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The Fourth State of Matter Loss can leave us with the feeling that we are no longer in control of our lives, a strong feeling of instability. We must understand our loss to cope and deal with what has happened. Jo Ann Beard the narrator and author of “The Fourth State of Matter” struggles with several losses throughout the text. She appears to deal with her instability by caring for her aged dog as if she was a sick child, when in reality Beard just wants her problems to disappear. When faced with a complication a difficult choice must be made, to do nothing in hopes the problem will resolve itself or face it head-on. When pretending the problem doesn't exist or similarly telling yourself it will go back to how it was, simply allows …show more content…
This can be seen in the first paragraph, “ We used to call her the face of love”. Using the word, we in this sentence means that Beard and her husband were still together at that point in time. Furthermore, the name of the dog, “ The face of love”, representing the young lover's excitement for one another. A love like a new puppy, always exciting, and no matter the situation it never seems that heavy a burden. Then with age problems begin to arise, small inconveniences seem like a bigger problem than they are, causing a wedge to grow between husband and wife. Beard when seeing her collie in the middle of the night thinking, the face of love, reminds her of how times used to be when her husband was still at home. The comparison between dog and husband is seen again when Beard talks with Chris, her colleague, who asks her “Why are you letting this go one?” (Beard. J. A., June 24, 1996, Para. 35). This can be interpreted as Chris asking about the phone calls Beard’s husband leaves, or about the collie. Beard responds by saying she isn’t letting it go on (Beard. J. A., June 24, 1996, Para. 36). When she isn’t doing anything, she's waiting for the problem to solve itself; for times to go back to what they were. Beard is scared to let go of her collie, her last real tie to what her marriage …show more content…
(Beard. J. A., June 24, 1996, Para. 25). One would say that Beard even had feelings for Chris, they seemed to have a better relationship than Beard and her husband. It's shown that Chris provides Beard with a sense of confidence, he shows her acceptance. This can be seen when Chris reassures Beard that she will be ok after her husband leaves her (Beard. J. A., June 24, 1996, Para. 27). Then when talking about the crude drawing of the collie on the blackboard where Beard asks Chris about his mom (Beard. J. A., June 24, 1996, Para. 83 & 87). These brief segments of conversation, of accepting one another leads to a deeper relationship than just colleagues. At the end of the text, Beard finds out her beloved colleague has been killed in the school shooting (Beard. J. A., June 24, 1996, Para. 120). After hearing this news, she goes to the bathroom where her collie soon follows to comfort Beard (Beard. J. A., June 24, 1996, Para. 121 & 123). They take a moment to fully realize what has all happened (Beard. J. A., June 24, 1996, Para. 123). In this moment, Beard has a realization of everything that has happened, how old the face of love is, that fact that her husband doesn’t love her like he used to (Beard. J. A., June 24, 1996, Para. 123). Furthermore, that her good friend, her shield from the world, has indeed been taken from her forever. Beard’s husband shows up next, this has been predicted
In the beginning years of Janie’s life, there were two people who she is dependent on. Her grandmother is Nanny, and her first husband is named Logan Killicks. In Their Eyes Were Watching God, “Janie, an attractive woman with long hair, born without benefit of clergy, is her heroine” (Forrest). Janie’s grandmother felt that Janie needs someone to depend on before she dies and Janie could no longer depend on her. In the beginning, Janie is very against the marriage. Nanny replied with, “’Tain’t Logan Killicks Ah wants you to have, baby, its protection. ...He done spared me...a few days longer till Ah see you safe in life” (Hurston 18). Nanny is sure to remind Janie that she needs a man in her life for safety, thus making Janie go through life with that thought process.
At age sixteen, Janie is a beautiful young girl who is about to enter womanhood and experience the real world. Being joyous and unconcerned, she is thrown into an arranged marriage with Logan Killicks. He is apparently unromantic and unattractive. Logan is a widower and a successful farmer who desires a wife who would not have her own opinions. He is set on his own ways and is troubled by Janie, who forms her own opinions and refuses to work. He is unable to sexually appeal or satisfy Janie and therefore does not truly connect with her as husband and wife should. Janie's wild and young spirit is trapped within her and she plays the role of a silent and obeying wife. But her true identity cannot withhold itself for she has ambitions and she wills to see the world and find love. There was a lack of trust and communication between Logan and Janie. Because of the negative feelings Janie has towards Logan, she deems that this marriage is not what she desires it to be. The pear tree and the bees had a natural att...
After the murder of Wellington, Mrs. Shears’s dog, and being accused of having killed the dog, Christopher was determined to find out who had committed this crime. For this, he drew a simple map of neighbors’ houses and knocked house to house to find out who had killed the dog. The last house he went to was Mrs. Alexander’s house. She was gardening when he arrived and asked her information on the murder. She was aware of what had happened and knew more information than Christopher thought, but she did not tell him anything at this point, instead, she offered him tea and biscuits. As she went inside to grab the food, he left. His thoughts before leaving were that “she was inside the house for more than 6 minutes and I began to get nervous because I didn’t know what she was doing in the house. [...] And I thought she might be ringing the police and that I’d get into so much more trouble because of the caution” (Haddon 41). He aims at the decision to leave based on his intuition and distrust in people even though he had no rationale for that because Mrs. Alexander was a kind elder that lived on his street and the police knew he was not the dog’s murderer. His thoughts show how nervous he becomes when he experiences social interaction,
In Amy Hempel’s Short Story “Going,” we take part in a journey with the narrator through loss, coping, memory, experience, and the duality of life. Throughout the story we see the narrator’s struggle through coping with the loss of his mother, and how he moves from a mixture of depression, denial, and anger, to a form of acceptance and revelation. The narrator has lost his mother to a fire three states away, and goes on a reckless journey through the desert, when he crashes his car and ends up hospitalized. Only his thoughts and the occasional nurse to keep him company. He then reaches a point of discovery and realizations that lead to a higher understanding of mortality, and all of the experiences that come with being alive.
