How Communication Has Changed Throughout The Years

Friendships

Based on my experience in observing most people’s friendships now days, they are different then how they were in the past. The way friends communicate has changed throughout the years. ???? put another sentence here. There are many causes and effects related to why my best friend and I’s friendship has faded as time goes by.

To begin, I and my best friend Kaiya met when I was in fifth grade. We met at a gymnastics center where our older sisters had practice together every day. After seeing each other so often, we started hanging out frequently and became really good friends. Most people in elementary and into middle school usually fought a lot because that’s how young girls

I was usually the more outgoing of the two of us. Kaiya was always shy and quiet and didn’t show much interest in having a boyfriend. When both of us got to High School, we attended different schools but we still talked almost every day and saw each other on weekends. I graduated a year before Kaiya, so when I got to college she was a senior in High School. In the middle of her senior year, something changed. I remember one day sitting in her room, she told me she met a guy. She told me his name was Jesus. She described him as a funny and handsome guy, who played soccer for her high school team. I can distinctly remember her face lighting up and her cheeks blushing whenever she talked about him. A couple weeks after them hanging out together, she told me that she really liked this guy. He treated her so well and made her feel really special. She would show me the texts they had together. He would call her names like cutie and beautiful. I was so happy that Kaiya had found someone she was comfortable with. After the two of them had been dating for a couple months, I finally got the chance to meet the guy Kaiya wouldn’t shut up about. We were going over to his house to pick something up for her.

Once she and Jesus had been dating for a few months, I began getting ditched by her almost every time we had plans. After while I got used to it and wasn’t even surprised when she canceled plans anymore. A common event that would take place was her making plans with me in advance and then just canceling, sometimes not replying to my messages. I started to plan hangouts in advance so she couldn’t cancel, which ended up not working. Now a days I just wait for her to ask for me to come over so I don’t get let down. Whenever Kaiya and I get the chance to hangout, Jesus is almost always there! It’s usually for a weird reason, like he “forgot something” or he’s outside of her house. One of the most annoying things he does is he shows up at Kaiya’s house randomly and invites her outside to smoke. This has honestly happened so many times I can’t even count. It makes me feel like she doesn’t want to be with me. She CAN’T hang out with me because then she wouldn’t be seeing her boyfriend for a few hours. A few months ago I had lost my breaking point. I told Kaiya I needed to talk to her one afternoon. Once I got into her room I broke down crying. I felt like I had no one in my life anymore to hang out with or talk to. I felt abandoned by her. I told her it felt like he was the only person that meant anything to her; he was the center of her universe. I felt as though even I myself had a boyfriend, I didn’t treat her the way she had been