Escape of the Abused

Abuse is one of the most demeaning and destructive acts, yet it is overlooked and sometimes ignored but is becoming one of the most rapidly growing crimes in today’s society. Often, this crime is overlooked on account of the fact that the worst abuse that takes place is not always physical, but emotional and mental abuse and society as a whole, does not comprehend how demoralizing and destructive this is. The people who are consistently abused, whether it be female or male, adult or child, each individual live their lives in constant fear of their abuser, and they frequently find themselves in a situation where they begin to feel like they can no longer trust anyone else. “It takes the average victim seven attempts before leaving.”(Jarett 3) With an average of this magnitude, how far does the abuser typically have to go before the person who is being abused leaves?

Contrary to the incidents that are reported and the stories that are relayed, “Domestic violence does not discriminate.” (Kulmala 1) In the media, the public hears about the abused women and children, but rarely do you hear about the men who are abused. This type of abuse to men certainly exists: it is just that most men are taught not to fight back or hit a woman. They also are often humiliated, or even laughed at if they share their story because as a society, we have the premonition that a real man cannot be abused by a woman. “One out of six boys are abused before they reach the age of eighteen.” (Bailey 2) What is even worse is that these men are not only taught that they should not fight back, but sometimes their situation will be such that they genuinely cannot fight back. The majority of these abusers will bite and hit the men while they are asle...

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... cycle of their parent, or parents in some cases, abusing them. Nine out of ten people who were abused as a child never tell anyone about it.

Contrary to what is reported and what many people believe, abuse does not always happen from the start, some families can have no sign of abuse for many years when a family member may begin to abuse them. The abuser most likely grew up being abused, or witnessing a family member being abused, and by abusing their children, the abusers begin a never ending loop of abusive behavior. What most people are not aware of is that the abusers literally need the person that they are abusing. They are desperate for attention and they will get it regardless of what means are necessary to do so. The most tragic thing about this is, due to their love for their abuser, some victims never leaving, and that often costs them their lives.