Seven Years Lost: A Personal Essay: Seven Years Lost

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Seven Years Lost
I never knew how complicated it was to have both a close knit group of friends, and a relationship until the week that I lost it. It was truly one of the hardest decisions I 've ever had to make and also the most disappointing. It was a necessary choice that I felt was right for myself, my friends on the other hand could disagree. The last thing I would have expected was that my best friends would tell me to choose between them and someone I had feelings for, over the petty facts of choosing to go out with my boyfriend over them. To think seven years went down the drain for that, boggles my mind. A couple of summers ago, I got into a relationship that would later change my life. With a new relationship I emerged into the …show more content…

So I decided if it doesn’t mean anything to you, then so be it. I took it upon myself to write a long paragraph to all three of them, explaining how hurt and upset I was with them and that I was truly disappointed in the way they treated me and their expectations of me were ridiculous. I expressed how sincere and supportive I was for them, when they felt the way I did. With that being said, we part ways. Being that we were friends for so long, it took me a long time to actually get over the fact that I had to let go of seven years and move on. I was so wrapped up in their friendship I never actually made close friends besides them. For a long time I felt lonely, with only the accompaniment of my …show more content…

I was so used to having girlfriends that I could call when I just wanted to have girl talk that I didn’t realize the effect it would have on me when it was gone. My summer was spent with my boyfriend and my boyfriend and my boyfriend alone. With the feeling of being lonely, I started trying to reestablish old friendships that I let fade into the grey as years passed by. Doing so, I started talking to my current best friend. We bonded over the same issue and from there we’ve been inseparable. As our friendship grew stronger the sad feeling I had from losing my former friend began to fade away faster and faster. It has gotten to a point where it’s all just a memory now.
Several times I looked back, wondering whether I made the right decision or not. Even though my relationship did not last, I feel that my choice was necessary for my own good. Though I don’t regret the times we spent together, I learned that nothing last forever, and not everyone you call a friend will always be your friend. It takes a special kind of person to be a friend. While I’m sure they believe my decisions were wrong, I whole heartedly believe I made the best choice for myself. At the end of the day I have no regrets, and even though were not friends I wish them the best in all they

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