Film Analysis: I Love You, Man

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When discussing issues brought about through sex roles, marriages, and families in transitions it is viewed from the female scope. The pressures put on women in these situations are often more overbearing than the one’s put on men, due to statistics about gender inequality that results with women receiving less opportunity than men. Movies tend to focus on the pressures society puts on women, romantic comedies often capitalizing on the stress women go through with marriage and creating a family. “I Love You, Man” reverses the roles, with the lead male character being the one pressured and overwhelmed with him and his fiancé’s upcoming wedding. He is judged for not having any true friends, or at least one deemed appropriate enough to fill his best man …show more content…

Sydney although briefly uninvited to Pete and Zooey’s wedding arrives ready to be his best man. Although the movie does end up having Pete finding a best man through a male friend, making him fall into society’s notions of what should occur, this does not take away from the movie’s greater meaning. Everyone believes that Pete is a freak because he does not have any other male friends, but in reality he is just a very caring and understanding man who just focused his attention elsewhere. There is nothing wrong with him having spent his past working on relationships with his girlfriends instead of his male friends, and it did not mean he was unable to make male friends just because he had not in the past. “I Love You, Man” takes on the task of showing how marriage and sex roles can affect males, as well as females, due to stereotypes of how both sexes should act based on preconceived notions set out by society. The movie properly shows how wrong and unfair these stereotypes can be through the journey of Pete to find a best man, allowing the audience to see sex roles in a different

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