Parenting Styles: Authoritarian, Permissive, Authoritative And Uninvolved

There are four different kinds of parenting styles:, authoritarian, permissive, authoritative, and uninvolved. They each hold their own rules and regulations and are seemingly different, although the end result of each can be a great child. These styles were identified by Diana Baumrind and updated by Eleanor Maccoby and colleagues (Feldman, 2011 pg 252) The first type of style is Authoritarian., Tthis parent is very controlling and strict. They mean exactly what they say and their word is the law. They expect very strict obedience and do not tolerate disagreements or back talk. Their children are usually withdrawn and not friendly. Girls of the authoritarian parent will tend to be very dependent, while the boys will be unusually hostile.

Permissive parents just want their kids to be happy and do whatever it is they want to do. The children of permissive parents are also dependent just like the children of an authoritarian parent as well as they are moody and lack in social skills as well as self-control. The third style is Authoritative, now these parents are very clear and strict on what they want, however unlike the authoritarian they also are loving and emotionally supportive. They can tolerate a little disagreement and don’t mind explaining to a child why or why not a certain rule has been put in place. These parents want their children to be independent and they generally are. They can regulate their own behavior effectively because they understand why and when they need to do certain things. Last but not least there is the Uninvolved parent, they show no interest in their child

However, I want my kids to know why it is important. When they leave the home they need to be able to apply structure to the things they are doing. I’m not telling them do this, or don’t do that just because I’m the boss but I want them to know right from wrong according to me. I also believe children need love and affection, so despite the fact that I am not an affectionate person I still provide them with that because we all deserve a chance at love. Most parenting styles are passed along form the way the parent was raised. If a parent feels insecure about themselves or the way they turned out they may need to reevaluate their parenting style. Because maybe what did not work for them is the exact opposite of what they need to do raising their kids. This is true for myself, I was raised by my grandmother who was an authoritarian and that caused me to be rebellious and act out when I got old enough and was no longer scared. I don’t believe that one style is superior to another, it’s completely up to the way you want your child to grow up and end up. Only the parent can make this decision and who is anyone else to