Reflective Essay About My Husband

Reflecting on my emotions all throughout the quarter, I can finally say that I am starting to get through the fact that my husband is not around anymore. I can finally say, that I have seen a change in me, a change that has only served to see what I am capable of. I feel like I can finally see clearly that I don’t really depend on anyone, and that I can accomplish anything I set my mind to. Yes, it is nice to have someone around, but I feel like I now have learned to ignore my true feelings and focus on the emotions that are really going to take me somewhere. I am tired of lamenting my husband’s departure; I am tried of feeling incomplete or incapable of doing things. Therefore, I am starting to realize, that I have had experience with what

I was excited, yet nervous to go home, since I had no been there in close to 5 weeks, but every time I would head home, I had the opportunity to see my husband. Nonetheless, that was not going to be the cases this times, so I was anxious to see what my days would consist of without him being there. Heading home was my reward; it was a compensation for finishing midterms and surviving all on my own. Nonetheless, going home was also different, as soon as I got home, I could not help but picture all of the times my husband and I were sitting the living room watching movies, and just having a good time. As I went though the house, I couldn’t help it, so I cried. And that’s when the feeling rules started to kick

In reference to Hochschild, she makes the claim that we act in two ways. One, where we try to change how we outwardly appear, and the other in regards to they way we act (35). Emotion work refers to the act of trying to change an emotion or feeling Therefore, all weekend, I learned how to ignore my true emotions and work forwards changing my emotions. I had to make sure I seemed happy and look interested in all of our family gatherings. Just this weekend I was able to see my ability to work my feeling up and down. I had to bring up my happiness, and allow myself to feel the love my family had to share. Therefore, just like mentioned by Hochschild and by Professor Anderson, emotion work is a three steps process: attending, codifying and managing. In this case I knew I had to select happiness above of all my feelings, I knew I had to give it some meaning and that was what allowed me to manage it my emotion work. I was trying to fit the role with the emotions, I was trying to fit in the situation and not let my sadness hijack my weekend. Furthermore, I can say that while working on my emotions, I was able to work with the cognitive technique; I was able to think myself into an emotion. I had to think all of the happy memories that I lived with my family just to get me to think of how happy I used to