Importance Of Resilience

Resilience is finding the strength within yourself to overcome the challenges you are faced with throughout life. It is important to be resilient so you can adapt more easily to obstacles and persevere. Most often, resilience is acquired when encountering a painful struggle (Ellen Hendriksen).
I learned resilience at a young age when my parents separated and divorced by the time I was 4. I was an only child, and my father moved out of state, leaving my mother and I to fend for ourselves. He rarely paid child support, and Mom struggled to pay bills, put food on the table and in general, make ends meet. Eventually my father remarried, and had a second family whom he concentrated on. By the age of 9 or 10, I was already working after school and

Once in high school, I couldn’t go on school trips that other children went on or participate in after school activities, either because we didn’t have the money, or I had no transportation home. My childhood taught me independence, self-reliance, and it forced me to mature at a young age. It taught me about grown-up situations like custody agreements, finances, and hardships that you have learn to overcome. I put myself through college, all five years, and then bought my first two houses, all on my own. Overcoming obstacle after obstacle, taught resilience and fortitude. My experiences created my strength.
Strength and Resilience can be earned through struggle, defeating pain, heartache and sacrifice. You must overcome these, stand back up, and be

To live life, you must experience, both good and bad. It is how you learn from both, that allows you to grow and adapt to life. You must focus on how you can change your now self (and situation), to improve your future self. People who are successful in becoming resilient have a few things in common. They have an internal center of control, meaning they believe that their circumstances do not control their path (Ellen Hendriksen). Resilient people envision themselves as a lotus flower, blooming beautifully above the murky waters below. Secondly, they also have strong ethics and morality to give them purpose and guide them to find resilience. They know where their boundaries are, and won’t allow anyone to abuse them again. Resilient people must have a strong support system to rely on, to help guide them and pick them up in the emotional low times. Finally, you cannot bottle up those painful feelings, you must experience them, and deal with them to move on towards peace, happiness, and