“You can’t sit with us!” this popular quote taken from an it’s equally movie, “Mean Girls”, comes about the fact that Regina George, the most popular girl in school, wore sweatpants on the wrong day of the week and being against the rules her friends banned her from their lunch table. A little over the top punishment from one simple thing, however the movie is just living up to its name. Throughout the one hour and thirty-seven minutes, there are scenes showing backstabbing-boyfriend stealing-selfish friendships, the likes of which can make one wonder. whether this is the way all female-female friendships are like. This type of toxic relationships pictured between women in the media is a harmful message to send out to the public, it creates …show more content…
a stigma that woman can’t be friends. This ignominy is most harmful to young girls, we need to show them how powerful and supportive another girl’s friendship can be. Young girls are most vulnerable to these destructive views, they shape the way these girls will live their lives and it could cause them to miss out on wholesome experiences.
Women provide a special kind of support that can’t be supplied by anyone else. Gale Berkowitz wrote an article about studies conducted on women, which, in short, showed that women find stress relief in each other’s company and overall, they keep each other healthier- consequently lengthening each other’s life. Berkowitz also shared a quote from Ruthellen Josselson, PhD. to sum up the importance of female relationships, it goes as follows: “… women are such a source of strength to each other. We nurture one another. And we need to have unpressured space in which we can do the special kind of talk that women do when they're with other women.” Contrary to what is sometimes portrayed, female relationships are …show more content…
nourishing. The misconception concerning these friendships, often stems from the idea of school cliques. Just like in the above-mentioned movie, the most popular girls rule the school and judge who and what is “popular” material. These types of scenarios often show the girl at the top as mean and self-centered, basically a bully to other girls; because she is at the top other girls mimic her in order to be accepted into the group. This is not always just a fictional situation though, it can be someone’s reality, as it was mine all through elementary school. In my case I can clearly recall which situations made me into the person I am today. A particular story takes place in third grade, to give some background, my best friend at the time was my neighbor, we would always be playing together at school and after school, we shared everything with each other, I thought of her like a sister. However, she had a tendency to be a bit controlling, mostly when it came to other girls I befriended; often times I would be mean to them just because she didn’t like them, and I didn’t want her to be angry with me. We were at recess with our group of friends and one of them brought her school picture to show us. I was very excited to see it and I tried to take it from Barb, but she kept holding on to it and we ended up ripping it. She became angry, as well as everyone else. We argued, everyone sided with her and the result was me getting kicked out of the group. Even though I did not think about it at the time, it is safe to say that she was popular than me, it clarifies what ended up damaging our friendship. For the first time in my life, I found myself lost and alone. As coincidence would have it though, shortly afterwards, we had a new student enter my class, and I was chosen to show her around. We became quick friends along with another wonderful girl, who was someone I had not treated the best before. With them I experienced true friendship, they accepted me just as I was and stuck by my side no matter what. Just like the plot line of movies or shows, I went through a period of self-discovery and self-acceptance. Even though, it took one girl to bring me down, it was another girl(s) who restored my faith in friendships. Although there are toxic female friendships, it does not mean that they are all like that.
I have experienced both the good and the bad, as I have mentioned before, and the majority of us will within this long span of our lives. The bad experiences shouldn’t discourage anyone from having girls as friends, these types of situations teach us valuable lessons. We become better at choosing the people we want to spend our time with. We learn how we deserve to be treated and simultaneously learn how to treat others. I for one am very appreciative for the female friends and acquaintances in my life at the moment, they are a group of the most helpful caring women I have met as of
yet. The conclusion of “Mean Girls” ended with everybody’s secrets being exposed and the dissolvement of the cliques; Regina George found her place in a whole different kind of group and you see her smile and wave at her old group of friends. Ultimately, we need to eliminate the detrimental perception of female friendships by publicly supporting the healthy relationships; such as conducting and spreading studies like Berkowitz covered in his article. Most women are caring and motherly by nature, it is unfair to tag them with a bad stamp. The younger generation of girls need to see a proper representation so they can know the true value of friendship
Napoleon Dynamite is one of the best movies portraying loneliness and nerds. It is the story of Napoleon in high school and his lonely adventures. All the main characters feel separated, misunderstood, and have nobody to relate to. Napoleon has no friends and lives in his own fantasy land. He is avoided by everybody. His brother seems to be mislead, wanting to be a cage fighter but staying home all the time hopelessly trying to find love and attention on the internet. Their grandmother is never there for them, though she lives her own life right beside them. They live next to a huge field, reinforcing their isolation. Practically every home in the film is
The film Friday Night Lights, directed by Peter Berg explains a story about a small town in Odessa, Texas that is obsessed to their high school football team (Permian Panthers) to the point where it’s strange. Boobie Miles (Derek Luke) is an cocky, star tailback who tore his ACL in the first game of the season and everyone in the town just became hopeless cause their star isn’t playing for a long time. The townspeople have to now rely on the new coach Gary Gaines (Billy Bob Thornton), to motivate the other team members to be able to respect, step up their game, and improve quickly. During this process, racism has made it harder to have a success and be happy and the team has to overcome them as a family.
What we as a society need to do is learn how to improve the expectations and change the reality of friendships between men and women, we all need to get rid of the negative mentality that has stained the idea of female, and even male relationships categorized as either uncooperative, competitive, or complicated and change our behavior positively, portraying male and female relationships as harmonious and
The Great Depression of the 1930’s caused widespread poverty, but the popular culture of the time did not reflect this. People wanted to escape from this harsh time so movies, dancing and sports became very popular. Radios broadcasted boxing matches and boxers became stars. The heavyweight champion James J. Braddock aka “Cinderella Man,” gained popularity. James Braddock gained fame by winning many fights and proving everyone wrong when they said he was too old and couldn’t win.
Friday Night Lights by H.G. Bissinger is a story about a football town. The name of the town is Odessa. It is a small town on the west side of Texas and football is the only thing that matters. Bissinger gives the reader a glimpse of what life is like at an area high school called Permian. Very few towns are obsessed with sports like Permian and Ringgold when it comes to sports programs. In this essay, Permian and Ringgold sports will be compared by their programs and values that they place on sports.
After experiencing a traumatic car crash, Michelle, the protagonist of director Dan Trachtenberg’s film 10 Cloverfield Lane, wakes up in an underground bunker owned by a man named Howard. Howard claims to have saved her from a widespread chemical attack that has contaminated the air, with his bunker being the only place to take refuge for the next couple of years. Yet as the film progresses, Howard’s controlling and threatening demeanor eventually brings Michelle to escape, allowing her to come across the actuality of the situation outside the isolated bunker. Throughout the production, Trachtenberg arranges close frames, manipulates the camera’s focus, and chooses specific lighting to create an ominous tone that mystifies and disturbs viewers.
Nadine from the movie The Edge of Seventeen is a seventeen year old girl that is in high school. Nadine doesn't have many friends, she met her best friend Krista when she was in elementary school and they have been inseparable ever since. Nadine doesn't have her own place yet, she lives with her mother Mona and older brother Darian. Her brother Darian assists the same high school she does, however, they have their differences. Darian seems to be extroverted and quite popular, while Nadine is more on the introverted side. Furthermore, Nadine's life is ruined according to her when her best friend Krista, which is pretty much her only friend, starts dating her older
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