As American singer-songwriter Carl Carlton once sang, “From the very start, open up your heart, be a lasting part of everlasting love” (Carlton). Everlasting love is not just the name of a song written in the 60s, nor is it just a fantasy. Though it may not be found in the dictionary, everlasting love is a concept that is undoubtedly attainable. The fields of psychology and science have provided proof of a love that can last a lifetime. Nevertheless, just like with any controversial topic there are critics, but when presented the facts, the right answer is clearly evident. Indeed, one of those critics happened to be American poet, Edna Millay. In one of her well known sonnets, “I shall forget you presently, my dear”, Millay makes the statement …show more content…
Dr. Fred Nour, a neurologist in California, broke down love into four steps; mate selection, romance and falling in love, falling out of romantic love, and true love. In each step, Nour characterizes the feelings and biological factors present. Mate selection includes one’s unconscious selection of another person who they could picture having children with. Romance and falling in love, the most well-known stage, consists of the brain chemical monoamines. These chemicals are responsible for creating a rush of emotions when one sees the one they love. Though Nour claims that, “these intense emotions will go away in a few years,” he later on states that this phase is crucial because, “it prepares you for true love down the road. If you don’t truly fall in love with your partner, you won’t be primed for the last stage”. The specific stage Nour is speaking of is stage four, true love. In this stage, Dr. Nour has discovered that, “driven by chemicals call nonapeptides, this stage ensures a deep bond between you and your partner- nature’s way of keeping you together to take care of your kids until they’re grown up” …show more content…
Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist, and Art Aron, a professor of psychology at the State University of New York, have set out to prove that accusation wrong. In a recent study conducted in 2008, Fisher and Aron took MRI scans of couples who had been in a relationship for only a short time, and those who had been in a relationship for more than twenty-five years. From the study they found that, “the brain areas associated with intense romantic love still become active, 25 years later” (Fisher 1). This scientific evidence disproves the claim that many who oppose the idea of an everlasting love cling on to. It not only demonstrates that relationships can last, but that those relationships that do are not bound to eventually become dull and lose their
"Love can affect you so deeply that it reshapes you from the inside out and by doing so alters you destiny for future loving moments" says Fredrickson but she seems to have forgotten that there always two perspectives to any ideology. It is indubitable that the experiences of love play a crucial role in molding an individual, but it is ignorant to say that only love will cause such change. The reality is that not all relationships and encounters are true "micro-moment of love" and those negative experiences also partake in what creates the identity and thought process of an individual. With the knowledge that an individual 's cell play a crucial role in deciding who to have "micro-moments of love"; such negative experience will be associated with the factual, biological notion of love. Thus causing individuals to feel that the negative experience they had to face and deal with were a result of their body and its biology. The idea that their body and brain, essentially unalterable, were capable of causing them pain and heartache, will hinder them from achieving the love and longing for others that Fredrickson describes. The idea that love is functioning by the orders registered by the individual 's body, makes love uncontrollable. Humans in nature are predisposed
While it may be easier to persuade yourself that Boo’s published stories are works of fiction, her writings of the slums that surround the luxury hotels of Mumbai’s airport are very, very real. Katherine Boo’s book “Behind the Beautiful Forevers – Life, Death, and Hope in a Mumbai Undercity” does not attempt to solve problems or be an expert on social policy; instead, Boo provides the reader with an objective window into the battles between extremities of wealth and poverty. “Behind the Beautiful Forevers,” then, exposes the paucity and corruption prevalent within India.
Edna St. Vincent Millay once stated, “I am glad that I paid so little attention to good advice; had I abided by it I might have been saved from some of my most valuable mistakes.” Millay was a poet in the early 1900s. She wrote numerous poems in which all had a constant theme. Two of my favorite poems from her are Spring, which was written in 1921, and I Forgot for a Moment, which was published in 1940. These two poems were written nineteen years apart, but Millay showed a thematic connection between them.
True love is a reason for everything, even deleting the laws of life. People's mistakes and weaknesses are part of life; and, without contradic...
The article '' love: the right chemistry'' by Anastasia Toufexis efforts to explain the concept of love from a scientific aspect in which an amateur will understand. Briefly this essay explains and describe in a scientific way how people's stimulation of the body works when you're falling in love. The new scientific researches have given the answer through human physiology how genes behave when your feelings for example get swept away. The justification for this is explained by how the brain gets flooded by chemicals. The author expresses in one point that love isn't just a nonsense behavior nor a feeling that exhibits similar properties as of a narcotic drug. This is brought about by an organized chemical chain who controls different depending on the individual. A simple action such as a deep look into someone's eyes can start the simulation in the body that an increased production of hand sweat will start. The tingly feeling inside your body is a result of a scientific delineation which makes the concept of love more concretely and more factually mainly for researchers and the wide...
Most people would say that love is a concept which will always be a mystery to man, because it is so changeable, and therefore it will always be able to fool and distort man’s thoughts. Love can both be happy and miserable, and this makes it very powerful and therefore able to control the entire behaviour of a person. Throughout a lifetime people will unavoidably experience things that will have a certain impact on the individual’s personality as well as further development. These experiences will often become memories that will follow them their entire life. This is also the case in “Mule Killers”, where a father tells his son about the memories he has of the year his son was conceived and his relationship to his father.
