The Disadvantages of Marrying Into a Different Culture
Love is blind; not even race and color can stop it from happening. There are supplementary and additional marriages of people from different countries. In a marriage with a person from the same country already have distinct differences once each was taught by different families, went to different schools, their idea of the world is different and in general, their way of life is different. By judgement, a marriage with people from different countries has even more differences. The disadvantage of marrying into a different culture is money, in the country Haiti, a family must have a certain amount of money, must have a certain degree, must own a land, their own business, and
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Any little thing can break up the relationship because the man side or the woman family make fun of them and down talk them. In the country of Delta they have a certain way to greet their elders and it must done the way everyone done it or else, if by any chance an elder greets wrong, a sacrifice must be and that’s slaughtering a chicken if not one family member will died.There are many reasons why its is hard to marry another culture, some culture you have to be light skin, your hair must be long, some have to dress a certain way, different religions, some must wear long dress and covered their head. According to Swapnil Deuikar, he stated that “The fact that one would marry a person from other culture means in itself that there 's a stronger bond than just compatibility (I think they call it love). This might lead to a more stable and happy married life. There 's twice as much to explore. Festivals, foods, movies, music, people …show more content…
So at some point, you might be compelled to make difficult choices.” Marrying a man or a woman from another culture is not an easy task. Many woman and man have been through that path; one great example, is the African culture, for instance, woman that are from Ekiti State are not aloud to marry man that are from Delta state, reason being, they speak different languages.Marrying someone from another nation can be exciting! There are so many things that are new and different, interesting and challenging. These same things can be a source of frustration and conflict, misunderstanding and hurt. Marrying someone from another culture [could] mean that one of you will be living outside of your home nation permanently —which means that you will not be able to see your family very often. That means your children will see very little of one set of parents (their grandparents.) Not only will your children not have the opportunity to know one set of grandparents very well, if there is a language barrio parents will not be able to really communicate well with your children. You may need to consider the effect of the “home court advantage” on your marriage. If a foreign man marries an American woman and they live in the United States, she would be cast in the leadership role in some aspects of their relationship. (She would better understand the language and protocol of the nation) Whereas if they
marry often face a dilemma, to wed the Hmong or American way. Both are distinctively
"Romantic love has been the norm since eighteenth-century Europe, when we began connecting marriage with romance." If people did not love each other, then there would be no relationship. Sure, they could try to make it happen, but what would be the point of having the relationship in the first place? If they are trying to escape from something and are not actually motivated by love, they are just creating a new entity to eventually want to escape from. Only love will cause people to remain and stay together in a relationship. According to a study done at Grand Valley State University, titled "The Social Psychology of Love and Attraction", it's true that "shared traits including similarity, religion, ethnic group and race were important features of the other person for over half the participants [in the study]. Each of these traits is linked to a commonality in background. People are subconsciously drawn to others who have the same familial background." This study shows that people do consider factors such as race and cultural identity when seeking a potential partner for a relationship. However, the study also shows that the most important factor in attracting a potential mate is personality. The second most is physical attractiveness. These traits are more important in deciding a potential mate than anything
A huge difference between the cultures is the gender roles. For instance, In the Igbo culture, they practice polygamy which is the practice of having more than one wife or husband. In America that is not allowed in most cases, we practice monogamy which is the opposite, it is being married to only one person at a time. However, both cultures allow people to choose who they want to marry.
Although society has progressed immensely, the freedom to marry someone of a different ethnicity is relatively new. The anti-miscegenation laws that were adopted by so many states were created in colonial times.
First, there are many things to consider in interracial marriages such as family. The Americans tend to give a lot of value to their occupation, at times more than their family. Men...
When a white person enters into a relationship with a person of color, their relationship will often be met with tension from friends and family. In the south, interracial couples encounter discrimination and racial slurs. Issues with interracial relationships have been long recorded the United States, and shows how people react to relationships between whites and blacks. Loving someone across the color line used to be illegal, but since segregation ended, more people are having mixed race relationships.
The first intercultural marriages were between my aunts and their husbands who were in the American army. These marriages were well accepted as both couples assisted the family financially.
