Influence Of Your Identity And How To Adult By Tyra Marieze

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What is Your Identity and How to Choose It? Everyone in the world has their own identity, what is your identity and how you choose it? In the article “What Makes Up Your Identity?” which posted on a website, How to Adult by Tyra Marieze, she claims that generic, natural trait, environment, and nurturing influence are the factors of how people think who they are by themselves. Some people have a hard time adopting their identity because they don’t like the way people call them. Justin Maffeett, the author of “At 22, I Forgave Myself for 13 Years of Self-Hate” in Huffington Post, December 14, 2015. He informs that he hated himself because he is black and gay, and he hid his identity until he went to college, at last he adopted who he was and …show more content…

People often have the similar opinions on same one thing if they from one community. For example, most the American believe god and call themselves “Christian”, however, most the Chinese believe the Buddha and call themselves “Buddhist”. In the article “What Makes Up Your Identity?” Tyra Marieza states, “The way that the adults in your family, in your neighborhood, church and school behave are the reason why you are the way you are, according to the nurture theory.” The author is trying to explain that the environment can shape of who you are. For instance, children in my village in China don’t study hard because everyone have no dream and don’t worry about their future; they consider that they will be farmers like their parents. In contrast, children in the city in China study hard for their different dreams, like being doctors, pilots, etc; they have no doubt that they will have the same job as their parents or …show more content…

They may hide their identities because they are different from others in their communities; in contrast, they will accept who they are if their families and friends support them. Since environment changes people slowly, people should live in the community which they feel comfortable, then they can learn their identities easily. Works Cited Marieza, Tyra. “What Makes Up Your Identity?” How To Adult Maffett, Justin. “At 22, I Forgave Myself for 13 Years of Self-Hate.” Huffington Post, 14 December, 2015 Tsui, Bonnie. “Choose Your Own Identity.” New York Times, 14 December,

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