Marriage has been an important aspect all over the world for ages. Marriage has been important to society for a variety of reasons. Most People all over the world believe that the traditional family, a father, a mother, and children, are the basic building blocks of society. The children learn to become citizens, learn about relationships, what is expected of them in society, and how to behave by the parents. The traditional idea of marriage is basically one man and one woman in a monogamous and permanent relationship. Western culture marriages are usually based on love and romance but there’s a debate whether love marriages are better than arranged marriages. In other cultures other than the Western culture, arranged marriage is the norm in the society. India is well known for making arranged marriages for young adults in their teen years especially Indian families with wealth and power. The family believes that their child and the suitable mate that they have chosen for their child should be in the same social class and well educated before making the arranged marriage. The United States is known as a country of the free and freedom of speech. The United States believes that we should marry whomever we wish to marry but is that true in the country of freedom?
There no laws that say you have to marry a certain person of not your choice but don’t we still have families and society with expectations. A lot of people from Western culture are concerned about how people perceive them which is why finding a mate that is suitable for them is an issue if your family and society don’t approve of your decision. In many society’s, family believe that marriage too important to be left to the whims of young people. Even in western culture, ...
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...us is also important in India because when a couple get married. Having a spouse with a different religious and belief can destroy the families’ reputation.
When the weddings are planned, both western culture and Indian culture are somewhat different however they are very much alike in some cases. To get the whole family included in the wedding, both cultures arrange proposals. They also arrange proposal so that the couple can get the families approval to determine whether they think you and your partner are compatible for marriage.
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Arranged marriages are typically not practiced in the United States, however, they are still a part of other cultures. While arranged marriages are often seen as a barbaric or outdated practice, they can still be successful. It may not seem important to study arranged marriages since they are not widely practiced in modern America or other western cultures but some benefits of arranged marriages found could be used to lessen the negative image western civilizations have about cultures that continue the practice of arranged marriages. There are definitely drawbacks in the practice of arranged marriage but there are also benefits that are often overlooked.
Marriage is important because it provides law and order and teaches each member of the family discipline. This is seen in the responsibility the parents have to take towards their children to provide for them a happy and secure life. This makes the parents better people and creates a good role model for the kid. Back in high school, the most successful kids where those who had a traditional family. This can be seen at my high school where I observed that the top 10 students ranked based on their GPA. An example to one of these students was the valedictorian whose name was Rachel Koh. Rachel was from a good family and she was extremely successful. She had a 4.7 GPA, ran cross country, and played the violin in many important school concerts. Her parents support in each of those events was her motivator. She would always go to them and hug them after every concert and race as a way of showing gratitude towards them. This great family support gave her a sense of security pushed her to do extremely well in school and in her hobbies since her mind was free from other distractions. Because of this ideological traditional family support, Rachel was admitted into Stanford following her older brothers ' steps. Rachel was a sample of the top students that had good families who represented the 9 Out of the top 10 students born and raised in traditional marriages. Those nine students were all involved
The culture that exists in America is one that is constantly changing to suit the times and the many different types of people that reside in the country. One aspect of American culture that has changed profoundly is the institution of marriage. Marriage began as the undisputed lifestyle for couples willing to make the ultimate commitment to one another. However in less than a century, pointless and destructive alternatives such as premarital cohabitation, have developed to replace marriage.
In the movie, A Monsoon Wedding, the marriage that was about to take place was an arranged marriage. Aditi, a young woman who is still in love with an ex-boyfriend, has agreed to proceed with an arranged marriage, planned by her parents. In the beginning of the movie she states that she is ready to settle down. Her cousin, Ria, finds it “immature” that Aditi is deciding to get married to a man who her parents have chosen for and knows little of. Ria seems to believe that marriage should be based on love. When it comes down to Aditi’s marriage, culture influences why she has decided to get married.
Arranged Marriages in Hinduism and Islam An arranged marriage is planned and arranged by the families of the bride or groom. The bride and the groom are chosen for each other by their parents and families. Arranged marriages have existed for millennia and are still widely practiced among many cultures around the globe. Arranged marriages are carried out differently in different religions and cultures.
In a scene the film Ravi goes to a wedding in India where a family member is being wedded. Ravi asked if he was happily marrying his wife, in love, and not having second doubts, all his family member expressed was no remorse, but it seemed as if it was something casual for him, it was necessary to marry, and that the bride he had chosen was approved from his parents, and the community of Patels. It seemed that throughout the film arrange marriage is viewed as normal in India, they don’t seem to ask their children if they’re happy about being arrangbeds into a marriage, it something that when you come of age you have to do. However in Indians living in America are challenging their parents and their cultures religion of arranged marriage. In America they are looking at the diverse cultures and falling love with people outside their culture, and making work, while others are still in the biodata and probably decided to marry into a Patel or other Indian name, yet still experienced dating other men before deciding. What was weird is that some Indian women don’t date until later in their college years when they are away because of the strict household their parents had and from fear of disappointing their family, and being
Nowadays we live in a world which is full of choices and the choice of the person you would like to merry is one of the most important one. It is really hard to decide whether this person is really “yours” or it is just the illusion. Thus, can it be a better way to have somebody who decides who will you be married to? Some people think it is unfair because person doesn’t have the right of choice but the others think that arranged marriages are a good choice. Free choice marriage is a marriage in which both partners choose each other by themselves and the choice is based on factors such as physical attraction, the desire for emotional stability, love, similar outlooks, personalities, interests etc. However this is not the only way to choose. In arranges marriages the partner is selected by elder family members but the young people may have the right to veto the choice if they strongly disagree with it. There are definitely pros and cons of both and only after taking them into consideration person can decide which to choose: arranged or free choice marriage.
