Baba And Amir Relationship Essay

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I believe being a parent to an only child is somewhat different than having several children. The parents are more likely to be sweeter, nicer and spoil the only child than with many kids. However, that is not the situation with Baba and Amir. Baba was very distant, cold and prude with his only son, Amir. It almost seemed as if he did not love Amir. However, Baba’s and Amir’s relationship changes throughout the years. It starts when Amir is a kid in Afghanistan, it also changes when Hassan leaves the house and when Amir and Baba move to America. “The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree” is a well known expression that holds true for many father and son relationships; however, this is not the case for Amir and Baba. In terms of father-son relationships, the father is an important role model for his son, and every boy needs a fatherly figure. Baba is not there for Amir in his younger years, because he does not seem to connect with Amir because he is not exactly like him. Baba wonders why Amir’s interests aren’t the same of his own. Baba's relationship with Amir goes back and forth. Sometimes, Baba is very hard on Amir, which makes Amir feel unloved and hated. However, during some parts of the novel …show more content…

During the time he and his father spent in America, Amir grew into a mature, confident man. Eventually, pursuing his writing career, graduating college and getting married. This transition from boy to man made Baba very proud and he began to admire his son. In California, they bonded as they never had back in Afghanistan. Towards Baba’s death, Baba shows a lot of affection to Amir by calling General Sahib. "It's an honorable matter..." (Hosseini, 162) Baba asks General Sahib if Amir may have Soraya's hand in marriage, this is the most important display of affection from Baba. And it is the last main display of affection from Baba in the novel. Amir’s marriage gave Baba his last gift of

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