Essay About Manhood

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Is there such a thing as precarious manhood?
We’re living in a society that expect men to be strong, bold, and protective. Men are not supposed to be vulnerable because vulnerability shows weakness. They are expected to be powerful, resilient and brave. A leader who rules by the exercise of threats, force, or violence, proving manhood means as unfeminine as possible. Manhood is described as a fragile state that needs to be earned and which can be easily lost or taken away. That is why boys are forced to develop a sense of shame over any kind of feminine act; one of the stereotype between gender starts at an early age, growing up boys are supposed to wear blue and girls wear pink.
What defines a “real man” in today’s society? Masculinity sets an imposing standard for men in our modern society to follow. Men are being accused of being “too soft” and their status as men seems more fragile than ever. Recently, I have read an article by Average2Alpha that state twenty-one things that modern men need to stop doing. The title of the article states what “men” should stop doing but the request was generally for both gender. The statements follow as such:
Stop complaining. Stop comparing yourself to others. Stop worrying about your clothes. Stop letting your fear inhibit your …show more content…

A real man is kind and compassionate. He is hard-working and honest. He has self-control and respect when he speaks to anyone. He is willing to be corrected and counseled. He is faithful, reliable, able to forgive. A real man is humble, generous and peacemaker. These are some of the qualities of a good man. Being vulnerable doesn’t make a man less manly. Man are human beings they have feelings as well and it is acceptable for them to express their

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