The movie, He’s Just Not That Into You is based on a book by the same name. The movie depicts the lives of nine people in Baltimore who are struggling in their romantic lives. However, the central character and the story is around Gigi. Gigi is a young woman attempting to understand the mixed signals she gets from the men she’s dating. She is single and very interested in meeting the right man but tends to overanalyze the signs men give off and assumes they are interested in her, even when they don’t call. Gigi assumes the stereotype of the pathetic, desperate girl. She resorts to begging, stalking and other degrading acts to win the attentions of multiple men she dates. In the end, like the others seeking love, Gigi not only gets her man but finds herself and realizes that she has to love who she is before she can love someone else.
Keywords: Communication Barriers, Relationships
The Basic Principles or Ideas of the Movie
The basic principles or ideas of the movie are the challenges of reading or misreading human
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behavior when it comes to love and relationships. How men and women are taught to communicate with each other? At the beginning of the movie, Gigi is a little girl playing in the neighborhood park, when a little boy comes up to her and pushes her down and start calling her names.
Gigi, in turn, runs to her mom and tells her what happened and mom explains to her that when a boy does that to you, that means he likes you. However, the explanation leaves her quite confused, as it should have.
As it is pointed out in the book, chapter two, of I never knew I had a Choice, “What positive and negative messages did I receive from my parents?” (Corey & Corey, 2014, p. 50). Sometimes negative messages are learned from parents, as a result, little girls and boys grow up confused about what authentic love looks like and dealing with communication barriers.
Evaluation of The Movie
He's Just Not That into You (2009)
Cast: Ben Affleck, Jennifer Aniston, Barrymore, Jennifer, Kevin Connolly, Bradley Cooper, Ginnifer Goodwin, Scarlett Johansson
Director: Ken
Kwapis He's Just Not That Into You is a 2009 American romantic comedy-drama film directed by Ken Kwapis, based on the self-help book of the same name by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, which in turn was inspired by a line of dialogue in Sex and the City. The film features an ensemble cast that includes Ben Affleck, Jennifer Aniston, Drew Barrymore, Jennifer Connelly, Kevin Connolly, Bradley Cooper, Ginnifer Goodwin, Scarlett Johansson, and Justin Long. The film was produced by Drew Barrymore's production company, Flower Films while serving as an executive producer. The film grossed over $181 million at the worldwide box office. The movie centers around several relationships, dealing with miscommunication, trust issues, and all that comes with trying to have an authentic relationship. He’s Just Not That into You is a comedy, romance and it is definitely a movie to watch with your girl’s friends for a girl’s night in. The scene is located in Baltimore, where nine people are dealing with romantic problems. At the center of this is Gigi Phillips (Ginnifer Goodwin), a young woman who repeatedly misinterprets the behavior of her romantic partners (Barrymore & Kwapis, 2009). This movie, as I mentioned earlier is a movie you may want to see with the girls. I didn’t go to the theater to see the movie, I waited until it came out on DVD, because that’s how I prefer to watch movies, in the comfort of my home with friends. I thought Gigi was the perfect person to play the character of the needy, clingy girlfriend after one date, her present personality traits could stem from the playground incident earlier in her life and the answer to that incident provided by her mother. She, of course, has her friends Beth (Jennifer Anniston) and Janine (Jennifer Connelly) to console her when things didn’t go as planned, but, the advice given wasn’t always good advice. Beth, Janine and the rest of the characters had their own problems, but it is Gigi as a young woman trying to understand the mixed signals she gets from the men she is dating that really stands out from the rest. The cast was nice to watch together, and the movie was just an easy, fun, entertaining film to enjoy with friends. If you are having serious problems in your relationship, though, I wouldn’t recommend this movie for therapy. How the movie relates to my life? The movie related to my life, because I could relate to the mixed messages incident. I remember sitting by the phone waiting and hoping to get that phone call. Like Gigi, I received negative information from my mother and grandmother who probably received it from their parents. I was told not to date light-skinned men because they were no good and self-centered. It was not until I met a light-skinned man that did not fit into the description given me that I finally realized those statements were not valid. Although, the guy I was hoping to call just happened to be a light-skinned man, so it made me wonder was my mom and grandmother right all alone. So, just like Gigi in the movie, I decided to call and to my surprise, I could only get his voice mail, after calling three times. Of course, I was upset and wonder what was wrong with me, but I knew I had to let go for me. Even though it didn’t work out, I have since learned that it’s not the color of your skin that defines you, but your character. I still love my mom and grandmother, just not their advice. How the movie demonstrates a concept or idea from one of the textbook chapters Any relationship may have periods of joy and excitement as well as times of pain and distance. As long as the individuals in a relationship are willing to accept this, their relationship has a chance to change as well (Corey & Corey, 2014, p.204). The movie demonstrated a concept or idea from chapter seven which discusses meaningful relationships. In the movie, the women had meaningful relationships, each one had a separate identity, but they all shared the common goal of wanting to establish a long term meaningful relationship with their mate or a potential one. One of the relationships in the movie that finally broke the communication barrier was that of Beth and Neal. They enjoyed a successful, healthy relationship, but storm clouds hovered over them as Neal was not interested in getting married. Neal, the nice and attentive boyfriend was firmly against marriage, stating that things were fine the way they were (Barrymore & Kwapis, 2009).
