviewed his book “The Family Crucible.” In this text, Dr. Napier chronicles the therapeutic process of one fictitious family (which is a composite of real cases) experiencing marital discord. In reviewing the case studies in this book, I gained insight into his style of the therapeutic process, which exposed Dr. Napier’s framework which leads to his assumptions about marriage. The details of this case study coupled with Dr. Napier’s added paragraphs and chapters of analyses with his conclusions on the maladaptive reasons people marry other people make this resource of great qualitative value. Additionally, useful evaluative data revealing a deeper insight into Dr. Napier’s position on irreconcilable differences can be fo...
A History of Marriage by Stephanie Coontz speaks of the recent idealization of marriage based solely on love. Coontz doesn’t defame love, but touches on the many profound aspects that have created and bonded marriages through time. While love is still a large aspect Coontz wants us to see that a marriage needs more solid and less fickle aspects than just love.
According to recent statistics, there are more divorces now than ever before. At the rate things are going, the divorce rate may soon surpass the marriage rate. There are many reasons for such a high divorce rate, but one of the main ones is that people do not realize what they are getting themselves into when they marry. Couples do not realize that marriage is a job that must be worked at continuously in order for it to go well. Because many couples marry for the wrong reasons, a breakdown in communication results, which leads to a couple's growing apart. This process, all too often, ends in divorce.
A wise man once said “Man is only great when he acts from passion.” When you hear the word passion, the first thing that might come to your mind is something related to love, and you’re not entirely wrong. According to Merriam- Webster’s dictionary, passion is defined as a strong feeling of enthusiasm or excitement for something or about doing something or a strong feeling (such as anger) that causes you to act in a dangerous way. All in all, it is a strong feeling, be it happiness, sadness, anger or liberality. You can be passionate about many things such as love, sports, food, or intimacy. However, it can also mean having a strong yearning for something.
Right from the first day of marriage Marie did not adjust well with her husband since both of them were entirely different personalities and she was definitely not ready for marriage since she was a young girl who wanted to enjoy life. She wrote several letters to her mother expressing her unhappiness. Also being a very young girl she did not have the patience or interest in taking part in lengthy rituals which she was asked to perform.
Marriage is a very joyful event in a person’s life. However, unless much can be done in order to redefine the status of what marriage is all about, divorce and other marital problems will continue to arise tremendously. Divorce is tumultuous event in a married couple’s life. It does not only affect the financial status of the household, but rather it also affects the people that comprises the family especially the children. Families are experiencing many problems today, but the role of divorce in this picture has been frequently overlooked because its destructive effects have been subtle, yet insidious. When the divorce rate increased in the 1960s, few would have predicted its dire consequences three decades later. Yet divorce has changed both the structure and the impact of the family. Intimacy, time, effort trust and love is the key to have a peaceful and healthy relationship. Marriage for life is God's ideal, but divorce is a reality in our society.
The first marriage that we encounter in the book is that of Mr. and Mrs. Bennet. The Bennets are not well matched at all in character or social background. Mr. Bennet is intelligent, and a “gentleman”, while Mrs. Bennet had little money and much “lower social connections” before their marriage. Their union was based on an initial physical attraction-Mr. Bennet found Mrs. Bennet to be beautiful, and Mrs. Bennet wanted the economic and social status that this marriage would provide her with. However, a marriage that is based on this kind of superficial attachment is doomed to failure, because as the years go on and the beauty fades Mr. Bennet is left living with a woman whom he absolutely does not respect at all.
In Pride and Prejudice, Jane Austen shows examples of how most marriages were not always for love but more as a formal agreement arranged by the two families. Marriage was seen a holy matrimony for two people but living happil...
Since the creation of mankind, humans all over the world have fallen in love and believe that they have found “the one.” People get married and realize that it is not always “happily ever after.” A large percentage of couples are unable to maintain their relationship, because of this, they choose divorce. Many spouses, believe that this is the best solution to deal with problems between each other. However, many people think carefully before getting entangled into marriage. Nevertheless, divorce rates still continue to increase to this very day. It certainly looks as if divorces occur more now than they did 20 years ago. There are three causes of divorce: changing of a woman’s household status, financial situations, and lack of communication.
I believe a couple doesn’t want to see their marriage down the drain; yet, sometimes, they think that divorce is their only outlet. Actually, “divorce may provide relief from the strain of a loveless or abusive relationship” (Divorce, par. 1). When you meet the girl of your life or the man of your dreams, and you fall in love with them, you probably feel like you’re a prince or a princess in a fairytale love story. One of the unfavorable habits of today’s couples is that from the moment they met their significant other, they become obsessed (and possessive, to some extent) with each other. S/he will do anything not to lose his/her lover – even getting married, without knowing what they’re going to get themselves into. When couples are in a hurry to get...