The Five Principles of Mating Success
Mating success does not encompass dating tactics and sex facts only. To say that learning and memorizing or completing a list of things in order will slow you to mate successfully is not only nonsense but is in fact completely wrong. Sure there are few essential core principle that you ought to follow to be successful at mating. The goal of the book is to introduce you to those core principles and teach you how and where to apply those principles.
The First Principle: Make Decisions with Science (Not Bias)
The problem with today’s dating advice is that it’s basically based on assumptions and conventional wisdom defined by political and religious ideologies. This dating advice is outdated, irrelevant, and
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Science reports reality and helps you take responsibility of what you believe in. Think critically, test hypothesis, and go through a process of trial and error in your mating life.
Understand the principle: Base your decisions on science.
The Second Principle: Account For the Woman’s Perspective
Both men and women have different perspective on mating. To be successful in mating you ought to be able to account for woman’s perspective.
Women are more complicated than you give them credit for and evolved accordingly to protect themselves from any harm that anyone can inflict on them. If you are naïve enough to think that you can get women without understanding them, then you have only yourself to blame.
You may get lucky enough to stumble upon a person who is willing to put up with your crap, but it is bound to end badly for both the parties involved.
The other way is to understand women and give them respect, attention and a commitment to mutual benefit.
Throughout the book, we are going to focus on understanding women on several levels:
• Why did women evolve to have certain sexual concerns and
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The Third Principle: Own Your Attractiveness
You have no say in what kind of genes you inherit or the kind of environment you grew up in, but you can choose what you do with your life. From this day on, you must take personal responsibility of your choices, you actions, you habits, your traits and your attractiveness to women.
This concept of taking responsibility of your actions is not new. It dates back to Nietzsche and from existentialism to modern psychotherapy. You are free to choose and do what you please with your life.
The point is emphasized because women don’t really “choose” to be attracted to you. They are attracted to some features and if you have those features they can’t help but be attracted to you. All you need to do is develop those characteristics. You can either work on your personality, and develop characteristics that women find attractive or talk yourself into living a life of perpetual
Human’s put a tremendous amount of brain energy and time into obtaining happiness, which is normally associated with finding the “perfect” mate. Many aspects go into the process that is used to determine if one person is better suited than another. Appearance, age, and personality all contribute to someone’s level of attraction to another. Opposites attract is a common myth stating that those levels of attraction are based of extreme differences between the individuals and that difference is what produces the attraction.
choice. No one can blame either nature or nurture for involuntary creating who they are. A
Critical Evaluationg of Psychological Theories of Interpersonal Attraction Interpersonal Attraction suggests as attraction between people, and although it may not in terms of a romantic relationship scenario as the phrase suggests, it nethertheless suggests an important attraction to create a relationship with a particular person. It may by that we are attracted to a particular person or a social relationship because we find them pleasant or because we find life alone unpleasant or unrewarding. Schacter (1959) conducted a study in which female participants were told that they were going to receive an electric shock in a following experiment. Half of the subjects were told it would be painful and the other half were told it would not be painful. Each group were given the option to wait with another person or on their own for the experiment.
Reproduction in Homo sapiens, as in all animals, is a primary driving force and has been elaborated upon since the beginnings of society. Humans must take part in sexual reproduction to produce offspring, thus initiation behaviors can be studied. Commonly, the male makes advances and the female is the selector, or chooses the mate. For humans, this holds true and behavior is modified to maximize competitive receptability. This phenomenon carries across all cultural boundaries and is deeply rooted in the overall behavior patterns in the people of the culture. People try to refine their natural appearance to maximize mating opportunity. The males attempt to enhance features for success in initiation and females compete for receptability completeness.
...nd a woman should have personalities that match with each other, most probably they will be the opposite of each other. For example, a business man who is firm with his employees will be attracted to a woman who is kind and gentle with other people.
In the article the researchers were trying to challenge the sexual strategies theory. It seems as though sexual strategies theory is different genders having different preferences when choosing a mate, in the case of long and short term relationships. The hypothesis at first was that both boys and girls felt that attractiveness was important. Girls would be more inclined to date someone because of social status and that boys would be the complete opposite. They also expected that social status would only become important when the person is attractive and social status would be important no matter if the person is attractive on no for girls. The last thing that was tested was according to Ha (2009) “the potential moderator effects of self-perceived mate value on adolescents desire to date with an attractive person.” Also according to Ha (2009) “They hypothesized that boys and girls preference for attractiveness and high social status would be independent of their own perceived mate value.” The information used to come to result of the theory has been known to be collect using surveys ...
Sprecher, Susan, Quintin Sullivan, and Elaine Hatfield. 1994. “Mate Selection Preferences: Gender Differences Examined in a National Sample.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 66, 6: 1074-1080.
The five factors associated with attraction are proximity, similarity, reciprocal liking, physical attractiveness, and evolution (Aronson, Wilson, & Akert, 2013). With proximity, people are more likely to become attracted to those they see and interact with regularly. The second factor, similarity, is based upon two individuals having a general match in interests, attitudes, values, etc. In reciprocal liking, an interested in someone is often sparked when they know the other is interested, despite being dissimilar in other aspects. Physical attraction plays a role in that it is the factor that has the greatest impact on sexual desire. With physical attraction, there is also the assumption that what is beautiful is good, and therefore possessing all other positive qualities, as well. Lastly, evolution is believed to play a role in attraction because men and women seek certain characteristics in order to maximize their reproductive success (Aronson et al., 2013). Each of these factors plays a role in determining attraction but...
A psychological mechanism is defined as an adaptation of human behavior that evolved due to evolutionary pressures. This paper focuses on the psychological mechanism of human mating strategies and the evolution of mate preferences. There are several theories to explain how differences in male and female mating strategies developed. This paper explores the parental investment theory, male mating effort as well as the role of different adaptive problems faced by males and females. The traits that humans find attractive in a partner are the ones that confer a reproductive advantage to the individual (Buss, 1994). Early in the literature there is evidence to support the theory that males and females differ in their mate preferences in such a way that males are unselective while females are choosy (Darwin 1871). However, there are also similarities in what each sex finds attractive. It is important to look at how these mating strategies evolved and why adaptive mate preferences continue to exist.
The article, On Human Nature: Sex and the Single Monkey, was published by The Sciences over fifteen years ago. Written by Robert Sapolsky, the article addresses a multitude of mating concepts and theories between female and male organisms, including humans and primates. I would not say that the article is dated from the concept of anatomical and physiological behaviors and reactions because these remain constant. However, a glaring component is missing in this article based on our changing times and socially accepted beliefs. I also find the article too narrow in scope leaving several questions unanswered.
Deep inside, girls know what they want; they just need authoritative men to give it to them.
Good physical appearance helps in building up flexible relationships. For example women who take care of their physical appearance manage to have a better relatio...
It may seem obvious to some why people mate, however there are many facets to human mating. Psychology has shown that reasons for mating have gone beyond the scope of love and physical attractiveness. People may search for mates who resemble archetypical images of the opposite-sex parent, mates with characteristics that are either complementary or similar to one's own qualities, or mates with whom to make an exchange of valuable resources (Buss 238). Although these theories play a key role in understanding patterns in human mating preferences, evolutionary psychology and sexual selection theory provide more concrete frameworks for explaining human mating.
Every man’s dream is to have the perfect companion. However, in order to have one, you must first be able to get one. Most believe such a task can be extremely difficult, yet if done properly, it can be accomplished swiftly and efficiently. In fact, there are only a few basic procedures to getting a girl.
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