Most of us are defensive in one way or another, so never feel that you are unique in the world. For those who feel you’re not defensive (you’re probably not being honest with yourself), you still must interact with people who are, which is most of us. Being defensive is an interpersonal disorder that slowly destroys love and intimacy, and prevents connection between partners and friends.
When someone is in pain most of us react by “fighting” for ourselves, rather than trying to comfort or understand the other person’s pain. We try and demonstrate how the other person is wrong for feeling the way they do. We’ve all been taught that in the face of pain and conflict that we survive as the one who is right and or justified. Essentially, we don’t understand that pain is a safe emotion to have. In its place, we’ve been taught that pain as something to endure, survive and defeat.
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Frequently, the more hurt they are, the more defensive and hurtful we are. It is a uniquely human characteristic that is truly strange behavior. However, it is not so strange when you consider that we’ve all been conditioned to believe that we are our own self, the cautiously constructed version of us that we have learned over our lives. And concurrently, we are conditioned to imagine that our self can be altered, harmed and ultimately destroyed by another’s experience of us, particularly when that experience is not consistent with our self. It is no surprise that we are so frightened and defensive when conflict surrounds us. Our conditioning has trained us that who we are strangely fragile, but in truth you are fiercer than anything we
In “Happiness and Its Discontents” Daniel M.Haybron describes the relationship between pain and happiness. Put simply, pain doesn 't bring happiness,happiness comes from within.
...o give to get something in return. You have to open up and let people in, even though there is the probability of being hurt. Life is full of hurt, but unless you can deal with pain, how are you to ever know what happiness is?
Pain is something that several Americans suffer from on a daily basis for varying reasons.
rom the dawn of time, man has had many questions. Some he finds answers to, while others he might spend his entire life seeking answers to, one of these being the question of why are humans so vicious to each other? Wise men have spent hours devoted to elaborate explanations, when the root of the answer is quite plain: fear. Fear is perhaps the most powerful motivator; from the seemingly minor fear one might harbor towards mice towards the more complex fear of death, all have something above all that inspires intense fear and loathing, something they would drain seas and level mountains to avoid. When confronted by their fear, some become paralyzed, others fight or flee, but when completely immersed in their fear, unable to escape or ignore,
I beg to ask the question, what if happiness, isn’t to just be happy, but to understand pain.
Pain is much easier to endure if we know that it has purpose. We can accept pain, if we know it will lead to a better outcome. Doctors tell us that pain is a friend. Without it, we would not know something is wrong. The nerves in the body radiate sensations when the body is harmed. This leads to seeking aid because we feel the pain of the injury.
Rationale. Pain is one of the most common reasons why individuals seek medical attention in a health care setting. Clarifying the concept of pain will help health care providers provide the best effective care of pain and pain management.
Pain and suffering is something that we all would like to never experience in life, but is something that is inevitable. “Why is there pain and suffering in the world?” is a question that haunts humanity. Mother Teresa once said that, “Suffering is a gift of God.” Nevertheless, we would all like to go without it. In the clinical setting, pain and suffering are two words that are used in conjunction.
middle of paper ... ... Being free of pain is something that we feel within us to be intrinsically joyful, and no reason can be used to explain further why we wish to be joyful, or in good health. These things we just sense, and even a murderer, who rejects morality on the social level, will do whatever he can to avoid the displeasures of his inner being. His sentiments, if only for himself, remain within him. “One thing can always be a reason, why another is desired.
In a pain assessment, the pain is always subjective, in a verbal patient; pain is what the patient says that it is. Nurses must be able to recognize non verbal signs of pain such as elevated pulse, elevated blood pressure, grimacing, rocking, guarding, all of which are signs of pain (Jensen, 2011). A patient’s ethnicity may have a major influence on their meaning of pain and how it is evaluated and responded to behaviorally as well as emotionally (Campbell, & Edwards 2012). A patient may not feel that their pain is acceptable and they do not want to show that they are in pain. For some people, showing pain indicates that they are weak. Other patients will hide their pain as they do not want to be seen as a bother or be seen as a difficult patient.
Why are we as aggressive and can we develop a way to reduce our ever increasing aggressive behavior? What this research paper is going to cover just might answer that. First we’re going to go over different types of aggression and the differences between them. Next will be the several theories about aggression. This will cover from a biological and genetic point of view to how our diet affects our behaviors in negative ways. We will even look into how our culture has an effect on our aggression levels. Last is what ways can we potentially reduce and manage our angry tendencies as well as control the ever rising aggressive behavior in our society.
This is the argument that some values presuppose pain, such as patience and fortitude, requiring deprivation and difficulty to flourish (Blackburn, 2001: 174). However, some people believe they are better off when these virtues are not needed (Blackburn, 2001: 170). For instance, I feel better off when patience is not needed to get my coffee, and surely the coffee shop would not defend their queues by saying patience is a virtue. Moreover, creating suffering for the purpose of teaching these lessons seems evil in and of itself.
I have always enjoyed this fairytale, about a young woman with exceptionally long hair who is kept prisoner in a tall tower by a sorceress. The Grim Bothers and Zelinky's version is very different from each other. Zelinsky retells the story in another way. He brings the story alive and I was able to experience in a whole new way. One thing for readers to remember is that many fairytales were originally for adults, so that is the why they may not always seem quite age appropriate. Zelinky's version relates that Rapunzel reveals that she has had a visitor in the tower when she asks the sorceress to help her with her dress for, "it is growing so tight around my waist, it does not want to fit me anymore." The sorceress discovering that Rapunzel is pregnant could be done in a more considerate way. In my opinion, it is inappropriate message to put in a story, especially for children. Grim Brothers describe the story in a more adequate way. The Grimm Brothers state that Rapunzel tells the step-mother without thinking, that why does she take so long climbing on the hair when the King's son only takes but a moment. The step-mother quickly reveals that Rapunzel is seeing some one. They do not relate the story stating she is pregnant, they mention almost at the end that Rapunzel had twins.
"There is much pain that is quite noiseless; and that make human agonies are often a mere whisper in the of hurrying existence. There are glances of hatred that stab and raise no cry of murder; robberies that leave man of woman for ever beggared of peace and joy, yet kept secret by the sufferer-committed to no sound except that of low moans in the night, seen in no writing except that made on the face by the slow months of suppressed anguish and early morning tears. Many an inherited sorrow that has marred a life has been breathed into no human ear." George Eliot (1819-80), English novelist,editor. Felis Holt, the Radical, Introduction (1866).What is pain? In the American Heritage Dictionary, pain is referred to as "an unpleasant sensation occurring in varying degrees of severity as a consequence of injury, disease, or emotional disorder." The word is rooted in Middle English, from an Old French piene, from Latin poena, meaning "penalty or pain", and from Greek pointe, meaning "penalty." Pain is a very realistic problem that many individuals face daily.
...our body is telling you something and you have no choice but listen. You can’t listen to someone when you’re in pain or have to go to the bathroom. Just recently I had such bad shoulder pain that I was seeing stars. I thought I had slept wrong, but the pain was getting worse daily, I couldn’t turn my neck. When people tried to talk to me, I couldn’t hear what they had to say, I just wanted whoever was talking to fuck off and die. I found out I have severe arthritis in my neck. It wasn’t my shoulder at all. It’s under control now, but when I was in that kind of pain I didn’t want to talk to anyone and I didn’t want to listen to anyone.