Mother Daughter Relationships: “Everyday Use” and “Two Kinds”
Based on the mother daughter relationships in the two short stories, the moms and the daughters have a different perspective of what their heritage is, how they should live their lives, and what should influence them. “Two Kinds” by Amy Tan expresses the conflict between a Chinese mother and daughter. “Everyday Use” by Alice Walker discusses the differences in opinion between a mother who followed her culture and her daughter that went to live a different life. In both stories the moms and the daughters see life differently, but at the end of the story there is a peace between the daughters and their mothers.
The moms and daughter from “Every Day Use” and “Two Kinds” view their
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The Mom in “Two Kinds” wanted her daughter to be an obedient daughter. She wanted her family to influence the daughter. The mom wanted the cousin’s successes to inspire her daughter to want to show off her piano skills. The mom wanted America to influence her daughter to be the very best. Amy Tan wrote “my mother believed you could be anything you wanted to be in America” (386). The daughter did not let America or her parents affect what her. She did not care what her family said about her piano skills. She yelled at her mom for making her do thing she did not want to be. Amy Tan wrote that the daughter said “You want me to be someone that I’m not!” “I’ll never be the kind of daughter you want be to be” (392). The daughter did not let her parents affect her she chose her own life and made as many mistakes as she wished. The mom in “Everyday Use” wanted Dee to be influenced by her sister Maggie and her true home. She wanted Dee to be with a local boy like Jimmy T when she was younger. She wanted Dee to have a stronger relationship with her sister. The mom believed that Dee hated her sister. Alice Walker wrote “I used to think she hated Maggie, too” (590). The mom wanted Dee to be like Maggie to stay at home and marry a local boy. Dee was not affected by her mom’s ways, she let other people influence her. Dee meet a boy that made her look at life differently. Asalamalakim introduces Dee to his culture persuading her to change her name. Dee also let her education influenced her. When Dee left she told Maggie “You ought to try to make something of yourself too” (595). Dee believed that education made a person not living in the way of the
Our mothers have played very valuable roles in making us who we are and what we have become of ourselves. They have been the shoulder we can lean on when there is no one else to turn to. They have been the ones we can count on when there is no one else. They have been the ones who love us for who we are and forgive us when no one else wouldn’t. In Amy Tan’s “Two Kinds,” the character Jing-mei experiences being raised by a mother who has overwhelming expectations for her daughter, which causes Jing-mei to struggle with who she wants to be.
In "Everyday Use" by Alice Walker, Walker shows differences in human character, just by the way they act towards family members. The main character in the story, Mother, has two daughters that she treats very differently, and they treat her differently. One daughter looks down on Mother in a condescending manner, and the other is obedient and kind. In "Everyday Use", Walker shows that in relationships between a mother and daughters, adaptation to change can sometimes be very hard, which leads to pride and protecting what one has accomplished, and finally shows how un-appreciation can hinder these relationships.
The stories “I Stand Here Ironing” by Tillie Olsen and “Everyday Use” by Alice Walker, are different in many ways, but are also similar. “I Stand Here Ironing” and “Everyday Use” both focus on the relationships of the mother and daughter, and on the sibling’s relationships with each other. Emily from “I Stand Here Ironing” and Maggie from “Everyday Use” have different relationships with their mothers, but have similar relationships with their sisters. Although the stories are similar in that Emily and Maggie are both distant from their sisters, they differ in that the mother is distant from Emily in “I Stand Here Ironing,” while the mother is close to Maggie in “Everyday Use.”
In the short story, "Everyday Use" there are two personality differences and generational conflicts between Mama Johnson and her daughter Dee. Mama, the narrator of the story, describes herself as a "large, big-boned woman with rough, man-working hands" in the story. She wears overalls and has been both mother and father to her two daughters. Poor and uneducated, she was not given the opportunity to break out of her rural life. Mama has a strong understanding of her heritage and won’t allow Dee to take the family quilts. On the other hand, Dee is educated, like the high class life, and determined, she will not stop until she gets what she want. As you can see, we have two different personalities which create a generational conflict between
The author portrays the girls in completely opposite personalities as lifestyles. These drastic descriptions are the basis of the mother’s perceptions. Dee is described as: “..determined to stare down any disaster in her efforts.” versus Maggie who is described as: “She knows she is not bright.” This gives the perception that Dee is a strong independent women that gets what she desires
For many of us growing up, our mothers have been a part of who we are. They have been there when our world was falling apart, when we fell ill to the flu, and most importantly, the one to love us when we needed it the most. In “Two Kinds” by Amy Tan, it begins with a brief introduction to one mother’s interpretation of the American Dream. Losing her family in China, she now hopes to recapture part of her loss through her daughter. However, the young girl, Ni Kan, mimics her mother’s dreams and ultimately rebels against them.
No two mother and daughter relationships are alike. After reading “Everyday Use” by Alice Walker and “Two Kinds” by Amy Tan I realized that the two stories had the same subject matter: mother and daughter relationships. These two stories show different cultures, generations and parenting methods. Although the two mothers act differently, they are both ultimately motivated by the same desire: to be a good parent. In addition, while researching related articles, I realized that there were two recurring themes of mothers and daughters: respect and diverse ways of parenting.
In her short story "Two Kinds," Amy Tan utilizes the daughter's point of view to share a mother's attempts to control her daughter's hopes and dreams, providing a further understanding of how their relationship sours. The daughter has grown into a young woman and is telling the story of her coming of age in a family that had emigrated from China. In particular, she tells that her mother's attempted parental guidance was dominated by foolish hopes and dreams. This double perspective allows both the naivety of a young girl trying to identify herself and the hindsight and judgment of a mature woman.
The story 'Everyday Use', written by Alice Walker, is a story of heritage, pride, and learning what kind of person you really are. In the exposition, the story opens with background information about Dee and Maggie's life, which is being told by Mama. The reader learns that Dee was the type of child that had received everything that she wanted, while Maggie was the complete opposite. The crisis, which occurs later in the story, happens when Dee all of a sudden comes home a different person than she was when she left. During the Climax, Mama realizes that she has often neglected her other child, Maggie, by always giving Dee what she wants. Therefore, in the resolution, Mama defends Maggie by telling Dee that she cannot have the household items that she wants just to show others, instead of putting them to use like Maggie.
Author Alice Walker, displays the importance of personal identity and the significance of one’s heritage. These subjects are being addressed through the characterization of each character. In the story “Everyday Use”, the mother shows how their daughters are in completely two different worlds. One of her daughter, Maggie, is shy and jealous of her sister Dee and thought her sister had it easy with her life. She is the type that would stay around with her mother and be excluded from the outside world. Dee on the other hand, grew to be more outgoing and exposed to the real, modern world. The story shows how the two girls from different views of life co-exist and have a relationship with each other in the family. Maggie had always felt that Mama, her mother, showed more love and care to Dee over her. It is until the end of the story where we find out Mama cares more about Maggie through the quilt her mother gave to her. Showing that even though Dee is successful and have a more modern life, Maggie herself is just as successful in her own way through her love for her traditions and old w...
"Two Kinds" by Amy Tan is about the intricacies and complexities in the relationship between a mother and daughter. Throughout the story, the mother imposes upon her daughter, Jing Mei, her hopes and dreams for her. Jing Mei chooses not what her mother wants of her but only what she wants for herself. She states, "For, unlike my mother, I did not believe I could be anything I wanted to be. I could be only me" (Tan 1). Thus this "battle of wills" between mother and daughter sets the conflict of the story.
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