Introduction
Pornography has been a widely debated topic for years because of the unrealistic pressure and expectations that it puts on its viewers. An advice column written by Logan Hill, titled “My boyfriend’s porn makes me feel inadequate”, (2013) will be the focus of this critique. The advice given in this column is centered around the idea that porn should not make you jealous or any less self-confident because you are real and your partner would much rather be with you. The purpose of this paper is to support as well as refute the advice provided by Hill (2013) using course material and empirical research.
Textbook Support – Concept 1
The first concept that will be used to support the advice from the column will be romantic jealousy. “Romantic jealousy is a complex of thoughts, emotions, and actions that follows loss or threat to self-esteem and/or the existence or quality of the romantic relationship” (White, Martin, & Bartolic, 2013, p.303-304). The loss or threat is created by the perception of a real or potentially romantic attraction between one’s partner and a (perhaps imaginary) rival. This form of jealousy relates to the advice column since the person who received the advice is jealous of her boyfriend’s porn because it makes her feel self-conscious and less desirable. The concept of romantic jealousy coincides with the advice given because it explains how a rival generates the feeling of jealousy, this rival does not have to be a person, and it could be something as simple and as pornography.
This form of jealousy helps support the relationship advice because the advice from the columnist that was given to the woman explains how she should not compare herself to anyone else and that she is a real person who is able...
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.... In addition to this, relationships are complicated and sometimes very fragile. In order to maintain a healthy relationship it is important to communicate and express to your partner any problems that you are having and come to an agreed upon solution. Additional advice that could be given to the woman seeking advice could be to sit down with her boyfriend and actually have a mutual discussion about his use of pornography and explain to him that it is bothering her and she is having feelings of inadequacy. For example, she may be concerned that he would rather watch porn than be with her. If she clearly expressed how she was feeling, the hope would be that her boyfriend would most likely validate her feelings, comfort her and let her know that he would rather be with her. He might even agree to decrease or stop using pornography altogether through their discussion.
To sufficiently take a side in the ever-growing debate of pornography, one must first define the concept around which this discourse surrounds itself. A working definition for pornography is a piece of material that has the object purpose of arousing erotic feelings. Radical feminists, however, strictly define it as “the act of sexual subordination of women” (Dworkin 1986).
universal theme is that jealously is bad you should not act or even entertain your inner
Jealousy is an emotional state that erupts when a valued relationship is being threatened (Buss et al., 1992). Men and women both express jealousy tendencies when they feel their romantic relationships are being threatened. Many researchers have studied sex differences in romantic jealousy to investigate at what particular time do men and women feel the most distressed or jealous. For instance, Bus et al. (1992) and Harris and Christenfeld (1996), found that men feel more distressed when they think their romantic partner is engaging in sexual infidelity, whereas women feel more distressed when they think their romantic partner is emotionally attached to someone else. These findings may be very insightful and useful to many of us who experience jealousy episodes; but importantly, it will allow us to investigate the validity of the evolutionary theory that is used to explain most sex differences. In the following paragraphs, I will describe the evolutionary theory that explains sex differences in jealousy and four related empirical studies. Lastly, I will
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When it comes to relationships there are many things that need to be present in order for it to work out. You must have support from both sides and honesty is also a big factor. When pornography enters a relationship it can be destroyed and could possible ruin that relationship forever. This essay will be able to inform you of all the ways that pornography can and does ruin relationships. Support for this argument will be drawn from the following sources: Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, Love, Sex, and Health, and The Question of Pornography.
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Behavioral jealousy are actions that occur between an individual who is experiencing envious thoughts and how they internalize and react to the stimuli. Pfeiffer and Wong (1989) “conceptualize jealous behaviors as the detective/protective measures a person takes when relationship rivals (real or imaginary) are perceived. Detective actions include questioning, checking up on the partner, and searching the partner’s belongings” (p.183). Research suggests that behavioral jealousy is used to maintain relationships. Relationship maintenance refers to either positive or negative behaviors that occur between two individuals in order to maintain a healthy communicative balance.
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Fisher, William, and Azy Barak. “Internet Pornography: A Social Psychological Perspective On Internet Sexuality.” Journal of Sex Research. 38.4 (Nov. 2001): 312-24.
It is difficult to define a porn-addict without laying down boundaries that have been previously forbidden, so this paper will use the simple definition of “one who views pornography on a regular basis, and either suffers from or regrets his or her actions.