Sex Before Marriage In Dr. Miller's Song Of Solomon

I believe that this book of Solomon speaks very much to the culture of American Christians in general. We are saturated in the American culture that glorifies sex. Sexual innuendos are in every pop song, TV show, movie, and magazine. Unfortunately many American Christians believe that it is okay to dabble in this culture.

At the beginning of Songs of Solomon, The Wife warns the Daughters of Judah to not arouse the kind of love she describes very graphically in SOS 2:7. In today’s Christian culture people are taught not to awaken love before marriage, yet sex before marriage is on the rise in the Christian community. I believe this is because those who live in this community try to test the limits and then when they have gone too far they are drowning in sexual desire for their partners rather than love. During the Song of Solomon lecture Dr. Miller explained that sex makes people crazy. Its uncontrollable nature is capable of fooling two people time incompatible people to believe that they are in love with one another.

Sex can blind people into getting married, but one day the blinders will be taken off and the married coup will realize that they do not know each other. Dr. Miller clarified that the reason sex is only you to be awaken inside a covenant marriage is because it due to the fact that sex is

incontrollable, much like a fire place in a house. The fireplace acts as a barrier to confine the fire so that it does not burn the house down, but is free to go out of control solely in the fire place.
I believe that a contributing factor to the rise in promiscuity among the church is due the lack of supervision and rules among many American Christian families.

The church needs to start implement SOS 8:8-9. In this part of the book the Daughters of Judah discuss how they will protect their younger sister. Based on what they have learned from the Wife of S.O.S. they determine that the best way to protect their sister is to encourage her if she chooses to protect sexual love and save it for her marriage, however if their sister chooses to flirt with every man and tries to awaken love before marriage they will stick by her side and guard her until she is

married.
Christian women today need to apply this knowledge today. In order for the rate of sexual promiscuity to lower among the Christian community women, especially mothers, in churches can help by teaching and watching over young girls so that those girls will not awaken love outside of marriage. Intentionality is key; Christian girls need someone who is consistently teaching them how to protect themselves in order for them to listen to advice about sex. The world will not hesitate for one second to tell church girls that it is no big deal to compromise and give into sexual desires or the desires of men. Therefore, in order to counteract this unstoppable war for the minds and hearts of young girls, Christian women of the church must constantly teach girls not to awaken love and keep those girls accountable.
Although the Wife of S.O.S was directly instructing the Daughters of Jerusalem, I also believe that this warning is applicable to the Sons of Jerusalem. This means that Christian men are also to teach boys to not awaken love before marriage and to instead get to know the women that they could possibly marry. In S.O.S chapter 2 the Wife discussed how her husband sought to spend time with her by simply talking to her and seeing her face before they were married. It is so important for young men and women in the church to build a relationship rather than automatically being bound to one because they had sex before they were in a covenant marriage.
Now that I understand S.O.S in its entirety, I plan to live as an example for young girls that I know, especially the girls that I know in church. I want to teach them to wait for marriage and seek to form friendly, conversational relationships with the guys they like rather than sexual relationships. Although it may be difficult, I also want to do my best to keep them accountable and ask them personal questions so that I can encourage them to save sex for marriage no matter what. I want to begin the cycle of accountability between women and girls with in my own church.