Generation Me: Narcissism in Today's Society

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The book Generation Me by Jean M. Twenge talks about many strong problems we in in today’s world. It has always been taught that our thoughts and feelings are important. It's no surprise that students are now being tested on it. Even when schools, parents, and the media are not specifically targeting self-esteem, they promote the equally powerful concepts of socially sanctioned self-focus, the unquestioned importance of the individual, and an unfettered optimism about young people's prospects. It explores the consequences of individualism that go beyond self-esteem, and all the ways that we consciously and unconsciously train children to expect so much out of life. Narcissism is displayed many times throughout Generation Me but I will be focusing on narcissism portrayed through parents and children, I do believe this happens often in this day and age. …show more content…

The rise in narcissism has very deep roots. It's not just that we feel better about ourselves, but that we even think to ask the question. We fixate on self-esteem, and unthinkingly build narcissism, because we believe that the needs of the individual are paramount. This will stay with us even if the self-esteem programs end up in the dust bin of history. Too many parents fall into to the myth that if you discipline children, you're going to break their spirit. It is not about breaking there spirit though, it is about teaching them right from wrong. Teaching them that they will make mistakes and they will have to deal with the

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