The Female Shame Analysis

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The Female Shame
At the beginning of my 8th grade year, when it was still very hot out, I wore a pair of shorts to school. The shorts were past my fingertips, which is what the dress code required. Yet, as I left the cafeteria to go back to class, the lunch aide called me out to stand against the wall with a group of girls. We were all marched to the office to have our shorts scrutinized by the principle. I stood in line watching girls call home to have new clothes brought to them, or sent back to class as their shorts were approved, I was a bewildered and appalled. I knew my shorts were long enough. After the principle examined, and of course approved me, I trudged off to class 20 minutes late. Is it right girls have to miss learning time …show more content…

She created a documentary titled Shame: A Documentary on School Dress Code. In this documentary she interviewed students and the principle on their thoughts on the dress codes. The students discussed how sexist and inconsistent the code was. One student shared a story of how she was forced to change out of a shirt she had worn many times before, without a problem, then it randomly wasn’t acceptable due to a little of her collarbone being shown. After Maggie released the documentary and it got so much attention she decided to present a new dress code to the staff and parents, which was adopted by the school. The code was all about measurable lengths, tank top straps being at least three fingers wide, which was an improvement from the pervious dress code where girl’s shoulders were not even allowed to be …show more content…

Anne K. Ream, an advocate for women’s issues says, “It’s not a lack of female modesty but a sense of male entitlement that leads to sexual violence. And the idea that we women can change men’s behavior by changing our clothes is not only disconcerting, it has been debunked. As millions of women know all too well, no one ever avoided a rape by wearing a longer skirt”. The dress codes and sexual education in schools is what leads to the negative thinking. It doesn’t matter if a girl is wearing a short skirt or has had sex before, she shouldn’t be seen as a slut, and if she says no to any sexual advances, it means

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