German aviator and religious leader President Dieter F. Uchtdorf stated, "It is your reaction to adversity, not the adversity itself, that determines how your life's story will develop.” In James McBride’s autobiography and memoir The Color of Water, his true self is revealed in the way he and his mother, Ruth, handled adversity. Throughout his life, James struggled to discover his true identity. Like many, he made mistakes along the way, but through the actions of his mother, Ruth, his story developed “like a Tinker toy” (McBride 270). As James writes his mother’s memoir, he connects her memories like a puzzle, rebuilding and formulating the story of his life and his identity. Growing up with discrimination, a core belief in faith, and a strong …show more content…
When describing her childhood, Ruth states, “Nobody liked me. That’s how I felt” (McBride 80). While listening to Ruth explain the prejudice she endured during her school and social experiences, James began to see one piece of the puzzle: he came to understand the similarities of the same hateful comments concerning their race and the looks they received “with hate in their eyes” (80-81). Ruth experienced bullying in her schools with girls who did not like Jews, and then again as a white woman living in a black community. Since Ruth had first-hand experience with anti-Semitism remarks and racial degradation, she raised her children to see themselves and the world without the bias of color. James realizes that to understand his feelings about his mistreatment as a black child, he first has to understand his past teachings from the lens of his mother’s eyes. As James interviews his mother, he realizes that the discrimination they both endured and prevailed from solidified their relationship and ultimately helped James to rebuild his life, his puzzle. Providing stability, religion was the most predominantly important idea in the life of both James and
Questioning looks, dirty gazes, and the snide babbles were all too accustomed to Ruth McBride, when she walked down the street with her tow of children. James McBribe, one of the dozen children from her two elopements, was often ashamed as well as scared. They had to prolong the worse racial monikers. His mother, who was white, maintained unattended, “Whenever she stepped out of the house with us she went into a somewhat mental zone where her attention span went no farther than the five kids trailing her,” McBride subsequently wrote “My mom had absolutely no interest in a world that seemed incredulously agitated by our presence. The remarks and stares that we heard as we walked about the world went right over our head.” Her indomitable spirit and her son’s recollections became the basis of “The Color of Water”. In the work there is a great presence of God and the fortitude he unconditionally sends, especially to Ruth. Although Ruth’s clout frequently surpassed her circadian problems, she would more regularly rely on God for her vigor.
Throughout Ruth’s journey, after the death of her husband, she finds different ways to make a living for herself and her daughter. She does whatever she has to do for her daughters, even it means to leave the role of the “traditional” woman. Once she steps down as the role of the “traditional” woman, she looks for different jobs in order to support her children she cares about. Despite all of this, her own family still believes that she is incapable to take care of herself and her children. They put her down constantly by stating that she is much better
Unknown, to James at this point he did not realize that he was having a problem with a psychological theory called behaviorism. Now this theory is one that is saying human behavior is developed through learning experiences which in this case would apply to James. His behavior as an adult was reflected by the way he was treated as a kid by his father and mother because they fought all the time. They never truly paid any attention to him, which in terms taught him how to stay out of their way and learn how to steal and burglarize places without getting caught. Therefore, within the psychological theory of behaviorism Behaviorists saw crime as something that is a learned response to life’s situations such as James situation which led him to a life of crime because of his parents. Although, he was never truly mistreated, he did not receive his father attention due to the fact of the way his father was treated as a child growing up an abusive household. Therefore, he did not want to place his son in the same situation. There is also the fact that James could be suffering from the psychodynamic theory which says that a person’s personality can be controlled by their unconscious mental process and that is grounded in them in early childhood. These entire things such as the id, ego, and superego
In the memoir, The color of Water, the author James McBride's life is rawly laid out for the reader. It discusses his life and his search to understand his mother's identity. In understanding who she is, he believes that he will better be able to identify himself and who he is. His memoir involves stories from his mother's and his own point of view, that help the reader understand the hardships that both individuals encountered, and overall how similar their perspectives truly are. Throughout the book, James tells the reader about many different events that took place over the course of his life. There are a select few that truly influenced the path his life took, and the way he sees himself. These major events include James' step father passing
In conclusion, the fact that Ruth lived through so much trauma from her father most likely brought out the strength in her heart, and caused her to realize that she wants a good life for her children instead of the trauamtic life that she lived through in her own childhood. Ruth’s overall identity could be explicity explained as a mother who is strong, has a lot of faith in God, and a woman with a lot of value and love for all of her twelve children. Ruth Mcbride’s strength and confidence helps herself through the hardships of her childhood, her relationships with Dennis and Hunter, as well as James Mcbride and the rest of her children. She developed the identity of a strong-willed mother, lover, and a woman of God.
