Personal Narrative: Being Raised With No Father Figure

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Being raised with no father figure overwhelmingly affects young men who are becoming men. Young men require good examples throughout their lives to show them how to take care of business. Without this young men have a possibility of growing up to be men with issues. For example, relationship issues, their feelings can be unsteady, they may have behavioral issues, and they may grow up not knowing how to be a father to their own kid. Growing up, my siblings and I didn’t have a father figure to look up to. I didn’t care. As I grew up I understood that I have a female figure to set a good example in my life, which was my mom. My brother Hakim, however, didn’t have a male role model to show him the ropes of life. Hakim was a bright child. He …show more content…

Tragically, that all changed around the age of 13, I didn't comprehend what was going on. My sweet sibling that I grew up with started floating away. He began getting into so much trouble. The circumstance began the early summer of his first year of freshman year. Going school shopping with my grandmother, he chose to shoplift. He got stuck in an unfortunate situation; the officer chose to give him a warning, however, regardless he needed to show up in court. The first year of Wyandotte High School, he began avoiding each class. Hanging out with the wrong group of people, he continued getting into trouble; he even began smoking …show more content…

For instance, they don't think, "Since my father isn't around I will go smoke weed," they simply do. The greater parts of them don’t think about the outcomes of what they are doing, they just do. Many young men without their father’s have ended up in jail at a point in their life, for not thinking about the consequences that come from their actions. There can be a basic determination to this issue fathers can figure out how to remain in their child's lives and after that the world could have one less issue. Young men will have fewer issues, they can be more stable, and they can learn how to have responsibility. If their fathers don’t teach them this, just having a role model will be enough. The purpose of this is paper is not saying if more young men have fathers in their lives all young men will experience life better, however a greater part will. For ex: when a doctor tells a pregnant woman “stay in bed the rest of your pregnancy, so you will go into labor on time.” While this may work for most women their are some women who are exceptional to this

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