Essay On Romantic Love

Love is defined as the act of caring for others unconditionally and ensuring their integrity. This definition of love can be conveyed in serval different ways and forms and is dependent on the person that is being shown love. Such as family and friends, the love they receive is a kindred kind that cares about their whole being and focuses on their state of well- being and the happiness you bring to them and vice versa. Aside from kindred love is romantic love. Romantic love is problematic because it is the desire to please your significant other, in an immature way that sacrifices your individuality while preserving your partner’s individuality and life outside the relationship. Romantic love is not bad in itself but is bad because people

37). Monique has to feel needed or she feels her existence is worthless this in essence is exactly why her husband left her, at first he thought her dedication to others was honorable but now he finds her reliance on people pathetic. Monique loves because the people she surrounds herself with make her feel needed which is her primary source of happiness, which strengthens the argument that her dependence upon feeling needed by those who love her is the only way she can love them. for example, “I telephone Colette: she had the flu. She protested when I said I was coming straight back to Paris Jean Pierre was looking after her very well. but I was worried, and I got back that same day.” (Beauvoir, Pg. 124). Monique is willing to sacrifice the only alone time she gets to take care of her daughter because she needs to satisfy her need of feeling necessary in her daughter’s life. Monique’s persistence to tend to her daughter is her way to achieve happiness because she is satisfying her need to feel needed. Mature love defined by Erich Fromm is a principle that states “I am loved because I love” (Fromm, Pg. 37). This translates into the idea that when you love people without hesitation or expectation they will return the

Exhibiting more of the personality traits you’ve adapted to in order to be more appealing to your significant other. This loss of personality ends up preserving your partner’s individuality because they are not expected to change themselves to make the relationship more successful. “a man in love, in their most violent passions, they never abandon themselves completely.” (Beauvoir, Pg. 773). The person on the opposite side of the spectrum receiving the love is not likely to give up any of their habits or get entangled in complete devotion. Preserving your partner’s individuality and life outside the relationship is only beneficial to them because they retain their freedom not only as an individual but in a social setting as well. In Monique’s case she acknowledges her husband, Maurice’s life outside the relationship because he leaves often to spend time with Noelle and participate in activities with her. “He closed the door of the bedroom and the front door gently. From the window I saw him scrupulously polishing the car, delighted. It seemed to me that he was probably humming.” (Beauvoir, Pg. 151). Maurice preserves his life outside the relationship by doing little things like this he doesn’t base his relationship on spending time with Monique but instead doing things he would do in sense of being