My Great Sacrifice When My Husband was Deployed

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Until I felt the effects of sacrifice last year, I never knew what strength truly meant. At the time strength did not seem possible during my husband‘s year long deployment. A favorite quote of mine by an unknown author matched my situation. “You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.” During this year long sacrifice, I found strength not only in myself but also from the love between me and my husband. Deployment is a word that all military spouses and military families dread to hear. When my husband came home to our barely moved in house with news of his deployment to Afghanistan, I was devastated. Though we received terrible news, we also felt incredible joy that same week. I was pregnant with our first child. We were overjoyed by this news but it also meant that my husband would be away the first eight months of our son’s life. The dreaded day arrived too soon. There I stood four months pregnant, feeling both scared and worried, on a warm sunny August day getting ready for our tearful goodbye. Being a military spouse, you know that you will...

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