Due to my sister unplanned pregnancy, my parents forced my sister and her boyfriend to get married. Traditionally in Hmong culture, when a young couple have an unplanned pregnancy, the young couple will then be forced to get married regardless of age and race. It was a must. The guy wouldn’t stand a chance if he denied. The rhetorical sensitivity went wrong with communication because of different culture perspective on marriage. Every culture does not have the same belief on marriage and that’s where the problem was with both cultures.
Growing up, my parents were strict on my siblings and I, not just letting us hang outside of school but also dating. They didn’t believed that we kids should date until we finish college and have our bachelor degree. My older sister went against their words and got into a relationship during her senior year of high school. Beginning of her freshman year in college, she lived at the dorm. At the end of her first semester, she dropped out because of her unplanned pregnancy. She moved back in with us and my parents didn’t know anything until later. They found out that she was pregnant and told my sister to bring her boyfriend to the house to have a talked with them two. While at the meeting, my parents had told the boyfriend that in “Hmong culture, you have to take our daughter hand in marriage because that’s our tradition.” The boyfriend didn’t agreed and responded back, “that’s not my culture; I am an American and live in America. I don’t have to if I want to, as long as we both love each other.” My parents were shocked so they just left it like that.
With the misunderstanding of communication and different culture beliefs, the boyfriend should have understand where my culture was coming from. The...
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...ents tried their best going with the traditional rules but this coming generation is going to be different. My parents are way too closed minded and they need to be more open minded with the people that are around them. They grew up learning to be with their own race but generation after generation is changing. So they have to learn how to accept other race coming into their life’s.
At the end, things didn’t go the way both expected when talking to each other so they left the situation in the past and never brought it up again. Even though the communication went the opposite way for both of my parents and the boyfriend, they soon learned how to forget and forgive. The bond that my parents and the boyfriend have is in a good term which is good. Since the baby was born, the boyfriend takes responsibility and action of being a father so my parents are proud of him.
I will argue that there is a distinct collision of the two cultures and that the meaning is the issue with communications and follow through. The meaning of the two cultures is to show that communication and trust is necessary. The evidence is shown when the Hmong and the doctors wasn’t able to communicate properly and when the two cultures
My Dad was over protective and did not want his daughters to be in a relationship until we had our own job and could support ourselves financially. As time passed and my older sister, Madeline, grew up, he began to be more lenient and decided to let his first daughter be in a relationship at the age of eighteen. He informed Madeline that he would accept any man who loved her except a man from the family Chicas. My dad’s family and their family had been in a feud for years because the Chicas had killed members from our family, and our family killed members of their family. My father viewed them as barbarians, who would do no good to his
These situations that I have expressed through my life are only of two percent of the incidents that have happened to me. Moving to different cities have helped me understand more then most people. There are conflicts around me from people with different backgrounds. I have my own conflict with myself because I know very little about my own heritage, but living through others, has helped unit myself with the comfort of myself with letting me accept everyone. Misconceptions are huge roles that cause such areas of conflict. Let’s try to stop them, there is no such thing as a culture shock, unless you believe there to be one.
Nowadays we live in a world which is full of choices and the choice of the person you would like to merry is one of the most important one. It is really hard to decide whether this person is really “yours” or it is just the illusion. Thus, can it be a better way to have somebody who decides who will you be married to? Some people think it is unfair because person doesn’t have the right of choice but the others think that arranged marriages are a good choice. Free choice marriage is a marriage in which both partners choose each other by themselves and the choice is based on factors such as physical attraction, the desire for emotional stability, love, similar outlooks, personalities, interests etc. However this is not the only way to choose. In arranges marriages the partner is selected by elder family members but the young people may have the right to veto the choice if they strongly disagree with it. There are definitely pros and cons of both and only after taking them into consideration person can decide which to choose: arranged or free choice marriage.
I do agree. This has been found true across all ethnic groups in the U.S. These parents enforce rules, but do allow discussion and communication. They can be more respected as well.
In order to address this issue, one must first define the concept or meaning of marriage. However, this is a rather subjective approach, because the way we define marriage depends on our own views and interpretations.
Family acceptance is important to interracial relationships. One way a couple can tell if their family approves of the wedding is by how many people attend the ceremony. “Of these ceremonies, whether religious or civil, the gatherings were small with only a few close relatives or friends attending” (Porterfield 103). Family members, who do not agree with interracial relationships, will show how they feel by not attending the wedding. Close family members will support the bride and groom but not the marriage itself. After the marriage, the newly weds will sense tension at one another’s family gatherings (Porterfield 105). A newlywed couple needs to feel a substantial amount of acceptance because marriage is one of the biggest steps in one’s life, and newlyweds need to know they have not made the wrong decision. The family of one’s partner can cau...