Sian Beilock is the author of this novel, the information written by her would be considered credible due to the fact that she is a leading expert on brain science in the psychology department at the University of Chicago. This book was also published in the year 2015 which assures readers that the information it contains is up to date and accurate. The novel is easy to understand and the author uses examples of scientific discoveries to help make the arguments more relatable. Beilock goes into depth about how love, is something more than just an emotion, it derives from the body’s anticipation. “Volunteers reported feeling
Ninety percent of Americans marry by the time that they are fifty; however, forty to fifty percent of marriages end in divorce ("Marriage and Divorce"). Love and marriage are said to go hand in hand, so why does true love not persist? True, whole-hearted, and long-lasting love is as difficult to find as a black cat in a coal cellar. Loveless marriages are more common than ever, and the divorce rate reflects this. The forms of love seen between these many marriages is often fleeting. Raymond Carver explores these many forms of love, how they create happiness, sadness, and anything in between, and how they contrast from true love, through his characters in "What We Talk About When We Talk About Love". Four couples are presented: Mel and Terri, Nick and Laura, Ed and Terri, and, most importantly, an unnamed elderly couple; each couple exhibits a variation on the word love.
As any romantic will assert, love is by far the most powerful force known to human hearts and minds. This sentiment is espoused throughout history, almost to the point of cliché. Everyone has heard the optimistic statement, “love conquers all,” and The Beatles are certain, however idyllic it may be, that “all you need is love.” Humanity is convinced that love is unique within human emotion, unequalled in its power to both lift the spirit up in throws of ecstasy, and cast it down in utter despair.
In The New Humanities Reader edited by Richard E. Miller and Kurt Spellmeyer. We read about Barbara Fredrickson the author of the book “Love 2.0” copy right (2013). Barbara Fredrickson is a psychologist who show in her research how our supreme emotion affects everything we Feel, Think, Do and become. Barbara also uses her research from her lab to describe her ideas about love. She defines love not as a romance or stable emotion between friends, partners and families, but as a micro-moment between all people even stranger (108). She went farther in her interpretation of love and how the existence of love can improve a person’s mental and physical health (107). Through reading
By choosing to lover her child, the mother acknowledges that she doesn’t feel as if she is obligated to do so because she wants to love him or her and is prepared for the challenges that await her. Thoma Oord writes in his article “The Love Racket: Defining Love and Agape for the Love–and–Science Research Program” that the definition of love refers to the “promotion of well being of all others in an enduring, intense, effective, and pure manner” meaning that when a person loves someone, they will try to do whatever they can to their beloved’s benefit (922). The child is benefited in many ways when the mother chooses to love him or her, for example, the child’s anxiety levels and sense of fear are lowered because they have the security of the bond they possess with their mother (Tarlaci 745). In his article, “Unmasking the Neurology of Love,” Robert Weiss explains that love is a “goal-orientated motivation state rather than a specific emotion” which arises the possibility of a mother “falling out of love” with her child if neither feelings or goals are present. Tarlaci observed an experiment conducted by A. Bartels and S. Zeki in which they compared the brain activity of both a mother looking at a picture of her child to a lover looking at a picture of their beloved. In the experiment it was discovered that “just about the same regions of the brain showed activity in the same two groups except for one” the PACG, which has been confirmed to be “specific to a mother’s love” (Tarlaci 747). So the chances of a mother falling out of love with her child are there, but are different from that of a lover due to the areas of the brain involved. Therefore, explaining the bond between a mother and child as something that forms when a mother chooses to love him or her implies a greater sense of willingness and
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The film Endless Love is about the struggle of a first love, the story of a privileged girl and a charismatic boy whose instant desire sparks a love affair. The film is a romance and drama theme, which was written in 2013. These characters are out rightly different, they are both classmates who have just graduated from high school. David, who is a smart and sensitive grease-monkey who works in his dad’s auto shop has no plans to go to college, but has an incredible ACT score. Jade, a sheltered rich girl who needs to realize what life has to offer her. David lights her fire that she lost in mourning after the death of her brother. Her brother dying of cancer distracted her from her high school life. Although Jade’s dad is 100% against these two being together, it makes these two love struck teens more determined to prove to him that they crave each other. Desire is an excellent way to describe David’s passion and overwhelming want for Jade.
Marrying because of romantic love is ill-fated because love is merely an emotion, and emotions are just a response of the limbic system of the brain being stimulated by the body’s attempt at regulating neural processes and the release of pheromones and chemicals. The release of such chemicals are caused by a random sequence of events, mainly the increase of one’s heart rate alongside the increase of respiration rate. This sequence of events is what can cause the “falling out of love” experienced by many, because the release of dopamine and phenylethylamine is not permanent and the high experienced quickly fades. For the feeling of love to last a steady chemical benefit of serotonin and oxytocin are required.
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