Pros And Cons Of Dating

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Dating in the modern age seems like a lot of work. Romanticized ideals of dating from the 1950s with the perfect soul mate and the excitement of going steady no longer apply in current times. These days, only after an intense round of filtering through prospective love interests and rating on a scale of attractiveness and mutuality would one ever consider asking someone out. However, the 21st century offers far more freedom and equality in comparison to the 50s, with women finding success in professional and personal lives. No longer is the man considered the only breadwinner of the household; women are now achieving great strides in equality in the workforce. How come these brief differences in time resulted in a tremendous shift in social values that changed the face of dating? Nevertheless, the youth dating culture of the 21st century rivaled that of the 1950s due to the differences in the principles of dating, the exclusivity
There were strict rules that men and women followed in the 50s that was symbolic of the wholesome nature of dating. For example, men were responsible for asking women out, gaining parental approval, doling flattery and extravagant gestures in order to impress their prospective partners, providing the financial means, and lastly, provide a physical token that signified that the relationship was official. For women, it was crucial that they keep their virtue and maintain their innocence, all while doting on their boyfriends and providing emotional support. Couples at the time were not mutually exclusive and the expectation was that both partners stayed committed to one another. Additionally, men were the only ones who could achieve relative economic and social mobility in comparison to the rigid status of women so men were expected to provide for essentially

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