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The Effect of Cultural and Historical Situations on American Literature
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Love is an emotional rollercoaster ride, a ride full of high and lows, affection and confusion, devotion and despair. Love can be called many things, but how does one know that they are truly in love? Love is a universal human experience shaped by unique cultural and personal circumstance. You must understand yourself first to understand another human being. In the Namesake by Jhumpa Lahiri, the protagonist Gogol, a first-generation Bengali-American is confused between his parent’s expression of love and his” American” life. He struggles to find himself, while rejecting his own cultural heritage, and uses love to find himself. Throughout his life, he will discover his heritage slowly and what it means to love and to be loved.
Throughout Gogol’s upbringing, his first perception of love was of his parents. In an ideal Bengali relationship, affection between
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the wife and the husband is kept private. “It has never occurred to him to buy his wife flowers” (Lahiri 12). Ashima and Ashoke instead show each other love by upholding their responsibilities and conforming to a strict sense of gender roles. Ashima and Ashoke’s arranged marriage is the epitome of a traditional Bengali relationship. In an ideal Bengali culture woman do the house chores, cook and watch the kids, whereas the man of the house is the breadwinner. Ashima upholds her responsibility “By now she has learned that her husband likes his food on the salty side…” (Lahiri 10 ) At time of marriage their arranged marriage they were strangers to each other, but throughout the years of marriage Ashima had “grown to know and love” Ashoke (Lahiri 279). Gogol’s first view on love isn’t about superficial love but what it takes to love a person. The love between them didn’t quite translate to Gogol’s American self. In an ideal American relationship love is about public affection and a grand lifestyle in his views. This confusion leads him into a divide between his Bengali traditions and his modern American definition of love; unable to create a balance between the cultures. As Gogol enters his young adulthood, he is having difficulties relating back to his name.
His confusion stems from the fact that his name is neither Bengali or American but Russian. Named after Nikhil Gogol a Russian author, he will soon find himself taking the first name of the author. The name Nikhil gave him a temporary sense of identity in which is used to start an American relationship. The relationship with Ruth was a relationship based on their vast difference of being a “Yankee” American in contracts to him being a first-generation Bengali-American. However, he does identify as being a Bengali but a typical “suburban” American. The love he has with Ruth was a taste of what an American relationship would look like. Her parents are divorces and are hippies who accepts Nikhil for who he is. Compared to his own family who questions his love with her. The falling of the relationships is when Ruth left for Oxford and when she comes back Gogol tries to rekindle the fire between them but realizes that there was nothing to rekindle. Their love was just a fling, and a way to express his love for American
culture. Gogol enters his second love relationship with Maxine who lives in a tony neighborhood with an extravagant lifestyle of shopping and eating the finest food there is. She was a woman who gave him a sense of escape, and a sense of belonging. Gogol used this relationship as a buffer from his own cultural identity. “moves as far away as he can from his parent’s world, trying to avoid being grouped with the “ABCD” (American Born Confused Desis)”. (Shao 6). The relationship stems from his refusal to keep his connection with his parents as shown by him “… not given them the number and the Ratliffs are unlisted… in this cloistered wilderness, he is free” (Lahiri 158). The feeling towards his traditions, and his hatred of being categorized no longer will define as his desire to assimilate into American culture is fulfilled. However, the relationship doesn’t last, when his father died, he realized that the relationship was only to fulfill his desire to be an American. The abrupt life event Gogol’s faces changed his view on the love and moves back with his family. After many failed attempts of trying to assimilate into Western Culture, Gogol finally gives into his mother wishes and finds someone of his own background. Gogol and Moushumi both come together to please their parents. Their love is forged by “her familiarity that makes him curious about her” (Lahiri 199). Being familiar with each other gave them a sense of “their love affair is therefore a metaphysical return to their expected cultural norm (Friedman). Their love is based on a fact of cultural similarities. The relationships end abruptly when Gogol find out about the infidelity that happened between Moshumi and a past colleague. In turn Moushumi infidelity causes the marriage to fall apart. Finding long and lasting love is a balancing act. To find love you must first be able to find yourself. Once you find yourself and is comfortable with who are then you can relate to another person and find true love. Love can’t exist with an anchor. Gogol through his trial and error with love finally understands that he is neither American or Bengali but a combination of both. A Bengali-American. While his attempts to assimilate into American culture didn’t work out, Gogol finally begins to come around and be himself. Instead of trying to be someone he is not, he embraces his bi-cultural heritage and becomes Gogol Ganguli.
