Not All Family Is Perfect: Not All Family Is Perfect

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Not All Family Is Perfect Not all parents are perfect no matter how much they try they can easily end up being a failure, especially since the divorce rate is currently 50 percent of marriages (Kazdin 85). Less than 10 percent of marriages in the united states are considered poor, whereas 40 percent of single mothers are categorized as poor (Pickhardt 1). Being poor doesn’t make you a bad parent, but it’s what you do about being poor that can determine whether or not you are a good parent. My mom is single-handedly one of the most irresponsible family members I know especially with a son like my older brother Corey who is way more mature, responsible, independent and stable as a person. The fact that my brother and mom can be so different …show more content…

My mom’s parents both passed away before she was 19 years old, and Corey’s father passed away when he was about 3 and my mom moved away when he was about 17 so he pretty much grew up without parents after that point. One of the biggest differences between Corey and my mom is his mindset. There are two types of people, the ones who make excuses for everything, give up when faced with adversity and think that failure is okay. Then there the people who strive for success, the people who look at a problem or adversity and work as hard as they can to surpass that problem, people who realize that excuses don’t make a difference at the end of the day. Unfortunately, my mother is one of those people who will use the same excuse whenever things are starting to look bad, she will bring up some story about her parents passing away and just let the bad memories dictate her life. Corey could do the same thing if he wanted to but instead he works to overcome whatever issue stands in front of him, he doesn’t bring up the past, or make excuses, he just gets things done because he realizes that excuses don’t matter. He works hard and try’s to be the best husband and father for his family that he can be and doesn’t let a bad past hold him back, instead he uses that bad past as a motivation to do better in …show more content…

I see her as a failure because of the life she has lived, she has struggled to get by since as long as I can remember and she still is to this day. She has no assets and probably doesn’t have a job as of now. My brother’s and I see her as the wrong type of parent, but I see her as a role model because she always found a way to get food for my younger brother and me, she always found a way to have a roof over my head, she always tried to provide even if she wasn’t doing the best job. My brother on the other hand is my role model, I want to be like him someday or at least be successful as him. He busted his tail to be where he is today and without him, I probably wouldn’t be here writing this essay right now. He is a great parent, he may struggle a little here and there but its more so because of the correct decisions he has made such as buying a house, buying a new truck, having kids, buying stocks and stuff like that. He is one of the strongest people I know as well as one of the most responsible and smartest people I know. While my mom may lack the role of being responsible she is strong and tried her best while raising

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