Barbara Kingsolver's Successful Relationships To Their Children

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I agree with some of Barbara Kingsolver’s statement, but not all of it. I agree when she says traditional families are for the most part are stable and show successful relationships to their children. However, I do not agree when she says the traditional Barbie and Ken households are never disassembled by divorce. I also do not agree when Kingsolver said the divorce people, gay families, Brady Bunch families, and single parent households result in failures for children. I agree when Kingsolver says that traditional families have more stability for their children. My parents are together and we do have stability. It is still hectic because of three children going in different directions but at the end of the day, we are all together sitting at the dinner table talking about how are day went. My parents do model for me how a married relationship should be like. They show me how strong their love is and how I should be able to find someone who loves me just like my parents love each other. Their relationship had made each of their children successful. I do not agree when Kingsolver says that the …show more content…

In some cases this is the truth, but not it all. Even though there can be struggles with these types of families, it does not mean their children will have bad lives. For example, my cousins were divorced and their children still succeeded in their lives. The children did not take the divorce as a way to “act out” or drop out of school. One of the children is even recently engaged. Just because your parents get divorce, does not mean the children fail in the world. The parents can still be models towards their children. This example proves that a divorced family does not have to destroy a family. Even though Kingsolver has some good points, I do not believe her statement is completely

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