Love in stories is often shown as the path to ultimate happiness, but love causes both protagonists to become distracted from their destiny. After meeting Fatima, a girl he falls in love with, Santiago loses his faith in the significance of his Personal Legend, declaring “I’ve found Fatima, and, as far as I’m concerned, she’s worth more than treasure” (Coelho 123). Santiago nearly decides to stay with Fatima and desist from continuing his quest. However, the alchemist tells him “You must understand that love never keeps a man from pursuing his Personal Legend. If he abandons that pursuit, it's because it wasn't true love…” (Coelho 125). Love is not considered as the most important treasure and Santiago's own destiny has to come first. Fatima also urges Santiago to continue his quest, but Gogol’s girlfriend, Maxine, is less encouraging, even holding him back. Gogol deviates from his path to accepting his identity by dating her. Maxine is a typical white American girl, and their relationship distances Gogol from his culture. After Gogol’s father passes away, Maxine asks that he spend more time with her, but Gogol prefers to complete the rituals and follow Hindu traditions, leading them to break up. By conquering love, Gogol progresses on his path toward accomplishing his Personal Legend. The more selfish outlook on accomplishing one's destiny first before even love is a less common perspective shared by these stories. Love and Personal Legends both demand sacrificing what they hold most dear to themselves and accepting that nothing else can come before it, and one must choose to follow one or the
There are many kinds of love, relationships and companionship in the world. However, during some sensitive periods of time, some love is marked as forbidden love or guilty love. Some people had to give up their love, some people had to decide to hide their love forever, some people had to get rid of the result of the love to protect themselves under that background. Wayson Choy, the author of The Jade Peony, tries to use the conflicts in the novel to tell people what real love is. Therefore, in the novel, the three relationships are three kinds which are not easily accepted by people at that time. Love has nothing to do with nationality, love has nothing to do with age, love has nothing to do with gender.
In the beginning of the book toward Gogol’s early life, the reader may make the observation that Gogol is more American than Bengali. In Gogol’s teen years he shows more admiration for being American than Bengali when he listens to his new American tape rather than his Indian one. On Gogol’s birthday, his father sees the “Lennon obituary pinned to the bulletin board, and then a cassette of classical Indian music he’d bought for Gogol months ago, after a concert at Kresge, still sealed in its wrapper” (Lahiri 78). Even since Gogol was little he had always been a little different considering that he was born as an American, unlike his parents. His parents carry on their Bengali traditions and for the most part avoid becoming full Americans. As for Gogol, he continues to act, think, and be American before any tragedy is present. Lahiri writes, “But Gogol never thinks of India as desh. He thinks of it as Americans do, as India” (Lahiri 118). Gogol is American and he knows it, he doesn’t mind thinking like one either. As Gogol is more American than his parents, he is simply dragged away due to hi...
Love and affection is an indispensable part of human life. In different culture love may appear differently. In the poem “My god my lotus” lovers responded to each other differently than in the poem “Fishhawk”. Likewise, the presentation of female sexuality, gender disparity and presentation of love were shown inversely in these two poems. Some may argue that love in the past was not as same as love in present. However, we can still find some lovers who are staying with their partners just to maintain the relationship. We may also find some lovers having relationship only because of self-interest. However, a love relationship should always be out of self-interest and must be based on mutual interest. A love usually obtains its perfectness when it develops from both partners equally and with same affection.
Love is powerful and could change a person’s personality. In “The Book of Unknown Americans”, the author Christina Hernriquez tells us the definition of love. It is a book combined with different stories but each story is connected to others. It talks about the immigrants that moved to America with lots of hope, but didn’t end up with a happy ending. The story is about love, hope and guilt and different kinds of emotional feeling. In the book, Mayor has an internal change because of Maribel, and the power of love. He wants to be a strong man who can protect Maribel. He used to be someone who couldn’t defend himself and he changed because of Maribel.
Gogol basically grows up his whole life not feeling comfortable with his identity and who he is. Gogol doesn't feel like he belongs in his parents Bengali family, and he somewhat feels like he is living in between cultures sometimes. Growing up in America has made him feel like an outsider because his parents were always doing things in their culture. Throughout the book Gogol makes great efforts to find out who he really is and he does that by moving away from home. Gogol’s definition of home changes whether it's by getting a new girlfriend or moving to a new place he's not familiar with.
The Symposium, The Aeneid, and Confessions help demonstrate how the nature of love can be found in several places, whether it is in the mind, the body or the soul. These texts also provide with eye-opening views of love as they adjust our understanding of what love really is. By giving us reformed spectrum of love, one is able to engage in introspective thinking and determine if the things we love are truly worthy of our sentiment.