Everyone experiences loss within themselves. There will be a time of uncertainty of who you are, and in order to discover your identity, you will go through many obstacles that lead you step by step. James Mcbride is lost as in who he is. There's a feeling of uncertainty in his life, from his mother's past to himself. He is lost in many ways, and he will go on an adventure of self discovery to find himself through answers. In James Mcbride’s memoir, The Color of Water, he is a black kid with a white mother with an unknown past. He is struggling to find himself until he keeps coming to a wall. He eventually overcomes this wall by finding his identity while having his perception of the world change. Although James Mcbride becomes aware of his
This warms my heart. Mothers devote most of their lives to their children. They are willing to do anything for their children. I can clearly visualize the picture of Ruth sending James away. Although they are both heartbroken, they conceal their pain for each other. I love how Ruth offered all the money she had to James. It truly shows how a mother is willing to sacrifice everything just for her child. Fourteen dollars may not be a lot, but it shows a lot of significance and how much love Ruth has for James.
Everybody on earth faces some type of hardship at some point in their life. Regardless of religious preference most people seek guidance and find comfort through practicing their faith. This is exactly the case for Ruth McBride-Jordan, James McBride’s mother. In the novel The Color of Water, James sends the messages that a strong faith in God can overcome any obstacle and is the foundation for a happy, prosperous life through the story of his mother’s life.
She connects stories of different multicultural relationships between a man and a woman, and then continues on to compare the women and men from each story to each other. Social class is also mentioned in the story of Ruth and Boaz. Boaz was very wealthy and Ruth was found in his fields taking food for Naomi and herself. Traditionally, an individual that is born into a family of wealthiness is able to take care of their loved one- which is what Boaz does for Ruth after
The American Dictionary defines identity as the distinct personality of an individual. Many factors make up one's identity, such as race, one's relationship with society, and religion. People seek other people who with they can identify. One must interact with others and learn from his interests and their responses to find a suitable group. The process of finding a group allows one to discover his or her own identity. Through The Color of Water, James McBride demonstrates that one perceives his identity through feedback from others as well as through his own thoughts and emotions.
On March 13, 1933, Joan Ruth Bader was born in Brooklyn, New York, to Celia Amster and Nathan Bader (Salokar & Volcansek, 1996). Ruth had an older sister, Marilyn, but she passed away at the age of six from meningitis; Ruth was one year old at the time. Cecilia, Ruth’s mother, stayed home and took care of Ruth while she grew up. Cecilia made sure that Ruth worked diligently in school and taught her the value of hard work. Cecilia was diagnosed with cancer while Ruth was in high school and the day before her daughter’s graduation she passed away (Salokar & Volcansek, 1996). One of the greatest influences on Ruth’s life was her mother and the values she instilled in her from a young age. Two of the greatest lessons that Ruth learned from her mother was to be independent and to be a lady, and by that she meant not to respond in anger but to remain calm in si...
The first problem Ruth faces is how to support her family. Accused of not paying enough attention to her son, Ruth snaps at Mama shouting, “I feed my son, Lena!” (1880). This encounter with Mama displays an uptight, stressed side of Ruth, who balances a job, a son, her husband, and keeping the expected baby a secret. With so much preoccupying her mind, Ruth still tries to make money while feeling ill telling Mama, “I have to go. We need the money,” (1881). Money becomes a topic of great interest in the Younger family causing everyone to worry entirely too much about it. Ruth puts her family before herself caring about their conditions and the money they make over her own health. The next struggle Ruth encounters is deciding what option is best for her family and possible new baby. After finding out about the pregnancy, Ruth assures her family “she”, the doctor, confirmed everything is fine (1888). The slip up reveals that Ruth is considering getting an abortion. Furthermore, pushing her own conflict aside, Ruth still supports her family’s dreams, encouraging Mama to “open it”, meaning the check, for Mama’s own benefit and use toward a better lifestyle (1893). Ruth solves her own conflict by deciding to keep the baby and motivate her family in whatever way possible in the new challenges to
People with cancer often begin to define themselves based on their experience with their illness, this self-definition through one’s cancer is one that the characters fear in John Green’s The Fault in Our Stars. The novel shows how the characters strive to discover their identities, but despite that are still identified by their illness. The novel also makes the argument that young people with cancer are not any more virtuous or different than other kids rather, they are just normal kids living with an illness. Augustus wants to be remembered and also be more than just a boy who battled cancer, but despite his efforts is still identified by his illness.
James was an authoritarian parent. He was controlling, in-charge and no one questioned him. He would play the role of the doting father. When his children made mistakes, he made a point to criticize them. He often compared them to other kids that he felt were “more perfect.” When his often unspoken expectations were not met he would yell and scream striking fear into his entire family. “He’s not a warm, fuzzy kind of guy, and he’s not going to inspire feelings of intimacy. But when his system works, he can boast about one thing: His recruits tend to obey” (Dewar).
Thomas Edison, once stated the “Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work”. This statement may hold true for some, however in the era of the Industrial Revolution this was not the case. They knew what hard work was for many it started as early as six years old up to adult hood. Many had to work long, grueling working hours in dirty, dusty conditions. They didn’t miss a chance for changing their lot in life.