Power of Love and Relationships

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Power of Love and relationships

The first aspect of forming a social bond is an attraction, and there are many different ways in which people are attracted to those around them. Attraction refers to positive feelings you have for another person, it can be liking, love, friendships, and lust. When it comes to love and relationships, attractions are important. One would think that physical attraction is aspect number one and research shows that the romantic attraction is primarily determined from physical attraction. (Hadjistavropoulos, T. (1994).) Men look at attraction differently than women, and research finds that men are more impacted by social norms that make it appropriate to value physical attractiveness. However, studies show that women look for other attractors such as stability and personality. (Feingold, 1990). Beauty is in the eye of the beholder is the coined phrase. What is attractive to some may not be attractive to others. All aspects of beauty differ from person to person, therefore, physical attraction will differ. This happens because we all have different standards in measuring beauty.

Proximity is another consideration in attraction. Who we are close to is how we meet and become friends. If you are exposed to someone over time you tend to build a relationship. Similarity, people also choose partners that are similar to themselves such as age, race, religion, social class, religion, education, intelligence and attitude. (Feenstra, 2011). We choose friendships as well based on these values and characteristics. You want someone in your life that you have something in common with. You have heard "opposites attract," well do they? One person may like rock music and the other classical. One in the relati...

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