Liz And Maritza's Friendship: The Gender Patterns Of Friendship

Some of my friendship do follow the gender patterns and prescriptions discussed in the reading. I have three female close friends and many guy friends. My three female friends are Asialynn, Liz and Maritza. The type of friendship I have with Asialynn and Liz, follows the typical gender friendship pattern. Our friendship is built on dialogue. We became closer through talking, disclosing personal experience, emotions, fear and our problems. We try to understand one another and be each other’s shoulders. In the reading Janice states that, “one of the worst things about being a female is not having permission to be selfish or jealous or not to care about your friend”. I can relate to Janice comment especially in the friendship I have with Asialynn

Through doing, we became closer and slowly we began to open up. Maritza is more of a masculine communicator, then she is feminine. She does not speak much about her emotions, fears, nor problems. In the contrary to Janice statement, the friendship that I and Maritza have is different from a typical feminine friendship. It’s okay for either one of us to be selfish because we do not associate selfishness with not caring for one another. We believe that we must do whatever makes us happy, and in our heart we know we care a lot about one another. Maritza and I don’t need to see each other every day, nor talk every day because we know that no matter what, if we need something, we will be there for each

Although I am not forty five or older I can relate to some of the mythical views. For example, the first myth being, “all single women are desperate to find a mate”. I agree with her reality, which is that we are open to a nice relationship, but we are not looking for one. In order for me to get into a relationship I must tremendously like that person and date him for a long time. I am open to the idea of meeting people however, I am not open to getting into a relationship. I like being able to be with someone, care for them and share some time together, but I do not want a relationship. Another myth that popped out at me was myth six, “when it comes to their appearance, older single women say, “the heck with it”. Although I strongly disagree with that statement, I do not think this statement only applies to older women. I care about my appearance, but I will not go out of my way to look hotter just so I can get a guy. Why? Because I do not give my look that much priority as many girls do, therefore, I tend to look and dress like I do every day even when I see the guy I like. And finally, the last myth that I found quite amusing was myth seven, “A single women worst fear is that she’ll wind up old, sick and alone”. First, I think that everyone is afraid of ending up sick, not only single women. Also, I agree with her reality, chances are even if you