Online Dating: The ease of digital communication in helping you looking for your soulmate
A decade before, you did not have to be worry if you did not have any boyfriend or girlfriend, because there were some TV shows aimed to matchmaking purposes. Meanwhile, since digital communication took over the role of communication after that, people have been using it for various intentions. For instance, looking for boyfriend or girlfriend, that is more familiar nowadays as online dating. According to Wikipedia, “online dating Is a personal introductory system where individuals can find and contact each other over the internet to arrange a date, usually with the objective of developing a personal, romantic, or sexual relationship.” In short, online
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Online means that you do not have to meet the person you are interested in physically. This is an advantage for those who are shy or nervous, because there is no such pressure to have to be “perfect” in front of the person you like. Besides, you can also choose anyone you like based on their profile picture or personal information. Moreover, you can find someone that might share the same interest with you. You also can choose who you want to speak with and for how long, whether you want to be honest or not. This could eliminate awkward conversation you might have. Meanwhile, for the security advantage you can simply block or report if the person you do not interested in or annoying keeps trying to contact …show more content…
Meanwhile, she has been joining the dating website since 4 (four) years ago. She admits that it is not easy to find the one you are looking for, but if you keep trying and using what you have been given, the result will not betray the struggle you have been through. In addition, my former Mathematic teacher is now getting married to the woman he met on Facebook. Even though Facebook is not a dating website, it does carry the same idea with online dating, since both of them met online. There are still lots of example out there that prove the goodness in online dating. Would you deny the ease of this instant way in order to help making up your love life? (Restating main point).
Most people set up their mind that using an online dating website is a signal of depression of not having partners. As the matter of fact, others think that using a dating website could be the instant way to help a person find their true love. It is all driven only by perception. Nevertheless, with the ease of digital communication we could use it for the advantages of our love life (Linking to the
In Brooks’ essay, his thesis states that “[t]he online dating world is superficially cynical . . . But love is what this is all about. And the heart, even in this commercial age, finds a way”(222)—implying that, although not perfect, online romance can work. He evidences his statement by illustrating how online dating “slows things down” (221), “puts structure back into courtship” (221), and “is at
In “A Million First Dates” (The Atlantic, Jan/Feb 2013), Dan Slater argues commiting to a stable relationship is negatively influenced by online dating because of a decline in commitment in couples. Essentially, the more options a person is given to find the perfect person in a short amount of time, the less they are inclined to stay in a relationship. For example, Slater’s case study subject, Jacob, a man with a difficult time meeting women and genuinely falling in love. After easily finding a dream woman on a dating website he found it easier to find someone else once their relationship ended. Hence, online dating made it easier for him (and possibly other users) to change views on a long or lifetime monogamous relationship. Additionally,
Ansari states in his article that because of technology Americans have never had as many romance options as they currently do allowing increased interaction. However, he does note that with all these options there are still downsides to online dating, much like medicine has its side effects. In the article there is a section titled “Where Bozos are Studs” Within this section we see him imply that the internet can make someone feel too empowered because of the many options they have. Also, Ansari points out that it is possible that the simplest of qualities could disqualify you from finding your soul mate on these dating sites. For example a man saw a woman who had similar qualities but she was a Red Sox fan so he continued to search. Ansari also expands more on the topic of dating in genera. He speaks on the phases of a relationship, the passionate phase and the sometimes unattainable compassionate phase. Ansari has a first-hand experience with how people failed to make it pass passionate love when he attends a wedding. Several couples who attend the wedding end up splitting
The uses of these dating sites and apps have greatly inclined. In 2008, only three percent of Americans used an online dating site now that has increased to nine percent (Ambrose and Palm). The whole concept of meeting a potential girlfriend or boyfriend at a public setting is no longer a
Few people will argue that online dating has become the preferred method to find dates, relationships, and possible soul-mates. eHarmony frequently advertises with the statistics that in one year they had 33, 000 people get married after meeting in its networking site. There are statistics out that predict that more than 100,000 people get married each year after meeting in a dating network. (Tracey, 2005) With statists like these, one can see why there would be so much high pressure to win curious newcomers. There are marketing tools and techniques used to win them over. These online dating sites have done many things correct.
Love has been around since the beginning of time and for as long as romantic relationships have been around; people have tried various ways of meeting one another. The mid-1990s marked the start of online dating and since then has evolved into a much more common method of dating. Online dating is typically taken advantage of in one of two ways. Some people prefer to create their own profile and rely on themselves to choose their mate choice, while others allow the online dating services to create matches between the online subscribers. In a recent study conducted by Pew Research Center they found that one in ten American’s are using an online dating site to help them locate a spouse or a long term partner (Smith 1). Due to the advances in technology in recent years, online dating has developed into a resource that has become culturally accepted and has advanced in many ways, but with that comes mate choice, safety concerns, and the outlook on online dating.