According to nomarriage.com, 'A huge percentage of American women are selfish, flighty, insecure, needy, and psychotic.' Often Foreign women, portray many of the qualities American women out-grew in the ever-increasing crunch for liberation of freedoms. Another difference would be in outward attitude portrayal. Quoted from nomarraige.com, 'Women in America seem to have cold, superficial, or stuck-up attitudes.' Foreign women hold themselves in the center of their relationships by not passing any judgments. American women of today are trying to achieve the top of the professional ladder, leaving less time for family. Enticing them to do what man seemingly suppressed her from doing all these years, while the foreign women are perfectly happy with their femininity and try to progress with their husbands forward. The divorce rates are extremely higher in American-to-American marriages. The Foreign-to-American divorce rate is currently 20% as stated by United States Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS). American-to-American divorce rate is within the 45%-55% range based on a study by divorcestatistics.org. Foreign women tend to have different physical features. The rare physical features are intriguing and above the regular, that we see each day. This often causes animosity from the western women who are comfortable in our land of opportunity. Foreign women tend to speak a minimum of two different languages, allowing ease in communication proficiency and understanding different cultures.
We, also as an audience should give the couple their personal time to talk about their family background, their culture, their ways of living and also on how they treat their partner in their country or in their race. Another solution is to give each other a chance to understand both family sides within their living to avoid conflict and below the belt conflicts. And lastly, I think all countries should also have their Anti-Discrimination law like in the United States, so that equal rights and there should be no shaming of each person's culture, and for people to understand and respect other people's outlook in
Marriage is the sacred bond between two people that share a love so deep they wish to be together for all eternity. This is what most people believe, they view marriage as a happy fairy tale, however this is not the truth for all. In many cultures marriage is not about love, it is about money, status, and tradition. An example of this would be the Japanese picture brides. Many Japanese women found husbands in America through just a picture of the man. This practice was popular in the early 1900’s, according to Racism And The Law, over 20,000 woman came over to marry American men. It was mostly prevalent with Japanese women but also with Korean. Each woman found a husband this way for different reasons but all shared the same fears of what was to come. The influence the bride’s backgrounds had on their American experience, problems they faced, and how they resolved them can be seen in “Come, Japanese” by Julie Otsuka.
Although, interracial marriage is more common than ever; there are many opposing views of this unification. Situations that I have been faced with growing up African American and now in an interracial marriage, leaves me worried for my future children. Bringing a multiracial child in the world is difficult because they will be judged solely on their racial identity. Multiracial children will be giving a hard choice to choose who they will identify with so that society accepts them. The problem we face in todays society is our need to categorize people. In mixed-race people lives they are constantly feeling the pressure to identify with one group or the other. Most times they have their sense of identity or belonging dismissed by the groups
Introduction: “Love doesn’t care what language you speak, what colour you are, what religion you believe in, what car you drive, or the amount of money in your bank account, because love has boundaries” –Dabbi. Throughout the years, countries have strived together to end racism with countless commercials, news articles, and social media. Society is given what we want; hope. But as human beings, we want to see change with our own eyes. And we have. Together as a global society we have defeated segregation, apartheid, and diminished the stigma between races. Yet when one passes an interracial couple, thoughts engulf the mind with questions of how and why? Historically, the United States of America has promoted the idea of purity and separation between races. For example, marriages between Caucasians and African-Americans were considered illegal until 1976. Even soon afterward it became legal, there was a prevalent negative stigma attached. But interracial relationships bring amazing concepts such as breaking stereotypes, developing an open mind, and learning about different cultures. In North America, society
For example, my dad’s side of the family is the Hmong culture. In this culture people grew up being taught that they were not allowed to date
I have personal experience on this topic. I am currently in a relationship with an African American guy. First, I could not tell my parents because they grew up in a different culture, and I was afraid of how they would take it. However, the fact that I am going to school in Miami helped me accept and encourage intercultural relationships. After I explained to my parents that no other guy treated me better than him, the most important thing to them was me being happy with him. He also helped me improve my language skills. Sometimes, I realize that we come across differences culture wise. For example, when we cook, we always get into a small argument how to season the food or how to cook
Many people want to believe that getting married will keep a family together, and that it will keep them very supportive of each other and that they will be with each other for their whole life. However, in many families, this is not the case. Not all families are going to stick with each other forever; many families separate in different directions for different reasons, such as unhappiness or different conflicts that they are facing. While the separation in families brings guilt to those who make the decision, it is something that they have to do in order to feel satisfied. This is common in many households, and many people still want to get married because they do not want to believe that they will one day reach conflicts and separate.