Adaptation and Acculturation weighed heavily on my cultural expectations. Belonging to immigrant parents in their notion on child rearing created uncertainty for my “Americanized” views. Belonging to mix ancestry, did not seem to help either. My mother is of East Indian ancestry while my father is of African ancestry. My household was headed by my mother. My father usually worked long hours and was the family’s breadwinner. My mother was a stay at home mom so her child rearing views were particularly more dominant towards East Indian conviction on parenting. My cultural expectations were prevalent during my adolescent years which created many intergenerational conflicts. My mother tends to be more removed from the culture of the US. She always wanted to maintain her native ideologies, values, religious beliefs and to maintain a distinct ethnic and
The questionnaire continued for about another ten questions with that I will attach to the end of this paper but as you can tell my relationship with my parents has been a wonderful one and I am very blessed to have an open relationship. My parents let me find out who I was on my own but was there to help me when I needed it, they are the perfect example of good parenting. I still have just as strong relationship with them as I did in high school maybe even better if that is possible. Also I still have a wonderful relationship with my sisters.
I grew up in a large extended family with my brothers, sisters, cousins, aunts, and uncles being a significant part of my life. My parents taught me that family, related or not related, would always be there to support you. They instilled in me that family does not just consist of my blood relatives but the people I invited into my life. They also taught me what it means to be loyal and no matter what your family will always stand beside you. These are the kind of values that I want to instill in my children to become productive members of society. Growing up in a military environment helped shape my moral philosophy of respect for everyone’s culture while still understanding that there are some common principles that should be understood across cultures. My father would always say “Wrong is wrong is wrong no matter how you want to flip that bird.” I never understood that saying until I was older and realize that some things are just inherently wrong. Dealing with racism, challenged me to keep true to my values by allowing me to accept that some people believed that the races should not mix but also recognizing that that particular belief is misguided. Facing people with those types of beliefs was extremely difficult because I was fearful of how they would treat my daughter or my family. With so
When individuals or groups from different cultures communicate, this process is called intercultural communication. The transaction process of listening and responding to people from different cultural backgrounds can be challenging. The greater the difference in culture between two people, the greater the potential of misunderstanding and mistrust. Misunderstanding and miscommunication occur between people from different cultures because of different coding rules and cultural norms, which play a major role in shaping the patterns of interaction (Jandt, 2012).
Effective communication with people of difference cultures can be especially challenging. The way people interpret the world can be strikingly different between cultures. Intercultural communication occurs when a member from one culture produces a message that is absorbed by a member of another culture. How that message is understood by the communicating party is a vital part in intercultural communication. For example, in Cambodia it would be considered rude to discuss business in a social setting (Language, culture, customs and etiquette, n.d.). However, in the United States this is a common practice and is almost an encouraged event. Another important factor and consideration in intercultural communication is the importance of understanding cultures, values, history and beliefs. For instance, in Cambodia, if you deliver a present that is wrapped in white paper, this is considered to represent mourning. This is one of the many reasons why it is important to assimilate into a culture and be mindful of communication between cultures (Language, culture, customs and etiquette, n.d.).
I live in a small town and the word gotten out pretty quickly. I guess a person would say my parents were #goals. The biggest surprise to me was how my church reacted. Everyone constantly asked me if my sister and I was ok. No one really asked my Mom. Everyone mainly went to my Dad. When my Mom got pregnant, during her sophomore year of college, she moved in with my Dad. So my hometown is basically fill up with my Dad side of relatives. So, when my parents announced they are getting a divorced, everyone assumed that my Mom wanted the divorce. However, it was my Dad who wanted the divorced .My Mom really wanted to work it out and go to therapy. My parents kind of put on a front and said it was a mutual decision, but my sister and I really knew it was my Dad that wanted it. A few of my aunts on my Dad side still considered my Mom as family. During this transition, I often stayed with them a few nights until my parents officially moved out and got their own
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According to Hofstede’s (1980), ‘culture is the collective programming of the mind which distinguishes the members of one human group from another… culture in the sense, includes systems of values: and values are among the building blocks of culture.’ It is necessary to determine how culture impacts our communication behavior as culture directly influences our perception and understanding of the message that is transmitted from one party to another. People from different cultures encode and decode messages differently; this therefore increases the chances of misunderstanding. Intercultural communication refers to interactions between people whose cultural assumptions are so different that the communication between them is altered. Verderber, Verderber, & Sellnow, (2010).