Marriage and Similarities to Sink Holes and Hot Potatoes

Residents of Winter Park, Florida (1981), which is a suburb of Orlando, woke up one day to the most terrifying nightmares their imagination had ever pictured. It all began with strange swishing noises and then an inexplicable noise. From their windows they saw lawn trees outside their houses simply disappear into what was familiar ground. In the twinkling of an eye parked cars and all the stuff they had left outside followed suit in quick succession, they all nose-dived straight into the ground.

In a little while the officials came down and cordoned off the area as Newsmen clicked away and filmed the gaping hole. Sightseers would soon come to watch the space that had emerged which went up to some 340 feet by 100 feet in some places. Authorities quickly evacuated the residents because they knew their houses were next in line.

This phenomenon, which is peculiar to Florida, is known as a sinkhole in geology.

Sinkholes are known to occur during the dry months of the year when underground caverns become drained of ground water. Since nature abhors a void, the earth quickly fills the void and the result is clearly visible above the ground. Pity all those people who spend the entire earnings to build homes only for houses to get swallowed up in an instant. Forces they may not have been aware of make all their investments bare.

There are many ways in which our relationships, especially marriage, are susceptible syndromes similar to the sinkhole. We let the process of developing our external world outpace our inner world and when we least expect it, the collapse comes suddenly. We spend a lot of time and effort sustaining marriage at the visible level so much that even we get convinced that all is well. The truth of the matter is that...

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... potatoes’ that you must handle before you say ‘I do’ include your interests, hobbies, expectations, dreams, aspirations as well as matters of sex and how you will deal with your in-laws.

This book will give you a set of questions that will help you deal with eleven major ‘hot potatoes’, leading to discussions that will become important predictors of the strength and health of your relationship. If each one of you becomes honest in addressing the issues brought forth it will give you the best analysis of the overall anticipated success of your marriage.

By answering all the questions asked in this book you will get concrete information on the health of your marriage and a valid predictor on whether you should go on with your intended marriage plans. The decision to handle these ‘hot potatoes’ before you get married is one decision you will be glad you made.