Argumentative Essay On Parenting

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Parenting is single handedly the ultimate test of endurance, both emotionally and physically. Although someday I will look back and believe that parenting will have also been rewarding, currently it is like standing in the middle of a hurricane, the goal is to survive and not drown in the flood waters that surround you. Life right now feels like a category 5 Hurricane and I cannot wait for the storm to pass. Per usual, Shakespeare formulated the words perfectly to summarize parenting in a nutshell, “I would that were no age between 10 and 23, or that youth would sleep out the rest, for there is nothing in between but getting wenches with child, wronging the ancientry, stealing and fighting” (McCarthy and Hutz 63).
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Thankfully, a P.E. teacher payed attention, she noticed her arm had marks on it and referred her to the school counselor who then contacted me. My eyes nearly popped out of my head and I was completely dumbstruck when I looked at her arm and counted 19 self-inflicted cuts. Guilt, anger, fear, disbelief and the unknown of what actions to take to help her are all feelings that came rushing to the surface at once. Guilt due to the fact that I enrolled in college, guilt for the reason that I’m not as active in her school activities, guilt in that I am now a single mother. I was angry. Anger was a very strong emotion that I dealt with as I considered her choices to be ridiculous. My daughter made a conscious choice to scar her body up for what appeared to be senseless reasons. As my emotions played out on a spectrum I became furious for not seeing the signs that were there and letting her hurt herself. Disbelief comes from not thinking that anything this horrible could be happening to my child and for it to be self-inflicted was beyond the pale. Uncertainty stemmed from not being able to trust her, …show more content…

Doyle, Treacy and Sheridan performed a study which found that the strongest correlation between self-harm and adolescent females were fighting with parents, followed by worries over their sexual orientation. In addition, peer relations, having friends or family members who self-harm and being bullied also were strong factors (Doyle et al. 2015). McCarthy and Hutz concluded that all forms of self-harm were, in fact, misdirected aggression, or aggression directed inward (77). In other words, their feelings of being angry with someone else or disappointed in their performance at school, the youth turns their anger inward, and cutting becomes a way to control the

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