'Modern Family And Emma Goldman's Marriage And Love'

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Do we still consider Marriage and Love a meaningful tradition? Some people would say there’s more divorce going around the world then people actually getting marry, but there’s two points of views presented in “Modern Family” by Mona Charen and in “Marriage and Love” by Emma Goldman. One issue is traditional family is dead. Another issue is the cost of getting divorce.

In the writing “Modern Family” writer Mona Charen tells how traditional family is dead and it’s been replaced with single-parent family. The writer tells us is not wrong to actually say America family is changing year by year in our society, however to define “traditional” is not saying the father working and the mother staying inside the house and not going out to work then …show more content…

Goldman tells that marriage and love have nothing in common, some couples do intend to fall in love with each other more after marriage but some others don’t. She also explains that not every couple falls in love after marriage that there’s no love in marriage. Goldman explains that Marriage is actually a primarily economic arrangement, however it always cost more money to get divorce then to actually marry because the divorce includes splitting everything for each other and it includes having lawyers involve. The writer also explains that a woman pays her husband with her name, her privacy, her self-respect, her very life,” until death doth part”. Goldman explains how Edward Carpenter says love is indeed a stranger to most people, which means he’s saying that not everyone has felt real love only because you’re with someone doesn’t mean that’s real love, you don’t feel real love until you’re with someone and you truly mean everything you say to them. Love doesn’t just come from marrying someone it could be from being with someone for a long time and knowing is actually time to take it next step. Goldman explains too that being marry is not what makes us love the person; however, being with a person who is themselves around you is what makes another person loves the other …show more content…

I believe that we let everyone else take control of our future and our opinions. It’s our choice to decide if there’s still actual love around us and if modern family is a thing because I know if having kids, they would want both parents to be together and not be separated from each other every single week. I also agree that before you think about marriage and love just like Goldman said in her writing think before getting marry because getting divorce will cost you a lot of money. Everyone around the world should believe still that traditional family is still a believe and that marriage and love is still a good

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