Jane Doe's Essay 'I Wish They' D Do It Right

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Over the years, it has become more common that couples cohabitate instead of getting married. In Jane Doe’s essay “I Wish They’d Do It Right,” Jane uses her son and his girlfriend as an example of cohabitation because her son does not believe in marriage. Throughout her essay, Jane argues that couples should go through the process of marriage to create a family and move in together. The author objects to her son’s decision of cohabiting rather than marrying because it can be economically unreasonable and socially awkward. Cohabitating can be problematic economically because couples who are not married are less likely to receive benefits from the government. Jane explains how her son and his girlfriend were applying for married-students housing, …show more content…

While some find it a waste of their time, others are only frightened by how much money is spent in planning a wedding. In addition, some argue that being married is a huge commitment towards a couple’s relationship and one should only get married if they are ready for that kind of commitment with their partner. According to “The Marriage Problem: Why Many Are Choosing Cohabitation Instead” written by Alice G. Walton, the author discusses the reasons why couples are afraid of taking the next step and getting married. In her article, the author states, “young people voice a number of concerns about getting married, and these concerns may drive them to cohabitate rather than marry. People who opt for cohabitation over marriage tend to cite the fear of divorce as the central reason not to get married.” She supports her opinion by describing how the media illustrates the divorces of celebrities like Jennifer Lopez and Kim Kardashian. Couples like my cousin and his girlfriend are not considering marriage because they find it pointless. Rather than trying to build a stronger relationship with their partner, many cohabitate only to find out that their partner is not what they expected. There is nothing wrong with marriage, but many couples view it as a bad thing. Cohabitation and marriage are contrasted in the economic aspects of the relationship. The couple who decides to …show more content…

It is becoming more common for couples of all ages to choose cohabitation over marriage. Jane Doe’s son did not believe in marriage in order to love his girlfriend. Just like him, many couples in today’s society do not believe in marriage. Jane Doe objects her son’s decision to cohabitate rather than marry because she believes that it will cause economic problems as well as social awkwardness. Though cohabitation may seem as an easy escape out of “couple” responsibilities, it is equal to marriage. If a couple decides to cohabitate and have children, the accountability of providing for that child is still the same. Without marriage, couples will not receive the same benefits as those who are. Unmarried couples encounter more difficulties when they want to buy a house or apply for health insurance. I agree with the author’s point of view on marriage and her disapproval of cohabitation because of her son’s economic difficulties, social awkwardness, and her grandson’s emotional security. Amiyah Scott once tweeted, “If I date you the goal is to marry you. Build with you. Grow with you. I am not dating you to just pass time, I see potential in

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