Enneagram Personality Analysis

Everyone has their own personality, but each of those personalities can be separated into 9 categories through the enneagram system. Assessing one’s personality type can help strengthen and understand relationships in a person's life. I have focused on how enneagram number four, my personality type, impacts my relationship with my boyfriend Lukas who is enneagram number two. A relationship between a four, the romantic, and a two, the giver, can be extraordinarily intense. My relationship with Lukas, to put it simply, is quite intense.
There are an abundance wonderful things about Lukas’s personality that I love. Lukas is quite emotional as am I, which is a defining trait of both twos and fours. Fours are emotionally aware, and twos are highly

While I love that Lukas is emotional, at times it causes our conversations end with one of us being hurt. We both can be too expressive of the negative emotions we are feeling. An example that is representative of a relationship between a two and four is when Lukas was helping me with my common application essay. I appreciated all of the constructive criticism he gave, but it became too much for me and I became very defensive. Instead of making note of his suggestions I began to counter them as my mental state turned negative. Then Lukas grew frustrated with me because it seemed like I was invalidating everything he said. It became a cycle of negativity and we both left that conversation feeling terrible about ourselves. For twos helping people is what they strive to do, but it can be their downfall as well. Lukas occasionally becomes self-sacrificing putting my needs before his, but it then backfires and he becomes hostile towards me. Recently he has been struggling to adjust to university life and has been in a noticeably poor mental state. When we Facetime, Lukas still lets me vent and pushes his own problems aside. Although, afterward Lukas becomes upset with me because he did not get the chance to talk about himself. Another issue Lukas and I face is our differences in sociability. Being sociable is difficult for me; however, when Lukas is there to support me, I function so much better at social events. The downfall is that since Lukas wants to please everyone he gets distracted with them and is not there for me to lean on. At parties, Lukas often becomes preoccupied because there are so many people he wants to impress. Since he knows that I am already impressed by him I get pushed into the sidelines as he hangs out with other people. Without Lukas’s support, I become more introverted and feel unwanted. These conflicts, while disheartening, are possible to