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In the days of black-and-white television and homemade apple pie, there existed a hallmark of perfection: the “all-American family”. This was composed of a mother who was always perfectly pressed and had dinner ready on time, a father with a good job who wore a suit to work every day, and two children who brought home perfect grades and were star athletes. This was the dream given to many Americans; a perfect family in the public eye, like the Cleaver family in the show “Leave It to Beaver”. This family had no marital disputes, no broken lamps, and no bills left unpaid, or so it seemed. Like these picture-perfect families, Allegra Goodman’s Sandy Glass wished to portray the perfect person, family, and lab, even when it was all collapsing in on itself. Sandy Glass was not always the Sandy Glass that we read about in the novel. He used to be Sam Glazeroff and he changed it to forget his Eastern European Jewish heritage and to assimilate to the American way of life. Sandy’s view of the ideal man did not include reading the Torah and wearing a yarmulke or celebrating any aspect of his Judaic roots. Sandy throws a Christmas party instead of a Hanukkah party, where the only trace of Jewish tradition is the menorah that his wife places out for him. Even around his patients Sandy always tries to be the good guy. He never bears bad news and remains vague on issues of mortality when his patients ask so that he can continue to be golden in their eyes. Sandy lives in a big house filled with the best that his money could buy. Money means status and comfort and respect to Sandy. Goodman tells us that “[a]ppearances were not superficial, but of substantive importance to him” (15). His name and everything that it stood for was ev... ... middle of paper ... .... Sandy reinvents himself and puts out an air of superiority to those around him and he wants to control the futures of his daughters for appearances sake. At work, Glass edits and reedits articles, speeches, and grant proposals so that the Philpott’s research and workers appear more successful and better than they really are for funding purposes. Ideally, the public and private spheres would be completely separate. This way, there would be no lying or shame to try and cover up. Unfortunately, that is not usually the case; there is at least some overlap. Sandy Glass does the best he can to conceal the private from the public, even though there is that overlap, and he does it with skill and, most of the time, level headedly. Instead, Sandy puts on a disguise to show the public his version of the truth of his private life; the version that he looks the best in.
Taylor and Lou Ann demonstrate a symbiotic relationship between the roles and characteristics in a family. Edna Poppy and Virgie Mae replaces the missing physical and emotional traits in a stable household. The examples tie into the fact that not all families in this book match “the norms” and expectations, but are equally valued, blood or
...y are his property. Another time this is shown is when Sandy is teased by her friend about being a virgin, and she fails to tell her about the fact that her father has been sexually abusing her for years (Wilson, 2000, p. 66). She feels shame because of what happened to her, therefore keeping it a secret.
Lasch-Quinn, Elisabeth. The "Family". Encyclopedia of American Cultural and Intellectual History. Ed. Mary Kupiec Cayton and Peter W. Williams.
In her novel, Hope Leslie, Catharine Maria Sedgwick supplants the importance of strict adherence to religious tenets with the significance the human conscience and following one's own heart. This central theme of the novel is intimated to the reader in the scene where Sir Philip Gardiner, a character that completely defies this ideal, is described. Although he "had a certain erect and gallant bearing that marks a man of the world . . . his dress was strictly puritanical" (124). In other words, even though his demeanor is completely unlike that of a puritan, he adheres to the outward seeming of one. The scene describes in detail these markings and intimations of his person that would indicate an attitude not befitting a puritan. His face suggested the "ravages of the passions" while his constantly roving eyes indicated a "restless mind" (124). The only signs of Sir Philip's "puritanism" are his pretenses and his clothing, and these are enough to convince society he is a religious man, quite a "dandy quaker" (125).
During the 1950‘s suburbs such as Levitown were springing up all across the country, and the so-called American dream was easier to achieve for everyday Americans than ever before. They had just come out of two decades dominated by The Great Depression and World War Two, and finally prosperity was in sight. The need for women to work out of the home that was present during the war was no more, and women were overwhelmingly relegated to female-dominated professions like nursing, secretaries, and teachers, if they worked at all. Televisions became very popular, and quickly became part of the American cultural canon of entertainment. Leave It To Beaver is a classic American television show, encompassing values such as respect, responsibility and learning from your mistakes. But, at least in the episode used for this essay, it is also shockingly sexist to a modern viewer. This begs the question, what does the episode The Blind Date Committee1 say about the gender expectations of the 1950’s?
It’s not easy to build an ideal family. In the article “The American Family” by Stephanie Coontz, she argued that during this century families succeed more when they discuss problems openly, and when social institutions are flexible in meeting families’ needs. When women have more choices to make their own decisions. She also argued that to have an ideal family women can expect a lot from men especially when it comes to his involvement in the house. Raymond Carver, the author of “Where He Was: Memories of My Father”, argued how his upbringing and lack of social institutions prevented him from building an ideal family. He showed the readers that his mother hide all the problems instead of solving them. She also didn’t have any choice but to stay with his drunk father, who was barely involved in the house. Carvers’ memoir is relevant to Coontz argument about what is needed to have an ideal family.
