Challenge of Taking Care Elderly Loved One

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My mother broke her hip and had to stay at a nursing home temporarily to rehabilitate. I knew then if she had to stay for a long term that would not be option for my mother. Nursing homes are okay, if family members are checking on your love one while they are there; because I believe they do not have adequate staff to accommodate all the patients in the nursing home. As a result the challenges of taking care of my mother were her refusal to help, effects to health of caretaker, and family conflicts.
My mother lived in her home for 50 years. Getting my mother to leave her home and all that was familiar to her was not easy task. She did not feel like she had to leave because she thought she could take care of herself. Some of the reason according to Mayo Clinic Staff (n.d.) is “If your loved one is in need of care, he or she is likely dealing with loss — physical loss, mental loss, the loss of independence. Accepting care may mean relinquishing privacy and adjusting to new routines.” (para.2). However she could not get around on her own after breaking her hip. She was never rehabilitated at the nursing home, because of her unwillingness to commit to physical therapy. My mother had to return home because she would scream and cry and talk all through the night at the nursing home disturbing the other patients. After bringing her home, I would go to my mother’s home to do the cooking, housework, medical tending, and personal hygiene; however it was extremely tough to do while taking care of my home and family. So I literally had to remove her from her home when she really was unwilling to depart. In addition to fact she could not live alone and the medical issue she had a problem with managing her money. My mother would...

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... out for me and get away from the task that was at hand because it can become over whelming and feeling guilty because you are put in the role of taking care of a loved one especially when they are difficult to take care. Also the most important fact is to get an understanding with parents when they are capable of making own health decision and end of life wishes known to all family members especially sibling so that there will be no conflict of what they want.

Works Cited

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/caring-for-the-elderly/MY01436Bursack B. C What to Do When Siblings Can't Agree on a Parent's Care Needs . Retrieved from
(n.d.). Retrieved from http://www.agingcare.com/Articles/sibling-disputes-about-elderly- parents-care-134376.htm
Tepper, L. M., & Cassidy, T. M. (2004). Multidisciplinary perspectives on aging. New York: Springer Pub. Co.

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