Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus By John Gray

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The bestselling self-help books, such as "Men are from mars, women are from Venus" explain to their readers that there are fundamental differences between men and women, which determine the contrast in how both sexes speak. The author, John Gray uses the metaphor of the two planets and suggests that when men and women were united on Earth, they all suffered from 'selective amnesia'. As a consequence, "both the Martians and Venusians forgot that they were from different planets and were supposed to be different" , which resulted in gender conflict deriving from misunderstanding of intentions. Other authors of popular self-help books prefer less metaphorical theories and explain gender differences in language through evolution and biological characteristics of the sexes. However, modern sociolinguistics attempt to undermine these radical statements by approaching the question analytically drawing on evidence from the fields of anthropology, discourse analysis, dialectology, ethnography and social psychology to investigate whether women's and men's communication differs to the extent described in psychology books and what are the factors that could contribute to the development of what is known to be sex-preferential language patterns . From the linguistic point of view, It could be argued that the question itself imposes pre-conceptions of the gendered talk as it assumes that speakers are divided in two groups called "women" and "men"' and that because those groups unarguably differ, the language they use is shaped by their sex characteristics. In exploring the question whether women and men speak differently, it is necessary to focus on considering the notion of the andocentric approach to gender, the concept of 'acquiring' ...

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... women speak. However, while Gray states that need a translator to help them with communication, Cameron claims that the differences in how men and women express themselves are minor and do not affect understanding of the opposite sex. The key contrast in the approaches undertaken by Gray and the feminists is why those discrepancies exist. According to Gray, the concept of the two sexes is a reason of its own for the intersexual communication. On the other hand, sociolinguists have proved that the notion of "performing gender" through language is key to understanding the great extent of sexism, stereotyping and incompetent guesses hidden in the popular self-help books, which promote the view that men and women come from different planets and thus create the unjust society, in which women occupy the role of the 'second sex' as opposed to men, who are the 'norm'.

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