Brian purchased the finest penthouse that his money could buy. After all, “I deserve it”, he would boast to friends. Expensive white Italian silk suits, alligator shoes, and a red Lamborghini sports car with license plates that read “MONEY” were his trademark. His penthouse apartment held a sweeping vista of the city along with elegantly appointed rooms, marble entry, a swimming pool and a sauna. Art work from the masters and rare collections were an impressive site to visitors. Brian had all the latest toys and electronics gadgets a young man could desire. A staff of servants cooked, cleaned and pampered him where ever he desired.
In JD Salinger’s Franny and Zooey, Franny Glass undergoes a mental and physical collapse, followed by a spiritual crisis. Every one of the Glass children is considerably precocious and deep thinking, and Franny and Zooey are no exception. With her fluctuating self-worth and perception, Franny begins to break down without any conscious awareness of why, which ultimately leaves her curled up on her mother’s couch in a state of emotional, intellectual, and spiritual crisis. This is why there is a need for urgent and vigorous “therapy” for Franny, and Zooey, having shared the elder Glass’ spiritual instruction, is the only character capable of providing any support for Franny.
“Leave it to Beaver” was a popular sitcom about a traditional nuclear family played out through the perspective of an adolescent boy whose curiosity and antics often got him into trouble (TV.com). Despite the show promoting positive family values, it also inadvertently shed light on a historically dark period of time in American history. One such instance was the lack of diversity on the show. Nearly 100% of the show’s characters were white throughout the six-season, 234 episode series. In the single episode that depicted an African-American, the character was a servant, further a reflection of the times when African-Americans where predominantly seen and treated as second-class citizens (Leaveittobeaver.org). However, this 1950’s ideal serves as a reference point to what typical families looked like and how vastly different they look now.
People in these Montana prairies had an isolated life where “Every generation relearns the rules its fathers have forgotten”, cursed nature when it threatens their livelihood, yet realized that “This land owes you nothing” [p. 60]. This was a time and region where the difference between what was expected of men and women was paramount. Children grew up working hard, knowing their place in their society and grew up quickly as a result. Being somewhat of a tomboy, Blunt could handle farm equipment and chores as well as her brother, yet was still expected to learn how to cook, clean and care for the men. As with previous generations, it was expected that she follow a planned path to becoming a rancher’s wife. But Judy Blunt always felt there was something more to this hard, bleak life and began a long journey towards breaking clean from the constraints of her upbringing.
Throughout the novel, East Egg demonstrates time after time the shallow underbelly of New York’s upper side. The inhabitants of this section of the city are what are known as the “old money”, meaning they come from families with money passed down through generation upon generation. Nick Carraway demonstrates unto the reader the grandeur of the area when he says, “Across the courtesy bay the white palaces of fashionable East Egg glittered along the water…” (Fitzgerald 5) referring to the homes opposite the bay of his. The people who occupy these homes, such as Tom and Daisy Buchanan and Jordan Baker, have never had to work a single day in their lives to secure and maintain their lavish and luxurious lifestyles, and will never have to because of the money that their families have procured throughout the generations. People here are reckless, and tend to not want to take responsibility for their actions. Jordan demonstrates...
Even with the pain of bearing children, raising them, doing household and even farm chores, their efforts have never been truly appreciated. Mrs. Wright was “…real sweet and pretty, but kind of timid—and fluttery…” as Mrs. Hale, her neighbor, describes her (22). This would all soon change after her wedding day. With Mr. Wright’s insipid character and lack of patience of any joyous sound, Mrs. Wright’s spirit dwindled to nothing. It seems she spent hours at a time focusing on her quilts, preserves, and caring for the only life there was in the house, her canary. Even when Mr. Hale offered to get a party telephone, Mr. Wright responded, “…folks talk too much anyway…”(5). This silence he preferred also applied to his spouse. There were no hugs given out much less a smile. He failed to give her even the most minimal sing of appreciation much less the emotional warmth she hungered for.
THOSE OF US WHO grew up in the 1950s got an image of the American family that was not, shall we say, accurate. We were told, Father Knows Best, Leave It to Beaver, and Ozzie and Harriet were not just the way things were supposed to be—but the way things were
This demonstrates that all she cares about is the causes, not the chance of a bad affect. Sandy is like the same, “First open the windows or we’ll fry. Just a couple of inches. They won’t be able to get in.” (Sleator 177). He only cares about the cool air, not how bad the air actually is. He only wants what is comfortable for himself, forgetting about everybody else’s perspectives. Finally, Sandy’s and Sierra’s actions give the reader details about their character traits. Sandy was a food seller on the streets and he was desperate for money. He kept on “forcing” the woman to buy his food and the woman did because he seemed desperate. Sandy knew that she would eventually lose money but he only cared about his own savings, not hers. Sierra has very low self-esteem because when she says something “nerdy” to the boy she likes, she regrets it and blames it on her parents for telling her these things. Later on, the boy says he likes her knowledge and she realizes that she is being taught well but she should just be grateful the first time. In conclusion, both Sandy’s and Sierra’s words and actions express what their character is, very
Most often, in most families, children look up to their parents for guidance as children view their parents as role models. However in The Glass Castle, this was not the case but the exact opposite.