Analysis Of Five Love Languages: The Secret To Love That Lasts By Gary Chapman

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Gary Chapman constructs a list of five different “love languages” in his book, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts. There is an online test that will ask a series of questions to establish one’s true love language. Acquiring this information will provide better understanding that can be applied to a relationship; therefore, creating a better and more wholesome bond between a couple. The five love languages are Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. Determining a love language is important in a relationship because if a couple doesn’t speak each other’s love language it can become quite detrimental. The Five Love Languages test gathers certain information, such as whether or not you are male or female. Then, you will be asked to choose between two …show more content…

My boyfriend speaks my love language by “…affirming [my] worth and abilities” (Chapman, 36). He tells me how proud he is of me and how strong I am. Hearing these words reassures me of his love and care for me. He is also quite kind to me and almost always willing to make a sacrifice to benefit me. This being said, I believe that I could use a significant amount of work to better speak his primary love language. One aspect that I could use work on is my humble words because, “Love makes requests, not demands” (Chapman, 35). I never really thought about how I might be too demanding of my boyfriend. For example, his grades aren’t doing too well right now and so I have been trying to almost force him to take care of them. Even though I have the best intentions in mind, I become more mom-like to my boyfriend. I should not treat my boyfriend in this manner because, “It is the parent who tells the three-year-old what he ought to do and, in fact, what he must do” (Chapman, 35). This destroys intimacy and places you in the position to look down on your

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