...om her mother and transported to a pet store where she was locked in a cage until she was purchased by my friend Hailey. I want you to think about her excitement to have a home and Hailey’s excitement to have a new pet to love. Now I want you to think about Hailey receiving the devastating news that her puppy had to be euthanized and Daisy’s fear as she was taken from her owner’s hands and put to death.
The Other Side of Sadness: What the New Science Tells Us about Life after Loss, written by George A. Bonanno, illustrates the ways in which different people deal with loss in different ways and even so, most of us are resilient to loss. Death is an inevitable phase every person must face. Throughout one’s life, everybody is destined to confront the pain of death in his or her lifetime. But how do we cope? Is there a “correct” or “normal” way, or length of time we are supposed to use, to recover after a major loss? Bonanno delves into the ways in which we deal with grief and loss that are contrary to what people generally presume. We may be surprised, even hurt, by a loss, but we still manage to pull ourselves back together and move on. One of the recurring arguments made in The Other Side of Sadness: What the New Science Tells Us about Life after Loss is that resilience after loss is real, prevailing, and enduring. Bonanno is able to provide much compelling evidence to show the different patterns or trajectories of grief reactions across time shown by bereaved people. He also explains thoroughly how grief is not work by elucidating the ways emotions work to help us deal with demanding environments. Bonanno is successful in allowing the readers to be conscious of what people are grieving after a major loss – they don’t grieve facts, they grieve what they remember. In addition, Bonanno explains how death elicits both terror and curiosity to help his readers conceptualize death. Bonanno essentially articulates that resilience is both genuine and lasting because it is in our human capacity to thrive in the face of adversity.
It is around this time that it becomes difficult to put dogs into our typical categories of nature and culture, because although dogs were originally just another part of nature, when we began to domesticate them, we made them something more. In fact, in modern days it is even more difficult as we have begun actively breeding them for specific traits, so much so that many would argue modern dogs are essentially technology. From this it becomes clear how perfectly dogs fit into her idea of a companion
“Death, the end of life: the time when someone or something dies” (Merriam-Webster, 2014). The definition of death is quite simple, the end of life is inescapable. I chose to write about death and impermanence because it is something we all must inevitably face. People often deal with death in a number of different ways. Although it is something that we must eventually face, it can be hard to come to terms with because the idea can be hard to grasp. Some of us fear it, others are able to accept it, either way we all must eventually face it. In this essay I will look at two different literary works about death and impermanence and compare and contrast the different elements of the point of view, theme, setting, and symbolism. The comparison of these particular works will offer a deeper look into words written by the authors and the feelings that they experiencing at that particular time.
Thus, when people experience loss, their lives change. Just like Blanche, A delicate lady who couldn’t find her way in the challenging and intolerant world we live in after her husband died. As a result, she built her own world, where she lived all her illusions, but in the process, she ended up destroying all that really matters; her personality, relationships, and wellbeing. As Robert Louis Stevenson said “Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.”
The most unfortunate fact about death is sometimes arrives unexpected and the quick action seizes years of work, plans, irreplaceable feelings and definetly damages the surroundings. Death collects away the energy from our closest friends and loved ones, while our few companions have to make adjustments moving and sustaining into the future discovering divergent paths to lay a hold of and experience while leaving the old ways behind. People are abandoned to bare the vicarious feelings from such a tragic event and become survivors, often abscond into different lifestyles or professions. “ Who will
The Ultimate Nature of Matter. The theory of quantum mechanics has divided the atom into a number of fundamental sub-atomic particles. Although the physicist has shown that the atom is not a solid indivisible object, he has not been able to find a particle which does possess those qualities. Talk of particles, though, is misleading because the word suggests a material object.
In poetry, the speaker is not necessarily the author but is the voice of the poem that conveys his or her situations or emotions. In the beginning of the poem, the speaker meets her ex lover “after all these years” (Kizer line 1). Kizer uses an extended metaphor of the speaker’s inner self as a dog, more specifically, a female dog, which explains the title, “Bitch”. The speaker’s inner bitch reveals emotions of being wounded, furious, and affectionate towards her former lover all at once. The speaker is miserable in how she has to hold back the dog. She says, “as I drag you off by the scruff” (Line 33). This gives the reader the imagery of a dog being pulled away from something the dog aspired to do, illustrating the miserable and wounded tone. The speaker is
feelings in the man and the dog, of a constant battle with this world of
Not too long ago, Ms. Morris’s beloved dog, Hattie, had 5 puppies. Everyone in town thought the puppies were boring and ugly. Their eyes were closed, made a little movement, and didn’t make any noise. Nobody thought the dogs were cute, and nobody wanted them.
When Gabby falls in love with Travis, she never thought that their story would take the journey that it did. Many people, in real life, are the same. They never thought that the journey they would take in life together would have the same tragedy that Gabby and Travis experienced. A couple by the name of Brooke and Margaret Hopkins had the same experience. Margaret’s husband, Brooke, was riding a bicycle when he rounded a curve and collided with another cyclist. He took the fall landing on his head and breaking his neck. He had stopped breathing but a nurse that happened to be coming by stopped and rescued him. Brooke ended