The article begins by introducing general knowledge about arranged marriages in India. First is the proof of commonality. Arranged marriages are so customary that marriages not arranged
One of the main arguments for arranged marriages is that parents, being older and more experienced, are better able to find a suitable match for their children. This belief relies on the trust the offspring has that their parents understand what would be best choice or most suitable for their children. This trust is often discouraged by the individualist ideal and rebel teen mentality sponsored by American mass-media. However, in India trust between parent and child are common. When Nanda tried helping arrange a marriage, we see that parents in India weigh many considerations when choosing partners for their children including the statuses of the individuals (including their caste and career path), the social dynamics between the members of both households, and what resources the other family and potential partner have. At least in the case given in the reading, this process can be though and produce a good marriage with stable family ties. Another argument made for arranged marriage is that since the parents are handling the marriage, the children are free to enjoy life and not worry about the details. To a lesser degree in our country, people delegate part of the relationship forming process to others by allowing friends, family, and dating sites or shows to play matchmaker. Though in general, in America the person who would be in the relationship is more involved, and has to worry about handling some of the details. In India, culture is more dependent on family structure so marriage is just as much about forming ties between families as the couple itself, which is part of the reason why the family is so involved in these
Schwartz, M.A. and Scott, B.M., Marriages and Families: Diversity and Change Third Edition. 2000. Prentice Hall: 116-121.
Traditional arranged marriages were arranged by the parents. They arranged the child's future spouse with little or no input from the child being taken as having final authority ("Arranged marriage"). If the child refuses the choice of their parents, the parents may choose another possible spouse or the child may be punished or disowned (or in rare cases, killed accidentally in the heat of passion or intentionally with legal authority to do so). In traditional arranged marriages, the child had no real input in the wedding. They have no say in who they will marry.
Marriage is a “socially recognized and approved union between individuals, who commit to one another with the expectations of a stable and lasting intimate relationship. It begins with a ceremony known as a wedding which formally unites marriage partners. A marital relationship usually involves some kind of contract, either written or specified by tradition, which defines the partners’ rights and obligations to each other, to any children they may have, and to their relatives. In most contemporary industrialized societies, marriage is certified by the government,” (Skolnick, 2005). Marriage is also an important institution because of the impact it has on society. Marriage is the main way that reproduction of human life occurs. In some societies it is tradition for family heirlooms or things of value be passed on through marriage. Marriage also serves as a healthy way to have intimate relationships with an individual. In most places a marriage exists between two people of the opposite sex. However, the legal definition of marriage is currently being challenged by many. According to Skolnick’s article a marriage can be defined by responsibilities that a couple would share, some examples are: living together, having sexual relations, sharing money and financial responsibilities, and having a child together. The issue is that homosexual couples can do these things like heterosexual couples.
Arranged marriage is much more effortless and like a short cut of love because the tedious and intricate process of maintaining the relationship and dating is omitted and they are under the influence of the same culture, share the same religious conviction and grow up in a similar social class. Individuals incline to an unvarnished and easeful lifestyle and the marriage does not occupy as the same ratio of life as five to ten years ago. On the one hand, boys may save the money which is used on dating because they do not need to buy too many things that pleased the girl. Moreover, in several circumstances, a date or a courtship is quite embarrassing and time-consuming especially for the adults who were forced to have a date under the pressure of their parents even from their grandparents. On the other hand, the spouse can cut down on the daily expense because their children will be nursed by their parents rather than babysitters and their children can live in a warm environment and a harmony atmosphere and feel more comfortable without strangers. Arranged marriages, according to the marriage experience of the parents and the marriage agency, alw...
Arranged marriage in India is the traditional and well respected way of getting married. Majority of the elderly were married through someone, some not even being able to see each other till after the wedding ceremony. Now a day families are a bit more lenient about getting the approvals of both bride and groom before setting a wedding a day. In some parts of India, arrange marriages are still a business transaction or marrying of little children due to poverty. Arranged marriages are still very common in royalties and high caste people to practice maintaining their status.
One of the ceremonies that starts the beginning of the wedding festivities is the engagement ceremony, this is called the sagai ceremony or ring ceremony. This ceremony is also called Mangni in the northern region of India. In other cultures, the exchanging of rings is done during the wedding ceremony, during Indian weddings, this is an event on it’s own. During this ceremony, the couple exchange gold rings, a sign of betrothal.The future-bride and groom are also given various gifts from their future in-laws. The families also decided on the time of the wedding based on horoscopes, this is called a muhurat. This is considered a small event during the wedding process in India. The time between the ring ceremony and the wedding is a time for the families to