Comparing Marriage In Shiloh And Raymond Carver's Cathedral

952 Words2 Pages

Essentially, to acquire a healthy marriage, a few keys to success are commitment, good communication skills, trust, and patience. Without these qualities, marriages can immerse in negativity which often leads to divorce. In Bobbie Ann Mason’s “Shiloh” and Raymond Carver’s “Cathedral”, a failing marriage seems to be the similar theme. Both short stories provide instabilities in their relationships and how they lack these fundamental qualities. In “Shiloh,” Leroy and Norma Jean deal with the loss of a child; the grief and unsupportive environment leaves their marriage questionable. In “Cathedral,” the nameless narrator becomes jealous when his wife, who is also nameless, invites an old friend Robert to stay the night after the visitor’s wife …show more content…

He’s glad to be home but does not know how Norma Jean feels about his homecoming. Leroy questions whether she still has feelings for him or if he is just a constant reminder of their baby, Randy’s, death. He notices Norma Jean picked up on some new hobbies like exercising and he realizes they don’t really know each other anymore. The lack of communication makes Leroy wonder if she will eventually leave him. Instead of trying to see where they stand, he continues to remain discreet throughout the …show more content…

His wife’s old friend, Robert’s, wife had died so he came to stay the night before visiting her relatives. When the narrator’s wife tries explaining Robert’s situation, he say’s things like, “Right then my wife filled me in with more detail than I cared to know.” While his wife is good at communicating, the narrator just doesn’t care. Towards the end of the story, another example of his selfishness is when he says, “My wife opened up her eyes and gazed at us. She sat up on the sofa, her robe hanging open. She said, ‘What are you doing? Tell me, I want to know.’ I didn't answer her.” Subsequently, his comment displays his lack of respect towards her and he literally ignores what she asks him.
Insecurities in relationships cause unwanted doubt and anxiety. It creates an unstable partnership that only becomes more destructive the worse it gets. For Leroy, his character relentlessly focuses on how Norma Jean feels about him. While he is confident of his love for her, he is unsure of what she still wants. Leroy is fixated on the idea of building her a log house—one he thought she always wanted. When he discovers that isn’t the case, he panics and tries to think of something else that could help their relationship before it is too

Open Document