Many people find their identity in relationships, and dating culture has changed drastically through the ages. It however, has changed especially now with internet dating. Brooks talks about how the internet slows down the process of dating which is ironic because the internet is known for speeding everything up. Dating today according to the world is so different than how it used to be and how it’s supposed to be.
With technology advances steadily in today’s society, individuals steadily advance too. One of these aspects includes dating. Individuals in today’s society hope to find companionship through online dating websites so that someday some online daters might be able to find a companion. With websites like eHarmony, Match, Christian Mingle, OkCupid, Black People Meet, and JDate, finding the one seems to be easier and more convenient than ever. Most of these websites even display statistics showing that one out of five relationships start online. The questions that should be asked, is this a better and safer option than looking for the one in person? Individuals tend to ignore the possible risks involving online dating. They are willing to release personal information from pictures of oneself, to locations of where they work, or live just for the possibility of finding a companion. The online users have to ask themselves: is the risk worth it in the end, or does the benefit outweighs the cost? When searching for a companionship through online dating websites, negative aspects such as profiles, self-presentation, self-disclosure, predators and sexual mishaps, may outweigh the positive aspects and cause more problems and strife then actual good.
After doing more research in the impact of technology on interpersonal relation, I realized that technology isn’t all that great, because it hinder us from socializing practically and create a healthy interpersonal relationship. In like manner, the same goes for online dating because in my opinion, effective communication still needs to be done in person. Body language, voice tone, and physical contact make a huge difference in making conversation more alive.
Online dating offers chances to people who feel more comfortable behind a screen rather than getting so nervous in front of a person that they are unable to speak. It allows them to interact with someone whom they would be uneasy to speak with in real life. Moreover, in traditional dating first impressions truly matter while online, people have chosen the best for their dating profiles. “People were ready to admit that going on actual "dates" was full of pressure and not very enjoyable. Traditional dating, they pointed out, encouraged an overly formal, inauthentic vibe that ultimately hindered instead of helped their efforts to make romantic connections” (Massa). Many do feel shy to ask the person they are interested in on an official date as they are not actually sure what the other person feels and needs more than the opinion of friends to take a step while asking someone online relieves that stress as the possibility of seeing that person in real life is low along with it messing with the asker’s personal life if it is a
The internet gives the opportunity for someone to become something they are not. Many things can transpire on the web. Once a dating profile is made the person on the other end can easily put a false picture of themselves and false information. You can never fully believe what you read on the internet.
Based on a research of Online Dating & Relationships, Smith and Duggan stated that the ways of finding partners have been changed with the times. In the past, people used matchmaking, arranged marriages and printed personal ads. With the rapid technology advancement, there are alternative methods - online dating sites and smart phone dating apps. To compare with the people who date traditionally, people who date online are active to choose their dream man or woman by browsing the others profiles (9).
...nships are being adjusted. They cater to the very need that Americans have, something that is not time consuming. The sites use algorithms to match someone with a compatible date. After mates are matched they begin to email or chat. Sometimes dates come out of these conversations and the couple ends up married. But most of the time nothing happens. What technology has done is make users shallow. With Social Media everyone sees the profile and that’s it. The profile is the pre-judgment that others can have on the user.
The Internet is replacing many things in our lives : Email has replaced the postal services, E-shopping (e.g., ebay) is replacing regular shopping, and now you can arrange your dates and relationships on the Internet. Dating really changed in the last few years and meeting people online has become not uncommon or just for young people only. But everyone can now use it to find their dates and meet new people. Love via the Internet is a hot issue which faces many Internet users, and they may have experienced a love story via the Internet. I have heard many stories from my friends and relatives which they have experienced.
In the twenty-first century, we use the internet for almost everything that we do. We use search engines such as Bing or Google to find information. Websites like Netflix and Hulu allow us to watch shows and movies without an expensive cable or satellite subscription. Social networks provide a new way to communicate with friends and family. Entire companies are run through the internet. With gas prices rising every day, it has also become increasingly popular to see a lot of jobs turn to telecommuting. It’s only natural that as other aspects of our lives conform to the internet, that online dating should also begin to be more prevalent in how we form new romantic relationships. Online dating is the new normal, and this is more evident now than ever.