The novel, Mother Tongue, is a great example of the misuse of love today. The author, Demetria Martinez, tells the tale of a woman that falls in love with a Salvadoreño refugee. José Luis is a soldier in the Salvadorian army that flees to the United States where he begins a love affair with a young woman, Mary. From my prospective, the emotions they shared were not of love, but rather emotions that arose from false pretenses. Like so many relation-ships in our society today, the word love is taken for granted. Relationships are embarked upon without consideration of the repercussions. Divorce rates are a great example how relationships are not being started for the right reasons. Love is abused because of humans' innate desire to love, uncontrollable feeling to search for it, and be loved despite their failure to develop the necessary foundations for true love.
At first Gogol despised his culture and tried to do everything possible to get away from it. Previous girls Gogol dated were never Indian. He was initially attracted to American girls. The fact that they were completely diverse from his culture is what captured his attention. Dating someone who wasn’t closely related to his culture was an unthinkable thing to do in Bengali society, so it made Gogol’s reason to disobey flourish even more because to him it was exci...
...zation leads to Gogol’s discovery of his true identity. Although he has always felt that he had to find a new, more American and ordinary identity, he has come to terms that he will always be the Gogol that is close to his family. While Gogol is coming to this understanding, Ashima has finally broken free from relying on her family, and has become “without borders” (176). No longer the isolated, unsure Bengali she was when arriving in Cambridge, Ashima has been liberated from dependent and powerless to self empowering. The passing of her husband has forced her to go through her life as a more self-reliant person, while at the same time she is able to maintain her daily Indian customs. This break-through is the final point of Ashima’s evolution into personal freedom and independency.
Gogol is not completely cut off from his roots and identity. He tries to reject his past, but it makes him stranger to himself. He fears to be discovered. With the rejection of Gogol’s name, Lahiri rejects the immigrant identity maintained by his parents. But this outward change fails to give him inner satisfaction.
Is love an emotion we feel naturally, or is it something that needs to be learned? Is the idea of loving someone a journey in which you grow together, or is there really such a thing as ‘love at first sight’? Vivek Shraya’s narrative She of the mountains and bells hooks’ perspective novel all about love dive into the ideas and definitions of love. Shraya’s novel She of the mountains explores how love is something we learn through experience, how our definition of love can be moulded and changed through those experiences, and how they are correlated to our individual identity and self-love. hooks’ all about love blames society for our reasoning why love fails and how we fail to have a sense of individual identity because of the idea of love
Throughout one’s life, an individual will experience a plethora of different relationships including friendship, family, and even enemies. Of all the relationships, however, the most beautiful and life changing one is the act of in love. Today’s culture has bred us to pursue someone to marry, to start a family, and to live happily ever after, which, in theory, sounds wonderful. Yet, in reality, the happily ever after propoganda is fictitious, for it does not exist. This notion causes a constant struggle between the false beliefs on how love works, and wanting to fall in love and stay in love. This struggle is why the bearing of one’s heart is terrifying. The words of love can never be taken back, and they can even be used against those brave enough to say them, therefore causing emotional trauma, along with a reluctance to express words of devotion again. This devastating experience causes an intense desire to find a way to erase the words of love that circulate in the
In Jhumpa Lahiri’s novel, The Namesake, the protagonist, Gogol, struggles with his cultural identity. He is an American-born Bengali struggling to define himself. He wants to fit into the typical American-lifestyle, a lifestyle his parents do not understand. This causes him tension through his adolescence and adult life, he has trouble finding a balance between America and Bengali culture. This is exemplified with his romantic relationships. These relationships directly reflect where he is in his life, what he is going through and his relationship with his parents. Each woman indicates a particular moment in time where he is trying to figure out his cultural identity. Ruth represents an initial break away from Bengali culture; Maxine represents
This essay focuses on the theme of forbidden love, The God of Small Things written by Arundhati Roy. This novel explores love and how love can’t be ignored when confronted with social boundaries. The novel examines how conventional society seeks to destroy true love as this novel is constantly connected to loss, death and sadness. This essay will explore the theme of forbidden love, by discussing and analysing Ammu and Velutha's love that is forbidden because of the ‘Love Laws’ in relation to the caste system which results in Velutha’s death. It is evident that forbidden love negatively impacts and influences other characters, such as Estha and Rahel, which results in Estha and Rahel’s incestuous encounter.