Feeling Love and Affection vs Tolerance

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Late one afternoon, a couple sat quietly in the sofa of their matrimonial home. The wife was an active blogger, so her tablet was in hand; however, her husband worked during the day, at a downtown office, so his hands were pretty much empty. She thought to herself, he must really not want me blogging tonight, because he has been poking me for the last half an hour and telling me to look at him. Of course, he was being annoying, but she didn’t say that either. The husband, seeing the look on her face, said he was sorry for annoying her with his friendship; hence, retreating to the most ridiculous statement that required an “I’m listening” answer, all instead of just telling him to stop. Would you call this wife’s situation love or tolerance? Tolerance, which keeps a person at a distance to avoid unnecessary hurt, in contrast to love and affection, which embraces a person in all things, are often confused in this generation. A negative environment has led to the adaption of tolerance. Tolerance deals with man’s capacity to withstand something, whether it may be pressure, sadness, pain or pleasure. Everyone has their limits, and that is where tolerance steps into play. “Love is a strong liking or embrace of affection towards someone or something” according to (Collins English Dictionary - Complete & Unabridged). “Affection is a feeling of liking and caring for someone or something” as stated by (Mish, Tolerance) in the Merriam- Webster Dictionary. Love and affection are unconditioned and uncontrolled feelings from deep within, as opposed to tolerance, the controlled and conditioned, but not separate from humans who love and show affection as it is a sense of what is accepted.
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