Summary Of Stone Soup By Barbara Kingsolver

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Divorce leads to happiness. As odd as divorce leading to happiness may sound, it contains truth. “Stone Soup”, written by Barbara Kingsolver, contains her personal experience with divorce, and the effects divorce had on her family. Kingsolver uses personal experience, to demonstrate that divorce frees the families from bondage. The best way to teach others how divorce, in certain relationships, frees the families from bondage is by using personal experience because individuals who have experienced divorce find it easier to explain the facts of a divorce. From childhood, many parents teach their children that divorce is wrong and that there becomes a way to fix the circumstances. At a young age, Kingsolver inherited a definition of divorce …show more content…

Divorce becomes unpleasing, but also the best option for the family. Kingsolver claims, “Disassembling a marriage in these circumstances is as much fun as amputating your own gangrenous leg. You do it if you can, to save a life-or two, or more.” (Kingsolver, 2014, p. 222). The majority of the time divorce takes place, it becomes a necessary break. Kingsolver describes divorce as amputating a gangrenous leg. The leg, if left intact, will slowly shut down the body. A family is considered a body, and each member of the family has responsibilities, such as the body. When a certain part of the body destroys the other parts, elimination rolls into effect to save the remaining family body. Not only does divorce lead to a broken bond in the spouses, it also leads to broken friendships. Rather than being shunned, divorced families should receive love. Kingsolver claims, “In the wake of my divorce, some friends (even a few close ones) chose to vanish.” (Kingsolver, 2014, p. ?). Kingsolver during, and after her divorce, lost many of what she believed were her best friends. Sadly, some friends decide to leave during a time when friends should be near; divorce, especially during the beginning, hurts. Why would anyone want to receive the outcomes of divorce, such as losing friends, and family? Divorce becomes necessary. Anyone, in his or her right mind, would only go …show more content…

Life has plenty of harsher circumstance where attention should be focused on. Not all that comes out of divorce hurts. Of course, divorce is no fun at times, but once families settle, the freedom of the family allows for a peaceful home. When Kingsolver’s daughters friends tell her they are sorry that she is a part of a divorced family, she replies with a giddy answer, “Our house is in the country, and we have a dog, but she can go to her dad’s neighborhood for the urban thrills of a pool and sidewalks for roller-skating. What’s more she has three sets of grandparents!” (Kingsolver, 2014, p. ?). What better than to have two homes, to live in the country, and have three sets of grandparents? Children of divorce, along with the parents, face hardship, but once freed from the bondage of marriage, separation allows the children to mature in a safe environment, and to enjoy both sides of the family. Sadly, divorce rates have grown in the past decade, but the families are finding opportunities to make the best for their children and themselves. Should the attention then be focused on something with a need of help? Yes. Kingsolver claims, “The number of children in the U.S. living in poverty at this moment is almost unfathomably large: twenty percent.” (Kingsolver, 2014, p. ?). If the

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