There are many more examples throughout this movie that can be connected or assessed to the many different concepts that was learned. There are many real-life events and these concepts are important because they allow people to see how different types of people and families deal with stress and problems and it is important not to judge or jump to conclusions and maybe take a step back and take time to consider what others may be going
also the story that is implied by the author’s emotions and implications. One of the main
...the predominant theme of disorientation and lack of understanding throughout the film. The audience is never clear of if the scene happening is authentic or if there is a false reality.
The first topic that is found in the movie that was taught in class is conflict. Conflict is expressed disagreement over perceived incompatible goals. Although it may seem it, conflict is not always a negative thing. Conflict is needed and can help growth of relationships. Many conflicts are started because people have different conversational styles. In class, we learned that there are guidelines that one should follow in order to help prevent conflict or help solve it. The guidelines include clarifying goals, helping others save face, using constructive criticism skills, using empathic listening skills, monitoring nonverbal be...
Struggles with learning lessons in life can be challenging. Learning to make good choices in life and lead a life of righteousness can prove difficult, especially when dealing with family members who don’t make the right choices themselves. It’s hard to make good life choices when surrounded by people who are always making the wrong choice and lying. Parents should be respected, trustworthy and role models for developing minds of their children. Like life, not every choice can be black or white.
The chapter started by an overview of the short story and the film adaptation that I deal with, concerning the main theme,
reflects upon the theme of the novel. As it highlights the fact that if people in the society
Although there were many concepts that were present within the movie, I choose to focus on two that I thought to be most important. The first is the realistic conflict theory. Our textbook defines this as, “the view that prejudice...
To begin with, one of the lessons the story shows is that the situation one wishes and hopes to be
The first concept from the book that I immediately thought of after watching this movie was chapter 4, Behavior and Attitudes. The movie, as a whole, is all about behavior and attitude. Our main character, Rylie, is seen as a “happy girl” by her parents. But when Joy is shut out
However, regardless what the subjects are, the definition of them are changing as the era changes. By listening too much negative information from the mass media, people's abilities of thinking, feeling are losing gradually. Babette's naively idea on challenging the whole family of preparing for the world; people's self-comfort move of buying SUV for "safety"; Jack's family buying their own satisfaction and the conversation between Jack and Murray on taking position on viewing death; they all mislead by the lopsided balance of their physical and psychological life. All those "plots" that cause those people to form the wrong perspective in life, are hocusing people from finding the truth of themselves as though providing people the psychological comfort from materiality; and it becomes the most common life type in this society.
The film begins with a new teacher, Jaime Escalante, arriving to Garfield High School in East Los Angeles. On his first day he comes to find out that the computer science class he thought he was going to teach doesn't exist, because the school has no computers. In turn he is assigned to take over the general algebra class. From the beginning the film portrays the school as one on its downfall, and with students that are facing poverty. The class he receives is full of students who, according to other teachers at the school, are unintelligent and incapable of learning much of the material. Students cannot be expected to learn material when the teachers themselves do not believe in the stude...
Fabe, Marilyn. "Psychological Themes." Closely Watched Films: An Introduction to the Art of Narrative Film Technique. Berkeley and Los Angeles: University of California, 2004. 105-10. Print.
This movie portrays so many of the social-psychological principles. One that is really noticeable is the person perception principle. In the scene
Have you ever just thought what the heck are my parents thinking, there is no way I'm listening to them? I know I have and I think you probably have to. Its because our parents aren’t always right. There are always those times when your parents are going to be wrong, I mean they're only human. And sometime you're not gonna want to obey them, even though most of the time you should listen. And there are many reasons for that and I’m sure you could think of more but here are the ones I got from Romeo and Juliet. There are three main reasons I can think of for why you shouldn’t obey your parents; if they want you to do something that could cause harm to you, if they ask you to do something that you are unable to do, or if they want you to follow a plan or something that they want you to do not something that would make you happy.